TTC after miscarriage thread #4

Oh Kate you poor thing. I completely get what you mean about not prolonging the agony. I feel so terrible for you and wish there was something I could say to make you feel better.
Sending positive thoughts your way lovely lady and hope that everything works out. N

HopefulKate sorry that was so insensitive of me, I didn't read before I posted.

I hope you're okay xx

That is definitely a line!! Congratulations!!! xx

Had loads of negative ICs so went and bought a FRER...is this what I think it is!?

But worried it's so light still, I think I'm about 11DPO. I'm excited but not getting my hopes up too much yet!

That sounds like a gorgeous dinner! Glad you are resting tonight and the cramps are under control. Sending you tons of thoughts. Glad you have a referral too!

I am v down tonight and have made a decision. I am going to stop taking all the medication my consultant has given me and let nature run its course. He was pretty negative today about the chances of a healthy pregnancy and the drugs are only prolonging the pregnancy rather than fixing it. If it is unhealthy it will miscarry, no matter what drugs I am on. I have texted him tonight to ask my consultant how to do that safely as he told me you can't stop suddenly, but hopefully in a few days I will be clear and then this should all resolve. It is my birthday on Monday and I have never wanted to celebrate anything less.

I also have decided that I don't want to try again naturally. I am happy to explore whether IVF could help or any other assistance but I am not doing this naturally again.

Sorry to not be more positive. But in many ways I think coming to terms with the reality of where we're at is positive. I feel broken by it all but I know I will rebuild eventually.

Thanks for all your support and kindness xx

I'm ok thanks hopeful. Had heavier bleeding today so seem to be clearing out. Cramps not been too bad. Been busy with work and feeling quite tired.

How are you feeling?

Hi Mrs- thanks. Will defo be taking the appt if offered! I'll just phone the number on the letter and see what they say then.

Just waiting for DH and then we will have dinner. We've been having takeaways for the last two weeks as I've just not had energy but tonight got some quiche from M&S with oven chips and garlic mushrooms and brocolli. Random but it'll do!

So glad your appointment went well Brenna.

Cheeky how are you today??

xx

I thought that Brenna but I noticed it was the same consultant. I'll give them a ring though as you say and just ask what the appt is for.

The consultant you would see if you were a high-risk pregnancy and the one for recurrent miscarriages would be two different people, so I gues they have referred you anyway. You could always phone and ask to be sure. I hope it means you have got your referral early.

Brenna that sounds like a productive appt. I was told that if I miscarried again I would get referred. However I just received a letter in the post for an appt with the consultant that was mentioned I would be referred to if I miscarried. In the pregnancy which ended in January I was going to be put under consultant led care - so I'm not sure if they just realised I was pregnant again and sent out the appt or whether someone has kindly referred me following the two miscarriages.

I would ideally like to see him ofcourse. What should I do? The EPU cancel your booking scan appt etc don't they following a miscarriage so not sure if it will automatically get cancelled (if it was for the purpose of a consultant led pregnancy)

Thanks jodie. I hope the witch stays away. If she doesn't I hope your Drs are as nice and helpful as mine.

glad it went well brenna and they're giving you help and support - suppose it's just nice to know somebody is listening.
af is due a week today for me so if she arrives, i'll be visiting the doc and asking for a referral!

Cross posted Mrs, I just finished an essay on the appointment, last on the previous page if you want to see.

I forgot to say my uterus is not a funny shape, so we can rule that one out.

Congratulations Lucky. Everything crossed for you here.

The appointment went well, I think. It is too soon after my last miscarriage to do any blood tests as my consulatant wants a minimum of 6 weeks, preferably 2 months after the last pregnancy to make sure any changes in the blood as a result of a pregnancy are not obscuring anything. That is ok as I am not expecting things to go too quickly. She has told us a list of the tests they will do as first and second line tests, all of them quite reasonable from what I have read. Should nothing turn up she says she has treated empirically with aspirin and/or progesterone just on the off chance they make a difference, even the the big study that finished last year showed no evidence of progesterone making a difference, she says she will try it in case we are one of a few that it does work for and it is masked in the statistics. She did mention uterine NK cells. Emphasised that she wasn't allowed to refer on the NHS but gave us information about it and told us we were welcome to self refer. So, no quick results but I feel like she listened and is open to trying things if there aren't any obvious issues.

We will get a letter outlining what we talked about but basically in the first instance I will get tested for clotting ability and mutations in Factor V Leiden and pro-thrombin. Also anti-phospholipid syndrome and anti-cardiolipin antibody. They will test my thyroid. If that comes up with nothing they will test both of us for chromosomal abnormalities. Any pregnancy before we get results will be treated with at least aspirin, possibly progesterone too and they will start scanning at 6-7 weeks.

And there are options for going private for other tests such as the uNK cells in coventry if we come up with nothing and are still miscarrying.

Congratulations Lucky!!!

Congratulations Lucky! X

Lucky congratulations!! Sorry I missed your post. I had been typing mine for ages in between stuff. Really hope it's it for you :)

Thanks for the support ladies. Yes need to get better first and take it one day at a time I think. Mind is just racing.

Brenna happy late anniversary. Xxx

Amazing news congrats lucky!!!!

Good luck at the consultant kate and you too brenna... Fingers x kate for good news.

cheeky I know so so many people who have had MC and then gone on to have a successful pregnancy. I keep telling myself if it happened to them it can happen for us! Early MC just seem to be so common and I try to tell myself everything happens for a reason.

insufficiently sorry for your bfn, I got one too, but I'm testing to early because I'm obsessed!!! Maybe the stabbing was implantation and you ov later than you thought?? Keeping everything x for you.

I've been cramping now on and off for 9 days since ov. I've never had this before but can't help but think I'm maybe in for a horrendous af! Boobs are still heavy as ever and temps still up.

Good luck Brenna! Hope it all goes well. Will you let us know??

CONGRATS Lucky I had a feeling this was your month!! Tentative steps but definitely time for a bit of celebration! So pleased for you.

Cheeky it is petrifying but it will happen, it has to happen. Medical science is so amazing these days that virtually anyone can have a baby with the right help. But you just need to focus on getting better first and getting mentally strong.

I am off to see my consultant at lunch to see if he can make sense of my scan report. In all honesty, I think this is over, and I actually want this to resolve soon rather than waiting and waiting for weeks for the inevitable to happen. I feel slightly done with all this. But hoping to find some positivity from somewhere!

xx

Congrats Lucky

Cheeky It can and will happen. My best friend had a mc and went on to have a healthy baby and is now pregnant again (did sting how easily she got pregnant second time when they weren't even trying - i thought I would be before her or at the same time as her with her second) Another friend who lost twins has just had a baby too - lots more examples to show it can happen....totally do understand the feeling of 'it never will' though!

I'm not so sure insufficiently, I'm not eating or sleeping well and physically feel flat. Mentally I'm trying to keep strong.

But onwards and upwards. I keep thinking about the next time and panicking at the thought of getting the BFP and then will I phone docs straight away or go to nurse for bloods straight away or phone EPU and book the early scan etc etc etc just being silly! I had swapped my days off work for the booking and scan appt so that's a bit of a sore point. Too much early planning!