TTC A GIRL!!

I don't think I was rude at all. Sorry that you think that. I entered into the spirit with some suggestions of gender selecting.

Saying that I didn't think it was a good idea to have preferences is not rude - it is just my opinion.

i think its a case of not really being able to comment till you have been there

i was upset about keep having boys

i still love them all desperately

i do feel blessed

would dearly love another girl

grrrr

My friend was desperate for a girl so bought the book and lent it to me. She did all that about reducing the sperm count so there would be fewer male sperm (tight shorts, heat etc) and also stopped TTC initially 7 days before ovulation, then 6days, then finally 5days, and no more for two weeks. She got pg third time and had a girl as hoped.

If you really want to try, start stopping a LONG time before you ovulate and gradually reduce the number of days until it works (hopefully).

I wanted a boy first time and was so convinced I had, but then looking at my chart realised I had TTC a week before ovulation and got pg then, not when i hoped, at ovulation. Mind you, I got a boy next time as we conceived spot on ovulation day so i am very happy.

Good luck and have fun - it can work if you are very dedicated.

I had heard about the sex before ovulation, but reckon I concieved my boy twins 3 days before ovulation, so not foolproof by any means

I have 2 dds. Both times I conceived, we'd had sex a 2-3 days before ovulation which would support the stronger, slower, female sperm theory.

Peridot30 I thought you did come across a bit rudely actually. I know its a free forum, but sometimes threads have a feel to them, and this one was a lighthearted chat about different ways (that might or might not work) on choosing a girl.
I thought you were a bit heavy handed, and having been on the receiving end of similar heavy handedness in rl, I reacted to it.

as the mother of 2 girls, number 3 is more than likely going to be a girl too - but there is a part of me who really wants a boy. I have always seen myself with boys but I love my girls to the end of the earth and back, and if I have another girl i will be just as happy.

I dont feel like my family is complete yet, and im not sure it will after number 3 (secretly wanting to be the modern day waltons!)

Every baby is a gift... and is treated as such.

In the interests of harmony ... I don't think Peridot was being rude for saying 'take what you are given and be thankful'.

I entered into the spirit by suggesting the old wives tales... but I happen to agree with Peridot. Any baby is a gift. I am ttc at the moment and I am not in the slightest bit concerned of the gender.

That is not to say I don't sometimes wonder what gender my baby (if I am lucky enough to have one) will be. Of course it is natural to dream of what will be.

I don't think preferences can be healthy though. Life doesn't always work according to what we would prefer.

I am not saying that people with 3 of one gender might not 'like' the other gender next time round... but I can't imagine how anyone could be 'upset' at having more of the same.

But then I can't really see this objectively as I am desperate for any "flavour"

I am trying to sound as nice as pie here, I am not trying to have an argument with anyone...

Im always fascinated by these 'I want a boy/girl' threads.

I have twin boys born via ICSI. They came after years of heartache and i really did belive that I would never have them. They are gorgeous, healthy, gorgeous (did I mention that bit) boys and DH and i totally adore them.

BUT - I have always wanted a daughter. Its just a 'feeling' in me and I dont expect it will ever go away. DH and I arent able to try for another child for medical reasons so its not a situation thats going to change.

Of course it doesnt begin to compare with the despair of facing infertility but I definately feel that there is a hole there.

So I have been in that situation of praying desperately for a child - ANY child. And I am so so so grateful that I got to do all those things I thought I was going to miss. But that doesnt change that totally irrational 'wish'. Sometimes you just can't help how you feel.

Good luck TTC!

Kizziex

Overrun i dont understand why you think im being rude. This is a forum where you can express your own opinion and thats all i was doing.Not everyone can have children and all i said was be thankful for what you get.

Oh for goodness' sake.. I honestly don't believe people when they say they can't understand why people who have multiples of one gender could possibly want the other- lighten up. I'm pregnant with no3 and have 2 gorgeous girls already.. and I would be totally lying if I didn't think deep down it would be nice to try a blue flavoured one. That doesn't mean that if it's a girl I will do anything differently or love it any less- just like I didn't when dd2 was born.
To answer your initial question Sweetbean if you read all the guff the only things you can try for a girl seem to be to have sex loads, well before ovulation, then abstain for the couple of days before- the theory being that boy sperm will die out by ovulation day and leave the slower moving but more tenacious girl ones waiting for the egg. This doesn't work of course if you have any trouble conceiving, or have no idea when you ovulate!! This theory is why some people joke that people with multiple girls must have been shagging like rabbits.. the theory says that to conceive a boy you have sex just on ovulation day or the day after. Of course, like the chinese predictor calendars and all other old wives' tales I doubt there is any scientific proof to all this..not much help I know! Good luckxx

Already have 2 ds's and imagined we would try for a girl next time round (always wanted 3 children).

But actually now it's come round to ttc, I'd just be over the moon to be actually pregnant! And I've only just started trying too...it's not as if I initially tried for a girl and then after a few unsuccessful months changed my opinion!

My ds's were sooo gorgeous when they were babies (and still are!) that I feel a bit sad at the thought that I might not have another son and have a daughter instead...

Of course it's only natural to have a bit of a preference for one sex or another (and a heck of a lot easier to talk about it on here than admit it in RL!)

Good luck, I hope you get a gorgeous healthy baby, whatever the sex may be.

Thanks NotAnotter, its perfectly natural to have opinons/dreams/preferences about your childrens gender.

agree overrun....we are allowed to dream!

MUSA and Peridot30 I think you are being pretty rude actually. I had all this thrown at me when I dared to be upset when already having a ds I found out both dts were boys.
I really think that people can have a marked preference for gender, and that this is turn doesn't mean that they are careless about wanting their child to be in good health or that they want a designer baby.

Of course all babies are special, whatever the sex... but if you have 3 boys and would like a girl- where is the harm in trying to do something about it! Providing another boy wouldnt we unwelcome...
Goodness me! Loosen up!

MUSA and Peridot30 - I completely understand your posts, but I don't think for one moment that anyone posting here would love their child any less if it was a boy and they wanted a girl (or vice versa). All children are precious & special. I get the feeling that the posts on here are said in a jokey, tongue in cheek way as a bit of fun - after all, there is no way to determine which of his little swimmers will get to that egg first!

lots of cycling (for the man) in lycra shorts and lots of wetsuit-wearing watersports.

am mother of 3 girls, and DP is keen windsurfer and cyclist.

Should'nt you be more worried about having a healthy child, then worrying about the sex of the baby. sorry don't mean to have a go at you.

But there are so many parents on mumsnet including myself who have a child with sn, and then there are people who want one particular sex, like peridot30 says be gratful there are people that can't even have children.

All children are so precious with sn and without sn, boy or girl.

Take what you are given and be thankful!

this and good luck