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TTC after miscarriage thread #4

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InsufficientlyCaffeinated · 29/04/2016 14:11

Hello ladies. I noticed the last thread filled up, seemed to happen all of a sudden! Hoping you find your way here (prepares for tumbleweed)

For reference here's thread 3 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2593041-TTC-after-miscarriage-lucky-thread-number-3

All those we are trying to conceive a child after miscarriage are welcome here, whether it's your first or you already have DC

Good luck ladies. Let's have some BFPs, we've earned it

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HopefulKate1980 · 05/05/2016 18:49

What is a SHOW cervix IC?!

Good luck to everyone in their fertile window.

I'm getting bored now of staying zen and waiting! I've had such a manic day and week that I'd love nothing more tha a glass of wine in the warmth tonight... But I'll stay strong. Early night. 8 more days to wait....

Anyone else on my cycle day? 19?

nailsathome · 05/05/2016 18:35

I'm on what I think is day 25 (if the flooding was my period) but as my bleeding never actually stopped I have no idea.

We had planned to wait until I'd fully recovered but got carried away and dtd on day 14 and 15 unprotected and now I'm not sure if I'm imagining pregnancy symptoms or not!

I get quite specific symptoms very early on - breathlessness and lots of watery discharge - and I've got that now. But I don't know whether to ignore it anyway because I'm still bleeding lightly and so I doubt it would be a sticky one anyway

5tardusty · 05/05/2016 18:22

Good luck jpeg and insufficiently with your dtding!

Still very early alltalk but i am a fanatic tester too!! I was 12 dpo when i got the faintest bfp and had tested every day from about 8 i think with not even a hint of a line.

Welcome pineapple. Smile

Nothing to report here, but thermometer has arrived so will be starting temping tomorrow. Hope it makes some sense to me!

InsufficientlyCaffeinated · 05/05/2016 18:00

At cd10 I have ewcm and a SHOW cervix. Some right hand pinching too, looks like I'm gearing up for an early ov, better get at it!

Spotted the July antenatal club in active convos today. I keep hiding them but then they start a new thread and if it happens to be active when I'm on then I see it. Only a fleeting pang of sadness but realising they're all going in to 3rd trimester was tough. Have a big event coming up later this month and at the time of agreeing to take part I was still pg and remember thinking that I'll be 7 months pg and fairly big while standing on stage but nope. At least I can drink at the after party (unless this month is a success which I'll know by then, it's at the same time af is due)

On a positive note it's a glorious day and I'm just back from a beautiful ride about, made it up a really big hill. Could have done with somebody giving me a high 5 at the top because it's long and relentless!

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jpeg28 · 05/05/2016 09:25

Welcome pineapple, sorry for you loss and good luck TTC!!

I'm still spotting (brown sorry my) but took my OPK just now so 4 hours after FMU... Got a flashing smiley, hoping it's more accurate at that time. I'll make sure I dtd every day now for a week I think!! OH will be thrilled! Ha ha

The sun is so glorious today... Hope everyone has a good day Smile

alltalknobaby · 05/05/2016 08:55

10dpo and I caved. Thought I had a squinter to start with but changed my mind - bfn. Still don't feel out though!

Thank you for being so welcoming ladies. Hope everyone has a lovely day Star

Brenna24 · 05/05/2016 08:37

Hi Writer. Glad you are back in the saddle now.

Hi and welcome Pineapple. sorry you are here.

InsufficientlyCaffeinated · 05/05/2016 08:36

Welcome Pineapple Flowers and good luck!

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Pineapple80 · 05/05/2016 02:04

Hi ladies, can I join? I had a mmc in February and we are going to ttc this cycle. I have an almost 3yo ds. Really wanted to start ttc sooner but had to get my measles jab as my immunity had gone down to zero?! Anyway there time is almost here and I'm excited but very nervous and scared for what is to come. I think it is the unknown, fear of it happening again etc.

Sorry for all your losses and wishing you all best of luck.

BertieBotts · 04/05/2016 23:04

Hi Writer :) Nice to "see" you here (though also sorry to see you here as well.)

HopefulKate1980 · 04/05/2016 21:34

Evening everyone.

alltalk that sounds promising and confusing in equal measure. Good luck for the testing!

And good luck to you too writerwannabe - that is great news.

I am feeling surprisingly calm at the moment. Apart from doing the occasional CM check (well, when I say occasional, I mean about 6 times a day. whoops!!) , I am being good at not symptom spotting and trying to stay calm.

I have a busy end to the week, then a gorgeous HOT weekend of sunbathing and then I am nearly on the home straight to AF or otherwise. The wait is very tough but I feel quite calm. I am going to let it come to me, rather than chase it with constant testing.

Hope everyone else is doing OK tonight.

xx

5tardusty · 04/05/2016 21:27

Good luck writer, hope AF is on time for you, and good luck! Glad you are feeling ready to try again

Writerwannabe83 · 04/05/2016 21:21

Hello everyone I posted many weeks ago following s miscarriage and how my DH wanted to TTC again straight away but that I wasn't ready.

Anyway, it's now been two months since I had my miscarriage and now I feel like I'm ready to try again. I'm due my period in a few days and then I plan to start TTC.

I still feel so nervous but I've been told that the chance of having two miscarriages in a row is pretty low.

BertieBotts · 04/05/2016 20:50

Is the sensitive womb thing hormone related as well? I've never experienced it before.

LuckyinOctober · 04/05/2016 20:03

Bertie to me that just sounds like hormonal ups and downs, but then I've got used to lots of weird and wonderful symptoms on the post-MC rollercoaster ride.

For the people wondering about temping, I get most variation in the proliferate phase when 36.1-36.4 would be typical, but I've dipped as low as 35.75 and gone as high as 36.7 as one off fluke temperatures then. I get a pre-OV dip and a post OV spike fairly reliably every month. After the post-OV spike my temp would usually be between 36.75 - 37, but has gone down to 36.6 or up to 37.2 as a fluke. There's tons of variables that can effect temps and throw them off, I try to watch the big picture of the month as a whole and not get caught up in the detail.

CM-wise I get EWCM fairly consistently throughout my fertile week, my record is for 7 days in a row. I started an evening primrose supplement last month which coincided with the 7 days, it is meant to be good for increasing fertile CM if anyone wants to try it.

I'm feeling good at the minute, probably because I have a holiday coming up where not being pregnant would be an advantage, which has taken the pressure off TTC. Also, I worked out I get pregnant about once every four cycles (conceived in late October and then in early March), which would mean I probably won't get pregnant again before the trip, but might during it which would be ideal. Obviously I know we can't choose when we concieve, but I can enjoy the hope.

BertieBotts · 04/05/2016 19:14

I don't know what is going on with me. My hormones are up and down I think. Last week I was really tired, then down, then irritable. This week I'm horny Blush feeling very lovey/emotional and affectionate too and I can definitely report I'm enjoying sex again but I'm getting lots of odd cramping and it almost feels like my womb is loose?? Like it's really sensitive to movement and doesn't feel happy if I'm moving around a lot. Which isn't hugely conducive to sex, either. It's not like we are actively trying yet but not doing anything to prevent either so I don't know if I should be concerned? If I had an infection or something, I'm guessing that there would be some nasty discharge, which I haven't had - just normal.

Sorry for TMI and cluelessness.

5tardusty · 04/05/2016 18:56

Thanks jpeg. I'm sure your spotting is nothing. I've had midcycle spotting from time to time for years. Could be caused by all the dtd too!

jpeg28 · 04/05/2016 18:18

That's great stardusty! Good luck... Dtd every other day is ALOT for us too! Hope you get your positive OPK soon x

5tardusty · 04/05/2016 18:15

Hello everyone. Just got my first -ve hpt after mc so feel officially back at base camp! My opks are still dark but not quite positive. The month i concieved they were very faint right up until ovulation so that's not quite back to normal for me yet. Clear cm at the mo. Just going to daily opk now until AF or ov.

Still dtd every other day. This is A LOT for us!

jpeg28 · 04/05/2016 17:59

Ok thanks Brenna... I just read that you shouldn't do OPKs in FMU... Which means my flashing smiley this morning could be a lie! So no idea what the bleeding is if I'm not ovulating yet. There is no way af could be back 5 days after it ended!! I'll take another OPK tomorrow afternoon to see what's going on.

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Brenna24 · 04/05/2016 15:59

Either that or we all have the same problem. We may not be the best pool to judge normal from. I am CD9 too. Good to have a cycle buddy.

You can spot a bit at ovulation too JPEG, it may just be that. Fingers crossed for you.

jpeg28 · 04/05/2016 15:17

Can anyone help... Cd13, af stopped just 5 days ago and just been to bathroom and had a small amount of blood (sorry tmi), when I wiped it was just a teeny tiny bit and brown. I have never bled mid cycle before and I've only just started dtd for my fertile week! I'm scared I've had a ridiculously short cycle!!

InsufficientlyCaffeinated · 04/05/2016 15:08

OK maybe I'm not abnormally cold then. Currently on cd9, just entering fertile week

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Brenna24 · 04/05/2016 14:00

Hi and welcome AllTalk.

IC mine tends to sit between 35.7 and 36.0 the first half of the month and then goes up to 36.2 to 36.5 after ovulation until my period.

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