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Trying to conceive for 10 months or more. Thread 5. All ten plussers welcome.

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lucieloos · 02/06/2016 13:59

Thread for anyone TTC for over ten months. Please feel free to join us!

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sk1pper · 09/08/2016 11:23

Sammy huge congratulations - what fantastic news!!! I'm beaming and i don't even know you :)

MPP81 · 09/08/2016 11:14

Oh my god, Sammy that is amazing news!! I have goosebumps!! Massive congratulations to you!!! xxx

maplebaby · 09/08/2016 10:59

Oh my goodness sammy identical twins!! Congratulations!!

Pikz · 09/08/2016 10:51

Omg!!! Sammy so so so excited for you

MrsRen · 09/08/2016 10:46

Amazing news Sammy! That totally made me well up :-)

Twins - how lovely! I'm so chuffed for you and your DH Xx

lucieloos · 09/08/2016 10:26

Omg Sammy!!!! That's amazing news!! What a shock that must have been. You must be absolutely over the moon. Congratulations lovely I'm so happy for you.

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loopylou1984 · 09/08/2016 10:25

We have 2 heart beats! 1 embryo didn't make it, but the other one split so we have identicals. Measuring 7+3 and 7+1 (I'm actually 7+4 so not too far out). Can't believe it, I'm so used to bad news that I just thought it would be the same today.

loopylou1984 · 09/08/2016 10:25

We have 2 heart beats! 1 embryo didn't make it, but the other one split so we have identicals. Measuring 7+3 and 7+1 (I'm actually 7+4 so not too far out). Can't believe it, I'm so used to bad news that I just thought it would be the same today.

maplebaby · 09/08/2016 09:14

Thinking of you sammy!

Itsme247 · 09/08/2016 07:03

Just calling in to check up - loads happening on the thread MPP and Lucie I've got everything crossed - and for everyone else waiting on results. Sammy scan date has come around so soon! x

lucieloos · 08/08/2016 22:35

MPP, yes it will be no problem to ring the embryo line between 12-1pm tomorrow and they will be able to tell you what happened. They told me the report would take about 10 days so you could be waiting a while otherwise! That's good news that your frer was negative this evening you should be in the clear! I normally test at 6 or 7dpt (well normally i start earlier than that as I'm a poas addict) but by 7dpt you should have a pretty accurate answer with a frer. No way could I wait until OTD waaaayy too long!

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maplebaby · 08/08/2016 22:19

Skipper I'm sure you've looked it up by now but they basically open you up with a speculum (like a smear) then pass a tube / catheter through your cervix and squirt in the washed sperm! It was quite uncomfortable and the nurse said she found my cervix easily but felt like she was having a good old rummage up there for ages!! Hmm I'm sorry the GP was crap - I agree with others to go ahead with the tests if you have the spare cash.

I echo the 12 month mark comment - it is tough - I found 18 month hard too (which was this month).

Mrsren my DH had to do a second analysis too as he had low morphology in the first one.

Sammy good luck for tomorrow! We'll all be thinking of you.

I have mixed feelings about the insemination MPP - although it feels good that I managed to get it done and it feels like I'm doing something this cycle, the negative side of me (which is dominant especially when it comes to TTC!!) can't help but think it was a waste of time if my lining is pants. I wish they scanned me so I could see where it was at today.

Glad to hear you aren't powering any planes today! I would feel the same if I was testing out a trigger and didn't get a line - bloody stark white window staring back - story of my life!!

MPP81 · 08/08/2016 22:01

Maple, fantastic news on the insemination!! IIt must be a relief to have had it gone ahead, and I have absolutely everything crossed for you. Haha, I am less windy today, but it hasnt gone away completely. Maybe more drone-powering than plane-powering at the moment!

Lucie, I didn't think of ringing the embryo line, and I have only just seen your message. Do you think they will still be able to give me the info if I phone them tomorrow? I actually bought two packs of frers today, and I tested this afternoon after about a 4 hour hold. The window stayed brilliant white. I was actually a bit disappointed. I cant even get a second line when testing for a trigger! I'll try again tomorrow with fmu, but I think its probably safe to say its out of my system? Annoying for you about the double dose of ovitrelle. What day do you usually test after transfer? They gave me 20th August as OTD and that seems like a very long way away.

Hi Chops. You dont know me, but before I actually started posting I did rather alot of stalking and you are one of the people I feel like I 'know'. Hope you are ok, and your LO is doing well :-)

Skipper, I'm sorry your appointment didnt go so well. I am of the same opinion as Lucie. When we first went to our GP, he was very nice and started tests right away (though I did exaggerate how long we had ttc a bit!). I'm glad he did, because DH's SA came back as very low count of under 2 million. Without knowing that, we could have tried for ages and not gotten anywhere, so at least we were put on the right road rather quickly. Saved us rather alot of heartache in my opinion. As Sammy said, knowledge is power. Also, where we are there is a 12-18 month wait for the NHS fertility clinic, so if its like that where you are, it might be good to be referred as soon as possible if they find any issues. The 12 month mark is definitely a difficult one but you are in the right place, and we're always up for supporting anyone who's feeling a bit shit-losing :-)

MrsRen, my DH had a repeat test too. He'd been on fertilaid for 3 months in between, but while his numbers did increase, his motility decreased. I think he had 3 altogether and they were all about the same. I did aloot of googling at the time, and there are so many factors that can influence sperm so they probably just want to double check. Always good to have next steps sorted though. I hope all the other tests go well.

Sammy, massive amounts of good luck for tomorrow. Im sure its nerve wracking, but I also think it will be fine. I'll be thinking of you. Very pleased you're not planning to leave us! Like Lucie said, it would be strange without you here!! Thank you for your comments. This evening I am back on 'of course it hasnt worked' but I hope I will be more hopeful again tomorrow.

Brenna, I think I read somewhere that exercise can affect the cycle. Perhaps its just that. Are you tracking/temping? I hope you enjoyed your swim!

lucieloos · 08/08/2016 21:05

Aww great thanks Sammy. Would be strange without you here. I know how scary the scans are but I really do think you will be ok. Blood is scary too but brown is normal and you will probably get it from time to time. You are going to be fine and at least it would all be over with early tomorrow.

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Brenna24 · 08/08/2016 20:40

Best of luck for tomorrow Sammy.

Sk1pper I am having tests for recurrent miscarriage. It is quite a lot less stressful to be doing something about it and that we may or may not know what is going on. We are on blood tests and SA too. I'd say go for the tests. Have a hug for the one year. That was a hard point for me too, especially as it was just 3 weeks after my first due date.

Swimming this evening for me. I seem to be ovulating late this month. I am worried this is because I am too tired from all the extra going on.

loopylou1984 · 08/08/2016 20:31

Thanks Lucie, it's at 9.15. I'm so scared! I had a little bit more brown blood yesterday which hasn't helped the fear. Of course I'll come and let you know, I'm not ready to leave you guys, and won't be until we all graduate!

Mrsren - glad you got a good result from your doctor, my DH had to have a repeat test. We had low morphology (3%) in first test and it was up to 7% in the most recent. It really can change!

Maple - congratulations on being inseminated!

Chops - thank you for stopping by! Hope baby chops is ok? He must be not quite such a baby now?

MPP - those thoughts are completely normal, I swung wildly between hope and complete certainty that it had failed every time.

Waves to everyone else! Xx

lucieloos · 08/08/2016 20:18

Hey Sammy! Good luck for your scan tomorrow eeekk! I will be thinking of you but I really think everything will be ok. What time is it? Can you come and tell us the good news afterwards? Smile

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loopylou1984 · 08/08/2016 20:08

Evening ladies, I haven't read back yet, but just wanted to say this to sk1pper:

Don't feel silly. The 12 month mark is tough. I remember crying to the ladies on this thread back then (most of whom have graduated now) about how I didn't want our baby to be created this way, I wanted it to be natural. I too was terrified of all tests, and almost didn't want to know. Now I know, knowledge is power, you can't know too much.

I'm with Lucie, get the tests done.

lucieloos · 08/08/2016 20:01

I don't think it will be more stressful to have the tests. They are only a few simple blood tests and an SA for your DH. They will either come back and show everything is ok and then you are good to carry on for another 6 months or they might indicate a problem and then at least you know about it before wasting another 6 months and you can think about the next step. That's what I would do anyway.

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sk1pper · 08/08/2016 19:49

Lucie - I don't have any gut feeling that anything is wrong. I'm weighing up whether it will be more stressful to have the tests done or not. I feel really silly right now, so many inspiring women on here having all sorts of treatment after TTC for many years and here I am at 12 months loosing my shit.

MrsRen - glad to hear you are having more success with your appointments, hopefully your results are clear and you can just focus on DTD with some confidence. ;) keep me updated, I'm really interested in the process and the tests they run for you. I'm not going to take it further myself right now but in 6 months I may have tests done privately through my work health insurance.

MrsRen · 08/08/2016 18:41

Hi Skipper,

Might be worth trying another doctor as that one doesn't sound very sympathetic or helpful at all. All I've read including NHS stuff says you should go to your GP after a year if you are under 35.

I've also had my docs appointment, DH got called away with work this week so I had to go on my own. Before this though DH rang for his SA and the doc he spoke to said that out of the 4 areas tested he was at the lower end of normal on 2 areas but not to worry and they should continue testing me.... However the doc I saw today completely disagrees and has given me another pot for DH to do another sample. Says they need to do more than one sample before they rule out a sperm issue.

So we wait for another SA to come back and then they will look at my tubes and give us a referral but we probably wouldn't be eligible for any fertility treatment until we have been TTC for two years.

We are both ok with that, just want to make sure we have both had all the tests possible so we don't waste the next 10months of trying!

Hope everyone else is ok and there is lots of implantation going on and lots of lovely eggs growing! :-)

lucieloos · 08/08/2016 18:38

Skipper, you are young so you could wait another 6 months or so if you are happy with that and see if it happens. For me I arranged private blood tests etc after 6 months ttc as I had a feeling something wasn't right and I wanted to check everything out before potentially wasting another 6 months. I'm glad we did it that way but have a chat with your DH and see what you think is best. The majority of people will conceive within 12 months with another small percentage conceiving in the following 6 months after that. When I went to the gp I added an extra 6 months onto the time we had been ttc as I know they are funny about these things.

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sk1pper · 08/08/2016 18:18

Had my first appointment with the GP. Didn't go as planned really. Doctor seemed to think there was nothing to worry about, happy with our weights and ages and strongly suggested not to go ahead with tests as they can stress people out. Wants me to go back in 6-12 months, or if I'm really worried to rebook an appointment with my DH attending. All in all, just a typical "come back in x number of days" response. DH found it hilarious as he doesn't rate NHS GPs at all and he told me yesterday that this would happen. I'm not sure how to feel about it, should I wait another year? The doctor seemed certain I'd conceive naturally, I just need to be patient and relax.

lucieloos · 08/08/2016 16:56

Hey chops thanks for popping by! Hope all is well with you.

Skipper, great news your appt has been brought forward. It's nothing to worry about they will probably just take a history and arrange for blood tests etc. Let us know how you get on.

Maple, yay for insemination! Definitely quality over quantity and at least you are in with a chance now. Fingers crossed for you.

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sk1pper · 08/08/2016 16:35

Thanks maple x

What's the process for insemination? Was it unpleasant? Sorry total noob, I could google it but I'm at work :D

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