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Hardly any sperm - in shock, please help me

29 replies

Kirton · 10/01/2007 10:31

Don't know what to do. Not yet TTC (am 29 as is DH) but he went to the doctors for a lump in his balls, turned out to be a varicocele which is apparently quite common but got sperm test anyway gotresults this morning and has hardly any (couple of million) with poor motility and abnormalities etc. Is definitely due to the vein thing and is going for operation end of the month which has 50% chance of improving it.

But can't stop crying - he doesn't want people to know so can only really talk to BF in RL and she's at work. Am panicking - what if we can't have kids, how will it affect us, all I can see ahead is a lot of pain. Got no-one to talk to please help.

thankyou

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BuffysMum · 10/01/2007 10:42

Sorry no personal experience, only that of friends. A good thing is that you have found at quite a young age and that you haven't gone thru the pain of unsuccessfully trying for years to get to this point. You will have 2 options - fertility treatment or adoption. There will be lots of people who can give you more info on these than me. You could ask for a referal for fertility treatment now as I'm sure there are long waiting lists etc.

Big hugs I can understand how painful this is for both of you.

katierocket · 10/01/2007 10:41

It's a lot for you to take in but it doesn't necessarily mean you can't have children. The operation sounds positive and there is a specialist IVF technique called ICSI which is used in cases of sperm problems. I'd say get through the operation first then get GPs or a specialist fertility clinic to redo tests. You're both very young so time is defintely on your side.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 10/01/2007 10:40

I would strongly suggest you talk with Infertility Network UK. They are very good at dealing with subfertility matters. Their phone number is detailed below:-

To access the Advice line call: 08701 188 088

You will be asked to choose from four options, choose option number 2 for the advice line.

Do you know what type of surgery they will perform on the varicocele?. I ask this as a type of surgery called ligation has been found to be the most effective. The surgery aims not to remove the vein. but to correct the abnormal blood flow within the scrotum. Semen quality improves in most men, and pregnancy rates after the procedure have been good, making ligation of varicocele one of the more effective procedures in the treatment of male subfertility.

HTH

Kelly1978 · 10/01/2007 10:33

I've not got experience, but jsut wanted to send a {{{hug}}} and I'm sure someone will be along soon with advice. Please don't panic though, I'm sure there must be alternatives.