I am unsure who the father of my unborn child is! Please help!!

Are you in a position where you can be an adequate parent? If not are you considering other options e.g termination, adoption

Yes ok is reasonable advice to use a condom.
I've said many times and not being angry about it, but I know! I really do know. So please can that be the end of using a condom... I know. I knew before anyone wrote it. That's all I'm saying is that I know to use a condom. I know about STDs. I know.

I don't mean to come across angry, just all I'm saying is I know this information. But that's not what I made the discussion for. That's it

I apologise if people thought anything negative or angry about my posts.

While you are trying to figure this all out with your GP etc, please keep taking your vitamins and try eating healthy in case you decide to keep the baby.

People will be happy to support you if you don't flounce and get angry about very reasonable advice.

I think I'll just get mumsnet to delete the whole post, as many of you think it might be helpful to keep pointing out to me I had unprotected sex with 2 different people in a short space of time.
But I'm going through a lot already, and there's more to what I've even written. So I really don't wish to keep seeing more comments about using a condom.

I know. But I didn't throughout this space of time. I made mistakes and now I'm dealing with them, I already feel bad enough that I've put myself in this situation.

It's more likely to be your ex from the information you've given. How do you think he will react to the news?

And stop being so prickly over the advice about condoms and STDs. There are a lot of people here that could help you if you let them. I say this with love...

Bobo is correct, listen to the advice

You aren't regularly having unprotected sex
Except the ten times you mention.
Have you had an std check?

The only person who can help you, is you. Are you definitely having the baby?

First of all, congratulations! I'm 27 weeks pregnant now (unplanned) and know how scary it can be, have you got anyone in RL to confide in or speak to?

I don't think you can keep going back to the doctors and requesting scans, you'll have to wait till your dating scan (12 weeks normally) and then you'll have a clearer idea of the dates. No one can say dates yet as its still so early, and paternity should really only be established when you can be 100% sure, IMO.

You'll need to arrange a booking in appointment with a midwife which I think are normally done via your doctors if you ring them. It's all a waiting game unfortunately! Good luck op

I'm very confused that you say they told you at scan that they 'believe you conceived 3 weeks ago'. It just doesn't make sense to me...early pregnancy scans will usually give you an EDD and you will throw be able to work out how many weeks into the pregnancy you are. They never concentrate on when you might have conceived. Have you misunderstood this? Also, if you really really had only conceived 3 weeks previously there wouldn't be anything detectable on scan. I think you need clarification with your GP maybe.

Also, I don't think Bobo was judging you. It was pretty reasonable advice.

I gathered that.
Just wondered if anyone could kind of help me.
That's all.

The baby and two men will need to have a DNA test when it is born. That's the only answer there is

It's nice to see how everyone believes they are entitled to their own opinion, yet I am not entitled to mine.

Thank you for the responses.

I'm not regularly having unprotected "casual" sex

Look can we get back to the issue at hand, if you feel the need to write about condoms or unprotected sex please don't because I know about that, I was educated well. What I want to know is if anyone has any advice to whether they could help me with knowing possibly who the father is.

But as I can see no one can completely help me and all anyone wants to do is bombard me with information about unprotected sex and condoms as if I do not know.

So I'm going to leave this post now, as it seems to just gone to a conversation which I don't want or need despite what everyone thinks they know about what I should know.

As I've said thank you for everyone that tried to help regarding the issue but I think I've got all the information I could possibly have.

SBZ - you cannot post on an open Internet forum and control how people answer. The contraception point is relevant as you had unprotected sex with two men in one month when not trying to conceive. Those who have made this point are hardly going off topic.

People are suggesting condoms because you are having unprotected casual sex. Even though you are pregnant now, you still need to use a barrier contraceptive such as condoms so that you don't catch std's. It's good advice to look after your sexual health.

Yes I've had one. Thank you very much and it was all clear.

ok, if you all want to go against what I think that's fine.
But still now it's going completely off the topic of what I posted in the first place. Despite whether I think I was judged or not, my issue still stands at what I originally posted.

It was a fairly relevant point to your post. Presumably you have also made an appointment for a full STI check. Because you do need one.

Also FYI I did not say they shouldn't say people shouldn't have protected sex, also you shouldn't assume I'm not catholic...

I was merely saying, I don't see why people feel the need to put their 2 pence in unless they actually want to be helpful to the post I've put. And so I don't think people should just write comments on anyone's post stating general facts, when clearly someone would write a post to get advice on what try have asked....

I really appreciate everyone who has given me advice on the matter and is concerned about my situation and wellbeing. It's really great to know some people actually just want to help me out! Thank you!

Is there a need to be aggressive?!

All I'm asking for is advice on the matter at hand not if I should use condoms or not! I am perfectly aware of how to protect myself and have done for many year and it just so happened to be on this occasion I didn't and this happened.

I am entitled to my opinion if I believe they are judging me or not and so anyone should respect my feelings if I am offended and feel judged. You can not tell me if I do or do not feel judged.

Telling me now I am pregnant that I should use condoms is also something which isn't relevant to the post I am writing.

Never have I been pregnant before or had an std... So yes actually background does have a lot to do with it because by even suggesting that is assuming I am unaware of what unprotected sex can do and therefore judging me on what I do and do not know, but also on what I do every other time I've had sex.

Thank you.

How on earth is bobo 'judging' you by recommending condoms?! None of the background matters to that point, it's just bloody good advice. Also unless you're staunchly catholic I cannot see why you would tell her not to advise others to use protection.

If it's the third week after conception then that's the fifth week of pregnancy. If you conceived on the 15th then it cannot be your current BF, it must be your ex.

I'm now worried about when I exactly had my period because I don't take a note of when I start and finish. But now I'm thinking about it and am under the impression the first day of my period was nearer to the 20th

Sorry if the username is confusing but I am the person who wrote the original post and this username is throughout the posts now.

Well I didn't have sex anytime inbetween those dates at all, so those two separate occasions are the only possibility...

I am starting to think the scan was not completely correct on the 7th; and if you must know I had the scan at the clinic because I was considering terminating the pregnancy but I could not go through it because I don't agree with abortion for myself - I am pro choice but just never thought of that for myself.

If she conceived on the 15th of Feb, I don't think it could be the first guy either. I don't think you can conceive 10 days after sex. About 5--6 seems to be the max, so the 10th/11th of Feb.

Did the OP's period begin on the 20th and last 5 days, or is she not sure when it was and it began somewhere between the 20th and 25th. It's not entirely clear.

Scanning you on the 7th saying you conceived 3weeks before puts you conceiving on the 15th feb. So you are 5 weeks pregnant. So couldn't have been the second guy. Also early scans can be out and not an exact science. If you are pregnant my money's on the first guy. Although changing username on a thread makes it hard to follow

What did they scan you so early though on the NHS?

The GP won't be able to scan you.

If your period was 20/1 and you have an average 28 day cycle then you would have ovulated around 5 Feb so it is most likely to be first guy. Even if you ovulated a few days later (due to longer cycle) then it could still be him as sperm can live inside you waiting for the egg for a few days. You would have to have ovulated v late for the baby to be the other guys but to be honest you cannot be sure until baby is born and you have a DNA test.