First time TTC - thread 2

Thanks busy. The midwife said don't assume the worst it might be OK... but I know it's not. It's really heavy so I don't see how it could have survived that much bleeding and also I don't feel pregnant. I didn't really have any symptoms to start with and was worrying if something was wrong and then last sat/sun I started to feel queasy and thought this is it kicking in! But then by Monday I felt fine again so maybe it's been a few days coming :(. I did a cb earlier and got pregnant 1-2 weeks so that pretty much confirmed it and now I'm prepared for what they're going to say tomorrow.

jj I'm really sorry that sounds awful. Do they think it's definitely a mc or could it be a bleed? Sending and un-Mumsnetty hugs your way

See pj that makes me wonder if I should be doing opks more regularly rather than waiting. Esp as this is my first proper cycle. I have like 100 of them bought from Amazon so not going to run out soon. Also every other day is not to be sniffed at! Lol I think one of my friends put it brilliantly (and lightheartedly)by saying if you can manage it more than that you aren't doing it right lol. So you've had 5 days of smiley face but ovia reckons Tuesday? That's probably about right a week isn't it?

Eva sorry for the late reply but yes I had mild cramps and definately felt like af was about to turn up (I tested on 13dpo and got bfp).

On another note sorry to bring the mood down but I'm pretty sure I'm having a mc so I'll be joining you ladies again soon :(. I started bleeding really heavily yesterday morning and still going now. I spoke to the midwife first thing yesterday morning when it started and got to go for a scan first thing tomorrow morning as they're not open weekends :( so just waiting now.

Busy - Ovia had no idea what was going on last month and got the FW totally wrong by about a week!

Am on my 5th day of flashing smiley face which is a bit confusing - didn't dtd yesterday as thought chances would be higher today and there's no way we would do it today if we did it yesterday. According to Ovia my fertility score is 7.5 going up to 10 on Tuesday - we can maybe just about manage to dtd every other day ha ha

Yep I'm officially past my first AF. Although according to ovia my dh is going to be away the week of my FW so hoping ovia is wrong!

pj yay on the smiley face! I've decided to just ignore those posts as I don't understand how anyone has time for it! Don't they eat or sleep? I do lots of both. for you!

eva that sucks for you =] at least you know for sure now and can start getting your head straight for next month. I've tried the vitabiotics before and they always give me a bad stomach. I'm taking the seven seas one at the minute it's just the "conception" stuff no others and i don't even notice it. The doc said to me if normal vitamin pills make you ill the seven seas one is just as good in terms of the folic acid etc that you need.

Boo to AF Eva fingers crossed for the next round.

DH in a foul mood for some unknown reason so am steering well clear and taking myself off for some retail therapy in the sun, not letting him spoil my good mood!

I'm out, AF got me this morning. I think the stomach ache is from pregnacare conception which I started last week. On to cycle 4.
Good luck for FW pyjamas

I see those posts and think as well busy! Neither of us have been like that, but as long as we're both happy it's fine! Has AF left the building now?

Fourth day of flashing smiley face on OPK and Ovia says fertile week starts today. We'll never dtd every day, but once would be an improvement on last month!

Another weekend dtd here! I think my dh will be a bit confused when that changes lol. Have you seen these posts recently about how often people have sex? I'm reading them like I'm trying to get a bfp and even we don't have that much!

Glad to hear I'm not the only weekend DTDer Eva ha ha - it's so uncommon that when I woke up this morning I was convinced it was the weekend as we'd dtd the night before hahaha. Crushing blow when reality hit and I had to go to work!

Glad you're feeling a bit better today busy. My hormonal craziness around AF time is taking time to get used to!

That's interesting cinnamon you'd think evolution would change that lol. I'm not going to be telling dp when we are in fw he's freaked out enough as it is when I talk about girl things lol. He's slowly learning but got a way to go.

Feeling a bit more in control of myself today! Still hormonal as hell but will be reet I'm sure

Thanks cinnamon, I tested again this morning, 13dpo, and bfn again. I might try that tip and tell DH that it's not FW so no pressure! We'll be on hol on next FW so hopefully more relaxed.
AF due Sunday but with these cramps (and now a bit of back ache) I think she might be coming early.

busy I was the same last week when sister in law told us they are pg. it's like I've been kicked in the stomach and takes me a couple of days to get over it!! Obviously over the moon for them but I think it's natural to feel like that when you want something so much.
Haha pj re week nights - were the same, weekend DTDers!! Cutting back on caffeine means after 6pm I'm almost attached to the sofa. I'm going to start forcing myself to take walks in the evening because I'm certainly not 'active' like all the advice says.

Thanks pj I feel awful for it but it's like there's this little jealous monster sitting on my chest and it hurts. Christ I don't know how men and women who have been trying for years cope. I have always admired their strength but I've never felt anything like it since this wave of broodiness and hormones hit. Makes you see things differently. Ugh and on that emotional note I think I'll take myself to bed!

(Hopefully I'm just experiencing a cocktail of no sleep and blast of hormones and soppy busy will go away quickly!)

Absolutely not a terrible human being busy! It's hard not to compare ourselves to others at times like this. I grew up with my mum telling me that all the women in our family were super fertile, that may be the case, but none of them were over 35!

On the digi instructions - It was only when I started actually doing it that I understood it!

Dtd today - on a week night! Unprecedented haha. This TTC business is hard work lol

for you eva!!

Yeah see I've read the instructions on the website pj for the clear blue one and that's what confuses me lol.

I've just found out my cousin is pregnant with her second child. Her first was an "accident" as she fell pregnant in the first month of seeing the guy. She also fell pregnant this time after missing two pills. I'm really happy for her but I feel like shit in myself. I know I'm only just getting going myself but women in my family fall pregnant so easily it really worries me that if I struggle I'll freak out. It's really got to me - am I a horrible human being?

I have cramps today which has given me a glimmer of hope (and also the thought that AF is coming early). I got the bfn yesterday at 11dpo and was convinced I'm out but I don't usually get AF cramps til the day before (AF due Sunday).
jj and cinnamon did you get cramps, and if yes what dpo did they start on? They are very similar to AF cramps - I keep thinking AF is going to rock up anytime now...

I've got the Clearblue digital dual hormone one which tells you your high fertility days and peak fertility days - flashing smiley face is high, static smiley face is peak - got flashing smiley face this morning so we're nearly in business! I really like them (although found them a bit confusing at first) - no farting about with trying to decipher lines and can do with FMU which means no peeing on sticks at work the instructions tell you when to start testing so really easy once you've figured that out. Worth the extra money in my view!

That's great busy! My temperatures have started falling so fully expect AF on Sunday, if not before. I'm really psyching myself up for August being my month (I do this every month!)
pj if it doesn't happen for me in Aug I'll be getting one too, let us know if they're any good

I know I almost rang my dh at work to celebrate. Sad as that is. The celebration didn't last long though lol. No matter how much you think you remember them the cramps are always worse.

That is very handy that it falls on the weekend pj lol I hope you have nothing planned. What are the digit opks like? I keep looking at them but they confuse me a bit b

Hooray busy!! Great news!! Probably the only time AF is welcome, but it's a great relief to know things may be going back to normality!

My AF actually arrived a week early making it a 22 day cycle, and it only lasted a couple of days (fine by me). So now am on CD7 and testing using digi OPK every morning to try and pinpoint things. Fertile week according to Ovia kicks off on Saturday which is most convenient

Hi all!

I'm in the running! Yay on day 3 of full blown AF my first since having the implant out. So hopefully now things will start to tick over. Even if a bit out of whack at least I know it's going somewhere. Although I did have to remind myself why I was doing this when the cramps set in. Not let go of the hot water bottle and painkiller in days lol.

pj how are you getting on? On time as it seemed to be?

eva you sure you are out of the running this month? Might still have a few days

Hi, I'm on a couple of other threads so haven't posted on this one for a while. I am cd26, 11dpo and BFN this morning. I thought as much tbh so not devastated. On to Cycle 4 for me now, hurry up AF.

This thread has gone a bit quiet! How is everyone? Anyone tested?!