First time TTC - thread 2

cinnamon I have been avoiding opks and bbt for exactly the same reason, thinking about going for it next month though if this month doesn't work, although I think I have a pretty good idea of ovulation days so far but it would be nice to have a bit of confirmation :)

cinammon if you aren't sure when you ovulate then opks may be your best bet? Temping on,y shows after the fact so it would take at least a month to get an idea. But opks show before during and after highest peak - maybe limit yourself to only using them during your fw if worried about getting too much?

But then again if you know you'll take it too far maybe just try and ignore it and see what happens? If in a few months no dice then start? Only you know how well you will cope with things like the fact I know I'll become overly stressed if I don't do opks because I neeeeeeeeeeeed to know what going on lol (something I need to work on )

Still no sign of anything for me. Got all the pms symptoms but no show yet boo I really wish it'd get a move on so can start c1 properly

Hello how's everyone doing? Anyone testing?

I'm 13 DPO and fairly sure it is soon to be turning into day 1 of cycle 7

Jjspoon I use Clue to track my expected period date - it's always correct, at most +/- 1 day off with AF prediction date, whereas Ovia/Glow/Fertility Friend seem to change the date according to the data I feed in, making it rarely correct. I've been using OPKs for the past two months and found that relying on Ovia to track my fertile window was probably silly, as my peak fertility has been almost a whole week before when Ovia says it is!!!

I use Ovia for the little articles, as well as the daily insights. I use FF for the graph that helps me visualise my BBT and ovulation spikes/dips. And Glow... I'm still unsure about.

Thanks gem, am crossing fingers and going with the flow (metaphorically and literally).

Jjspoon I just googled apps to help with conception, and that was the best rated one that came up. I track bbt on it, as well as other things. It's helped me get used to my cycle again, after spending such a long time on hormone based contraceptives, and helped me identify when my fertile window should be as well. I'm sure all the apps do the same thing

Woah this thread is getting busy! Today was the first day when I've been kind of 'right we need to dtd, it's that time'.. as soon as I got home from work! It was a bit awkward and forced for about 1 minute but got in to it quickly enough haha. I'm trying not to think about it too much though and will relax again now (though hopefully squeeze another one in friday/Saturday!).

Everyone seems to be using ovia, I'd never heard of it until on here a few weeks ago. I'm using clue and I think the only thing different is that ovia tracks temps and clue doesn't. Out of interest is everyone using it tracking temps? If not, why did you choose ovia?

I can't offer specifically as DH doesn't have a problem with this (unless drunk ) but in terms of relaxing and getting in the mood I find a sexy playlist of music helps, as does DTD at different times of day - eg Saturday lunchtime or as soon as I get in from work. Just varies things up a bit - plus if we wait until we go to bed there's more expectation somehow and also the pressure that if you don't do it there and then then it's another day you haven't done it.

Ok figured out why dtd not going so well. Hubby having a bit of "performance anxiety" as I've learnt dadsnet call it. I'm not even telling him all the stuff I'm reading or doing, just keeping that in my little world. Anybody else experienced this? I feel awful and want to help pun not intended but no idea what to do.

Lemon absolutely, everyone is different so whatever approach suits you. If you know your fertile signs ie the right cm then you don't really need opks.

I personally feel reassured seeing a positive OPK and knowing my body is making luteinising hormone and thus hopefully releasing an egg. For me though temping is too much, and not something I'm considering at all.

Ovia scares the crap out of me I downloaded it but it wants so much info I deleted it again!

Don't have OPKs either gonna just get on with business without them and see what happens. I'll give it 6 months if I can and if nada at that point I'll reconsider.

Trying to stay chilled!

Hi mishy hope your cycle gets back on track soon

Hello lemon

Busy time slows down I swear when you are trying. Agree with you on knowledge is power. I would be more stressed without my opks I'm sure

Imavino bless your oh. Mine asks tentatively how are you... When it's coming up to test date. I'm like NOTHING! Period is coming!! Like a hormonal loon. Poor lad

Hi busy! Some days I'm okay with the "relax" line, other days I'm a bit tetchy to say the least! Depends on where I am in my cycle/whether I've had a bad day at work. Also, in the last year, 5 people I know have conceived. I keep worrying I'm in the reproductive slow lane! I hope things are going okay for you, it's good to vent!

Hi mishy! You sound in a very similar situation to a few of us on here. Are you getting sick of the be relaxed and enjoy it line? I'm going to scream if someone says it again. I am relaxed but that doesn't mean I have to ignore how my body works.

Sorry pent up frustration tonight lol.

Hello everyone, can I please join in? I'm very new here, and very much looking for moral support! A quick summary:

Age: 28
TTC #1
Cycle 2
Cd 3

I've been on various contraceptives for 10 years, came off at the end of April, had first pill free cycle over May. I've been using OPKs to monitor ovulation, and nothings happening yet. I'm hoping everything gets "back to normal" soon, but will keep trying in the menatime! I'm using Ovia to track my cycle and fertile days, and trying to stay as healthy and relaxed as possible! I hope everyone is doing well, and look forward to getting to know you all!

Welcome ima, power and lemon
Thanks suchajem and busynothings - I'll sure have a cocktail for each of you!
Hopefully I'll be about cd6-7 on my return and raring to go in FW
busynothings haha, I'm addicted to my bbt thermometer, it's even coming on holiday, I take bbt at least 10 times a day but only record the first one as soon as I wake up

I just started with the bbt busy - finding it really interesting! My temp dropped yesterday and lo and behold, today AF arrived. Finding it all really fascinating in a borderline geeky way ha ha

Hi Lemon! Think my DH has been keen for a while but wanted to wait until we were married - and he knew I'd freak out - I've taken a bit of convincing lol

Sucha Lord knows how to achieve "unstressed" status! ;) All I can think about is timing dtd right and planning this that and the other for when it actually happens!

I can't help but POAS atm. I'm terrible at waiting for things! Day before AF arrives I'm getting all itchy and imagining symptoms! It's ridiculous and even DP had started jumping on the bandwagon! ;) Excited isn't even the word around here haha!

Hi lemon! Welcome to the wagon =]

My bbt has just arrived so I now have a new toy to play with. I know everyone says relax! But that's just stresses me out more. I'm much more chilled when I can focus on something and work out how it works.

No sign of AF for me. I keep telling myself only in the 3rd week since sticky out but it feels much longer. Grr

pj I also like to poas to understand how it works lol. I'm sure my pee sticks are broken.

Hi ladies id love to join in too! I'm 33 and only starting officially TTC since last month. Then was ridiculously disappointed that I'm not the fertile animal I assumed I was and didn't get a BFP first try lol

For the ladies whose DP/DH's are mad keen - I could've written your posts! My lovely DH has been wanting kids for the past 6 years and I've totally held him off. Ive enjoyed my carefree lifestyle of nights out and holidays, and career, plus I wanted to get married first (only because I wanted to have a fabulous wedding/honeymoon without worrying about baby weight or babysitters!!!!). I feel I can't put it off much longer but have slowly come around to the idea over the course of 2 years.

Have told 2 of my friends who have kids that I came off the pill and now wish I hadn't - they keep making comments and watching me like a hawk when we meet up to see what I'm eating/drinking for clues

Also on the mums - both our mums are gagging for a grandchild, I think they are despairing of us (me) now, I don't want to tell them we are TTC as I think it'll be a lovely surprise (relief!) if we spring some good news on them once we get a BFP!!!

Ha ha - I like the drama too - I POAS for no reason at all other than to figure out how it works!

PJ my mum conceived 4 times barely trying it seems; she was accidentally pregnant on their wedding day! If only it was going to smoothly for me..

Not sure about testing. I have no hope at all this cycle really but perverse part of me still wants to POAS. Just enjoy the drama! Will probably wait for AF now and not bother.

Hello power I've been trying since the beginning of the year too. Didn't imagine I would still be trying 6 months in! The waiting is awful isn't it.

Hi imavino your Aunt is no doubt right but the question is - how do you achieve this??!! I find the longer we try the more stressed I get