TTC after miscarriage thread #4

there were no signs of infection but they said it could be an infection (i did feel like they were just offering suggestions as I was pleading for answers)

for me I had medical management and then bled (v heavy at first) for about 3 weeks. i then had a BFN. then about 2 weeks later I started bleeding again (2nd week was heavier than at the mc) which went on for 8-9 weeks, it was mainly light towards the end and sometimes I'd think it had stopped but would start again - that was when i went to EPU - was scanned and told all clear and give antibitoics. hope it clears for you soon

Thanks for your replies. I was 9 weeks and had retained products so got scanned every week for 5 weeks and had medical management twice which failed both times. I was booked in for surgery but my HCG levels were only 90 so they decided it would come out naturally. At the last scan I just had a blood clot which they said would come out with next AF. I had 3 big clots come out at the beginning of last week so assume that was the retained products and hopped it meant that AF had arrived.

jodie did you have any sign of infection as well as the bleeding. I don't have pain, temperature or anything else so assumed I didn't have one but thats good to know I could ask for them.

ants I had bleeding for 8 weeks+ and it was horrible. I went to EPU who tested to say all was fine, I cried and said I wanted it to stop and they gave me antibtiotics..I'm not sure if it was them or not but it did stop after I took them and then AF resumed normally.

Hi All,
Just catching up as am away with work.
purple you asked about preseed...I've tried it but found it a bit sloppy (sorry tmi) so last month tried conceive plus which was a lot better and worked well with the applicator...and I've got a BFP this month - who knows if it was down to that but worth a try!!
Not sure who said it further up but yes anybody who experiences mc is so strong to get through it, not easy at all, since mine i just felt like i was running a race to move forward and each AF was a hurdle and it got harder to run each time!
Sorry for the analogy but that was just how it felt for me!
Really hoping you all get BFP's soon...and they all stick for us! Makes me so mad when i read awful stories in the news about child neglect and abuse (like the awful one yesterday) and then we're all on here wanting it so badly!
sorry - rant over!

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I suspect you've got retained products. If contact them so they can scan you.

Hi ants. I would call the doctors or EPU and get their advice. How far along were you? Xx

Hi ants. I would call the doctors or EPU and get their advice. How far along were you? Xx

Just wondering if anyone here went straight from mc bleeding to AF. I got a negative PG test nearly 3 weeks ago. I then joined this thread thinking - 'any minute now I'll stop bleeding and be TTC'.

I continued bleeding, fairly light but not as light as spotting, and started heavily bleeding last Monday. Was really hoping it is AF but its been 10 days and I'm bleeding as heavily as when I first MC. Dithering about whether or not to call the hospital back. 8 weeks of bleeding is driving me crazy!

Hi Mrs. I'm really sorry I don't have any advice. Have you seen your consultant since you started the clomid? As far as I know fish oils and vitamin d are meant to help regulate your cycle so it might be an idea. I read a short LP wasn't a problem as long as you ovulated around 14 days after AF.

Could the brown CM be implantation? I remember someone saying on MN they spotted around ovulation but this was a sign of a strong ovulation (the increased progesterone).

Sorry I can't be of proper help

IC really sorry your periods are all over the shop. For someone who was always bang on 30 days mine haven't been as timely / same type of flow either. Are you taking supplements? Again I believe the fish oil and vitamin D have helped mine. I've been taking them before ovulation.

If any of you are interested there is a company called Geneva diagnostics that have tests for hormone levels etc, they can get idea of what's going on with your hormones and make recommendations. I've never taken the test but was considering it before I got preg first time because the docs had said I might have PCOS. The tests are around £300 I think. Maybe less depending on how much you want tested. I'll dig the link out if anyone is interested.

YY IC. I spoke to my mum the other day and she asked if I'd said anything to my Grandad. I haven't, because I'd assumed that he would consider it "women's issues" and not his business especially as it was so early, but she said no, and that my Grandma had suffered miscarriages so he'd probably understand. That made me wish she was alive so I could talk to her about it, because I hadn't realised. I don't know if I will mention it to my granddad though, he is not good with feelings and things like that.

That sounds great Lucky!

Sorry things haven't settled yet insufficiently. As if the mc isn't tough enough, the waiting and confusion makes it even worse

Looks like my dark opk yesterday is the start of something as i've got ridiculous amounts of ewcm today. Dtd last night and will do so for next few days.

Sorry to read your update kate but like the others said, glad you're moving forwards out of limbo.

Fingers crossed for you mrs unsure and other ladies in tww.

I'm now about 5 weeks pregnant and this week's test line was dark enough to match the purple control line. Hoping purple will be the colour of strength for my little bean and reassured the line had got darker. In my previous pregnancies my lines stayed the same or got fainter rather than getting darker so have some hope that all my pregnancies don't go the same way now.

On that note I had a dream about my ex last night.. Can't remember the details now but in the dream I felt like I was hurting so bad knowing he was my ex and not my current partner.. It was all mixed up and can't remember it properly now but I just woke up thinking I can't share that dream with dh!

Ah that makes sense, I'm often tired like that because I eat terribly. So I probably didn't notice it as being our of the ordinary.

The other thing I noticed was dreams. Pregnancy dreams were really vivid but normal dreams. Pleasant or mundane. Post MC hormone dreams for me were awful. Both vivid and distressing. But that's probably just me.

Bertie, the exhaustion for me feels like I'm nutritionally drained. Like all the vitamins and minerals in my body have been zapped. I've bought some floradix though and started my vitamins again.

I think the mental stress perhaps caused me to be quite forgetful - they say when cortisol is running high the brain forgets things and therefore can result in clumsiness / not really thinking about what your doing when your doing it.

Hope your hand and other injuries heal!

I agree with purple, mine was similar at 6 weeks, I don't know if my beginning cramps were strong though or just that I was very aware of them. Also it was heavier than my usual period but my usual periods are very light so it was just like a period that I would have had pre DC1.

But yes to exhaustion afterwards. I had put mine down to hormones but then recently saw several women talk about this. Also, whether it's related or not I don't know but I became really clumsy! I tripped a few days later and grazed all my hands and knees. Then I scraped my leg getting into bed so hard it scabbed and still hasn't healed and finally I burnt my hands on an oven try by trying to pick it up while it was still hot! I don't know what was wrong with me, I'm not normally accident prone.

I had a normal period afterwards exactly one month later.

CD 16 was my positive. I got a temp dip CD 17 and ovulated that day. I always seem to have two dark days, then a temp dip and only ovulate the day after my last positive.

Today I am exhausted and feel really down and sad. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day.

Bless you Mrs, I think everyone that goes through miscarriage is incredibly strong because you really have to find your inner strength to get through it

I agree with allowing yourself to be sad. That's exactly why I stayed in bed all day Saturday and just had a few cries. It felt rubbish but I needed to go through that in order to feel better yesterday.

Has anyone tried pre seed? I bought it prior to miscarriage but never got around to using it. I think I might read the book about it all starting with the egg.. Will download on kindle.

Hi hopeful, u sound cheerful given the circumstances which Is great! I think the physical exhaustion triggered it as I just felt incredibly rubbish. Still bleeding but it's the tail end now thankfully and just dark brown when wiping. Can't wait for it to finish completely and have a shower and feel fresh! And then get back to having sex. Really missed the intimacy with DH. Have decided to not go back to contraception and just see what happens. Should get my first period about 5 weeks after miscarriage if I base it on last time. I was 50 50 about waiting for a period, last time I waited for two but the miscarriage was at 12 weeks whereas this is only 6 so I don't think waiting will really make much difference. I discussed it with the midwife as well and she said they often see women who fall preg straight after miscarriage and go on to have successful pregnancies. She said if I felt OK then it was absolutely fine.

FYI you asked how a miscarriage at 6 weeks is and in my experience i had a lot of pretty severe cramping for the first few days, defo needed painkillers and hot water bottle. Bleeding was heavier than my usual period which I think it's fairly heavy but not unmanageable. As you know I managed to work throughout but then came crashing down on the weekend with the exhaustion which just overwhelmed me.

It's ashame your in a similar situation but it's nice to know there is someone else going through the same thing at roughly the same time. We'll get our BFP's soon!!

mrsunsure did your pattern look like this? This is the month i got upduffed! Deffo not a false positive