TTC #1 Thread 14. Shroedingering Like Champions! (It's an art form and a skill!)

Also were on thread 14 now... There are probably loads new younger and cooler and more positive threads that we don't know about going on. Where they are just learning about what to use to collect pee in for the OPKs and stuff we figured out way back in the heady days of thread 3 and 4

AF is here. Found we go again...

I don't recall many cycle 1 bfps either, perhaps I've mentally deleted

moose not tested yet, no. AF due today and I feel a bit crampy. Slightly sore boobs, nothing to write home about. Really on the fence this month. Tampons at the ready, FRER in the cupboard! DH has gone to work so I'm waiting for AF or him to get back Saturday to test. Have a lovely time in France!

Wait! Do you think we are stuck here forever!! It was all the newbies giving us false hope and statistics?!

You are right!!!! It has been a while actually! But now I think it also has been a while since we got a BFP at all!!!!!
It is hard to ignore the clock ticking. I wanted to have a couple of babies but at this rate...
Come on universe!!! We are doing our part here!!!!

Ever I don't actually think we've had any people pop in/out with cycle 1 BFPs for a while now have we? I thought the other day it seemed like it had settled a bit to mainly us lot who have been trying for a while. But I'm not over 35... Although I feel it sometimes! Xxx

Ladies for those of you in here that are TTC#1, 35+ and trying for 6months+ we have a little new thread here if you want to pop say hello.

http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2618670-ttc-1-35-and-6months-ttc-plus-do-you-belong-to-this-exquisite-group-rant-advice-virtual-glasses-of-wine-and-no-judgement-happy-place-here

I won't be leaving this thread!!! But I sometimes find it hard to relate to other stories when I feel the clock ticking and people coming and going upduffed on cycle 1

Hope you're doing as well as you can be kwick

jem did you test yesterday?

I'm off to France for the weekend today, I'm going to ignore the TWW since it's not yielded anything positive (no pun intended!) so far and eat cheese and pate by the tuck load!

Hi kwick

my only advice is that information is usually your friend. If you get the information about the options, you will at least take control over the choice of the next step.

we are all here for you

So sorry Kwick

Hi kwick, like anything there are pros and cons, when I had mmc, I was too far gone for medical management and had to have surgery. The only thing I will say is that, while you probably can't think too far ahead right now, with op you do have to wait a while for the womb lining to build back up before you can try again. Approx 2-3 months whereas with successful medical management you probably wouldn't. Like 5star mentioned though, sometimes you end up having the op anyway. From my experience the op is really emotionally draining but the whole process seems to be over much more quickly which helped me in the long run.
My heart goes out to you x

kwick i'm sorry youre having to make this decision. I chose to have the medical management but i don't think it has fully worked and i suspect i'll have to have the op next week anyway.

Thinking of you

Kwick knowledge would be power for me I think - understanding implications and process for each side. Glad to hear you are seeing the unit and hope they can help you through this.

Thinking of you and sending you strength and hugs

Kwick so sorry
Not sure what to advice, I hope you get all the info you need to make this decision
Don't have words

mate, we all wish you didn't have to make this f*cking decision, no excuses necessary. My sister recently had a termination (by choice, not the same scenario) but based on her experience I'd choose the op. It is of course your decision and I hope that EPU can give you lots of balanced info but it may well be better for you emotionally to have some control over the situation.

Thank you ALL so much for very kind messages.
Am very sad and crying loads - this is not a good look as I am not a delicate crier - never mind, at least I am back home again (went to work this am but now off).
Got to talk to good work pal who has helped numerous friends through mc - he is from Central America and said that the UK seemed to be the only country where you did not automatically have an op in this situation... That made me think.
I will go to Early Pregnancy Unit to get more info tomorrow. My initial reaction to Op was not but not sure I can handle pain and visible evidence. Fucking wish I did not have to make this decision. Please excuse my French.

Kwick I've been thinking about you all day today. Sending you love. Take your time and when you are ready we are all here waiting for you.

kwick I've got no words, I am just so sorry. Know that every one of us here is thinking of you and we are here if you need us. Take care of yourself xxx

kwick there are no words, once you see those 2 lines I just wish it was as straight forward as we deserve it to be. Take care of yourself, thinking of you xxx

Kwick, I am so sorry for your loss; be kind to yourself xxx

Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear that Kwick. :( Gentle virtual hugs.

kwick I'm devastated for you, I can't imagine how you must be feeling. It's so unfair, no one deserves this more than you. Please look after yourself

Morning kwick I woke up thinking of you and I come here and all these lovely ladies doing the same. Big hug love

Oh kwick 😢 I'm so sorry. Huge hugs from across the pond. Love and prayers. 💗💐💗💐💗