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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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July Bus

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Writerwannabe83 · 07/06/2016 10:54

Hi all, I'm starting the July Bus so that we can all cheer each other along even in the very early stages!!

I'm here following the arrival of my AF yesterday so I will now be hoping to get my BFP in July.

My stats: 32, TTC#2, Cycle 2 and CD2.

I've just realised how many number 2's there are in my stats Grin

My cycles aren't too regular following a Mirena removal and a miscarriage earlier this year but I am expecting my FW to start around the 20th of June.

Looking forward to having lots of passengers on this bus followed by lots of us getting our BFPs Grin

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TryingToStayRational · 21/06/2016 10:44

Lelly you don't need to do it every day (unless you want to of course) - every other day should be enough really. Doesn't sound like you've missed it. Are you checking CM or are you not into doing that? Hope you fit in a few BDs this week Smile

babydances · 21/06/2016 10:29

I'm now on cd49! I've now given up for this month. Got a bfn.
Have my allergy test this week for anaesthetic to get my 10 month out of date implant out and I'm guessing this is why this cycle has been so strange. I've been spotting brown for over a week. Get my implant out on the 4th July fingers crossed and then I can start again with ttc!! Angry

Lelly0503 · 21/06/2016 09:39

Hi Laura, I used to use Ovia found it a bit confusing, if you still have EWCM I would keep BDing just in case cx

Laura05 · 21/06/2016 09:38

Is anyone using ovia? It changed my fertile window due so according to it I'm now on day two of the tww but I still have ewcm? Before it changed it it had my fertile window until tomorrow so I'm a tad bit confused??

Lelly0503 · 21/06/2016 08:35

Hi everyone, I'm on day 2 of my fertile window, my clue app says ovulation Thursday. I did an OPK last night it was negative. We last BD Saturday, need to try BD every day now until Friday. Worried iv missed the window X

Butterpuff · 21/06/2016 08:14

Hi Vanilla, welcome and f2f!

I can't join in the car debate, we just have fish! Sorry things are complicated again writer.

How are things going for everyone. I don't chart at all but based on cycle length alone my app suggests that my fw starts tomorrow. We are pretty relaxed this month going for everyone 2-3 days and see what happens. Twot only a week away. Seems to have gone quick! Maybe because we have been so busy.

BertieBotts · 21/06/2016 06:57

Yes I got a cat lat time when DS was 5 months old. Looking back that was a terrible decision but it was more to do with my ex than DS. But was too many new things at once for sure.

Laura05 · 20/06/2016 22:32

We got a kitten when my DD was 2 and she settled in really well. She loves my DS but not sure if that's because she was here first or because he doesn't annoy her lol x

Vanillaradio · 20/06/2016 20:19

Hello, can I jump on the bus too
Age 39
Ttc #2
Cycle 1 day 2
Etd 16th July

Was hoping to start ttc a little earlier this year but due to a couple of health problems and being hospitalised twice (once with my diabetes playing up once with cellulitis) we have delayed until now. Was lucky enough to get pregnant with ds ( now 2 and a half) the first month of trying but i'm 3 years older now and guessing it won't be so easy this time.

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Writerwannabe83 · 20/06/2016 19:20

I definitely think chances of a harmonious relationship between feline and baby are better when cats are introduced into a home where there are already children Smile

I'd had cats my whole life (from the age of 5) until I moved in with my now DH when I was 27. The house felt so lonely, weird and empty without any cats around so after 12 months of nagging at him he finally relented and let me have some Grin

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BertieBotts · 20/06/2016 18:53

Ah fair enough. We do already have DS though so perhaps it would be different? Though saying that my mum had two cats when I was born and they never liked me or my sister. The younger one was more friendly. We have been wanting pets since we moved here. It just doesn't feel like home without them.

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Writerwannabe83 · 20/06/2016 10:03

bertiebotts - I had two cats for 3 years before DS came along and they really, really struggled to adapt to him being in 'their home' and their stress levels went though the roof. They started scratching at the carpets and furniture, urinating around the house and spent all their time hiding under a unit upstairs because they were scared to be around DS. They were frequently getting stress induced cystitis too.

I spent fortune trying to do anything I could to ease their stress (probably about £500+ over 12 months) but sadly after 18 months I had to rehome them because they were so unhappy.

This isn't the case for everyone, I know some cats who have adapted to new babies with absolutely no problems, but I just wanted to share my story to highlight that kittens and future babies are not always a good mix Sad

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TryingToStayRational · 20/06/2016 09:53

Awww Writer sounds like a stressful time for you at the moment, hope you soon feel better about things and you can have a good chat with your DH about it all. All my friends who have more than one DC have told me they had many "argh, what have I done?!" moments when pregnant and dealing with a toddler as well, so I'm sure you're not alone in feeling worried. They all got through it though and I'm sure if you decide it is what you want then you will too Flowers

BertieBotts · 20/06/2016 09:43

Wow Writer!

We are trying to book a holiday for mid August. I've just looked ahead to see I'll either be on my period or pregnant or JUST finding out I'm pregnant on the holiday Confused That will be interesting then!

I think we're going to look at adopting a cat. DH and I are both feeling like we need a "baby" right now and we have been talking about getting a pet for ages. He really wants a dog but I don't want to get a dog at the same time as having a baby.

Laura05 · 20/06/2016 09:42

Oh dear God! Someone needs to buy that woman a tv! Grin

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Writerwannabe83 · 20/06/2016 09:29

I met a woman at work yesterday who had a 2yr old, a 10 month old and an 8 day old baby Shock Now that is crazy.

I also met a woman who has 7 children (ranging from 12yrs old down to 4yrs) and is now 32 weeks pregnant with twins Shock

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Laura05 · 20/06/2016 09:25

Aw hun. I have a 3year gap between mine. It actually worked out really well as DD started nursery a couple of months before DS was born so I had a few hours every day where it was just me and DS so I could get a quick sleep when he slept and got some one on one bonding time.

My sil is expecting again and dc will be here just before her DD 2nd birthday. I think she's crazy haha! But she does have her parents on hands 24/7 if she needs them.

Only you and DH can decide what's best for your family but I can guarantee that no matter how much of a gap there is, you'll cope no problem Smile

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Writerwannabe83 · 20/06/2016 09:15

Seriously though laura - I've gone right off the idea of having another Confused

I'm permanently exhausted and stressed by DS that the thought of dealing with pregnancy and then another baby on top of the current nightmare that is my toddler makes me feel a little sick...

When we had DS we always said we'd stick at one, but when he was about 15m old I began to get broody. We discussed the practicalities of having a second and we kind of agreed we would wait until DS was about 4yrs old as a bigger age gap would be easier to manage. However, a few months after that I started to feel like I didn't want to wait and it then took me about 6m to convince my DH to TTC for DC2 now instead.

I honestly don't think I could cope with another one and am going back to thinking that having a bigger age gap would be preferable. My toddler is such hard work, he drains me and I don't think I have the emotional strength to cope with another.

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Laura05 · 20/06/2016 09:00

Aww writer he'll just be crabbit after the op. Just relax this month and get geared up for next month Flowers

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Writerwannabe83 · 20/06/2016 07:56

My FW starts today and I've been having EWCM for the past 2-3 days.

DH is 100% out of action though after his operation, DTD is absolutely off the agenda.

Mind you, my DS is being so, so difficult at the moment that the thought of having another isn't appealing and so I'm not too fussed about missing this month.

Good luck to everyone this month and to anyone who ends up on the August Bus I shall see you there Flowers

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Laura05 · 19/06/2016 22:54

Ah well guess I'm definitely out for this cycle Sad

DH complained of a headache and has fallen asleep on the couch! it's not that when I have a bloody headache! Inconsiderate sod

I've had more ewcm (only when wiping) and have a dull ache/cramp just now on my right side so think tomorrow evening will be too late Sad

So I'm rather pee'd off and have just left dh on the couch lol

Wibblewobble100 · 19/06/2016 22:30

Hi folks, I've been away for a week or so while AF visited. However now back! CD 11, coming up to FW, so far managed to dTD cd 8,10 and 11.... Hoping to continue every other day through to the end of fertile week. This is cycle 6 but for the last 3 months either DH or I have been away for 2-3 days just at the crucial point. I will be gutted if we,re not successful this month as I really feel we've done everything we can.... I just have to remember 25% chance..... Good to luck everyone. Sorry to here about those whom fate is conspiring against.... So frustrating.

Pyjamas81 · 19/06/2016 21:53

Whoops DH is 41 Grin

Pyjamas81 · 19/06/2016 21:53

Hope there's room for one more?

Age - 35
DH - 42
TTC #1
Cycle 1
CD6

Just came off a couple of months of the pill and had Nexplanon implant for 3 years before that so still figuring out what my cycles are. Had real AF 32 days after withdrawal bleed and am going to start OPK testing with the CB dual hormone digital in a couple of days to try and figure out when I ovulate! Have used the cheapie ones - but doing it during the day is too much hassle!

Looking forward to chatting with you all Smile

LilySnape · 19/06/2016 21:00

Can i join this bus the June bus seems to have ended now
Age 23
CD19
10 Days till BFP is due even though i feel sick as a dog yet ravenous at the same time right now Confused

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