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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

Original poster

DH won't perform to order

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Lala1980 · 02/05/2016 07:36

As such I can't guarantee sex during my fertile window. Getting down about it as I'm 35 and feel each month passing I'm getting too old.

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Costacoffeeplease · 02/05/2016 09:46

And you want a baby with a selfish twat because ....?

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Lala1980 · 02/05/2016 08:43

He will only perform when he is in the mood so it doesn't matter if/when I initiate it. Just was a bad night last night. I was "in the window" as well as in the mood anyway so felt doubley rejected.

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TheSuspiciousMsWhicher · 02/05/2016 08:20

When we were TTC, we agreed I wouldn't tell my DH when I was ovulating as he then felt pressure to perform which made it stressful for him. Would that work for you?

PinkParsnips · 02/05/2016 08:17

Have you been tracking your ovulation etc? Could you just initiate sex on the right day/s without telling him why so he doesn't feel pressured?

I have to say after 18 months of TTC our DD it really did take a toll on our sex life and I would try not to make it too regimented if you can, I know it's hard though when you just want to fall pregnant Flowers

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Lala1980 · 02/05/2016 08:12

He does want children. But he has physical job and just always seems to be too tired. EO day won't happen. Once a week if I'm lucky.. I honestly don't see him as a machine. I would more sex purely for intimacy..

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dementedpixie · 02/05/2016 07:48

Can you notjust have sex every couple of days regardless of the fertile window. Sounds like you are seeing him as just a baby making machine

Costacoffeeplease · 02/05/2016 07:46

If he does, but it just performance anxiety, then don't tell him when it's 'time'

AtSea1979 · 02/05/2016 07:40

Does your DH not want children then?

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