I am unsure who the father of my unborn child is! Please help!!

Yes. Please don't make an appointment about this. NHS resources are scarce enough without people wasting appointments when there is no need.

Make an appointment with the midwife and take it from there. The 12 week scan might give you a bit more info, but there really isn't anything you can do until you have given birth.

It's no longer standard procedure in most places, MsMommie and hasn't been for a while. You contact the midwife services directly.

Maybe, just maybe, the OP is going to see her GP to confirm the pregnancy and get a booking appointment with the midwife?

You mean AFTER she got sent (by who, if not GP?) to a clinic where they do abdominal scans at 5 weeks, don't give EDD's, and no other info? Why exactly would the GP need to confirm a pregnancy after all that, not that GP's confirm pregnancy anyway.

Maybe, just maybe, the OP is going to see her GP to confirm the pregnancy and get a booking appointment with the midwife? Standard procedure when you're continuing with a pregnancy.
Oh, and when you go for abortion counselling, they don't tend to give you a copy of the scan report. Their job is to end pregnancies. That is all.

How is the doctor going to be able to tell you how far along you are?
You've had the scan and they have had an estimate.

Next thing is to book in with the midwife.

Tell both guys the situation, then forget about the paternity issues until you have the baby. Good luck OP.

You need to find out your Estimated Date of Conception. This may be on the scan report (EDC), if not look up the Estimated Date of Delivery (EDD) on the scan report and plug the date into an online calculator, e.g. the one on pregnology.com, to find your EDC.

This is the most likely date you conceived. Sperm can live inside you for up to a week though, and your egg will wait 2-3 days, so this date might not help narrow things down.

The EDC date can be wrong though- scans can mistake a baby's age- when you go for your 12 week scan ask the sonographer which scan has the most reliable dating (the 12#week or the early one) and the chance of the dates being wrong.

The only way to know for certain is to have a DNA test. This will be a private test. I have heard of people having this during pregnancy via amniocentesis at private clinics, but this carries a risk of miscarriage and is expensive, so only consider this if the identity of the father would influence your decision about wanting to continue your pregnancy. It sounds like you have decided to keep your baby, so in that case you will need to wait till after baby is born for a DNA test.

Your ex will need to give a saliva swab from his cheek for the test, so you will need to talk to him about this.

Some blood born stis can take 6-12 weeks to show up on tests (depending which tests are done) so you would benefit from having a later STI check up too.

Unfortunately you can't say for sure who the father is until you have a DNA test, so as hard as it is I would try to put this worry aside and concentrate on your pregnancy, as otherwise you will spend your whole pregnancy worrying.

Why didn't you ask the GP the first time you saw them, or the dr who did the scan, if you didn't understand any of it?

I really wouldn't waste a doctors appt with that!!!

If you have already had an NHS scan because you wanted a termination then surely you have already been to the doctors??

Doctors appointments are hard to come by as it is and your taking up an appointment to discuss conception, even though you already know the answer!!

In the real world most pregnant women don't even see the doctor they have a 12 week dating scan and off they go (clue is in bold)

Ok that's your opinion, by now I've had lots of people help me in my situation and if you don't want to believe it then, not to be rude, but get off the post....

I don't understand why would I be making up a fake story about a pregnancy and be able to have so much detail about everything? It wouldn't add up surely..

It doesn't add up. None of it.

Because I was and still am confused as to how far along I am and conception date etc.
But also I just thought it would be good to go to the doctors and see if they could give me more information...

Sorry I may have missed this by why are you going to a doctors apt?

Thank you everyone for the advice and comments!

Not long now until my doctors appointment and I think I will just not have to worry too much!
There isn't much I can do now but wait!

Yes I've had one. Thank you very much and it was all clear.

The medical care you are describing is not consistent with the experience of people on this thread.

Not only is the early pregnancy care inconsistent, but an STD test for the situation you describe is not a one-off, in my experience; I had to return to the clinic for monthly blood tests for 3 months after the time I had last had sex with my cheating exH.

It's hard for people to give you advice when your experience is so different from convention.

I think you need to tell the ex the truth. It's not fair that he doesn't know it might not even be his baby. From the dates I think it is more likely that it's his, but still, he deserves to know the truth.

I've had a gestational sac with foetal pole visible on an external scan at 5 weeks and a few days (can't remember the days exactly)
It's possible x

I didn't assume you weren't Catholic. I said unless you are.

You jumped down bobo's throat and told her she could not post on your thread or anyone else's that there are risks to unprotected sex. You say you know all of that but how on earth was anyone supposed to guess you knew when you had been practising so much unsafe sex? There was no judgement, just advice. I even tried to answer your question but you ignored that and had a go at me for attempting to defend another innocent poster. Hardly endearing.

As you know there's no way to tell paternity without a test. I think there is a non invasive blood test that you can do at this stage which will tell you - Google it. You will need to talk to both potential fathers but it would set your mind at rest and stop the worry which isn't good for you or baby. Best of luck.

For those who are doubting an abdominal scan would be useful that early - I had an external scan which dated my pregnancy at 5+5. If the embryo hadn't been visible then they would have done an internal scan but it wasn't necessary as the gestational sac, embryo and heartbeat were visible. The sonographer said that if you are slim then you can get a good view on an abdominal scan even that early.

She has already said she was considering an abortion. She was scanned at the clinic but does not wish to proceed with an abortion! Congratulations op you come across as a nice girl. Good luck with everything.

OP the only way of knowing (as you have been told many times) is via a DNA test.

You can guess through dates, but that's all it will ever be - a guess.

A woman can ovulate at any time, there is no exact rule, so there is potentially two fathers and that will remain the case until a DNA test is performed.

As for the other parts about STI's etc, you are a grown adult, you know the risks, I don't really think it forms a relevant part of what you were asking, but I see why some have found it relevant to mention.

For the record, I also find it rather weird that you had an external scan at 5 weeks pregnant, the earliest I have ever seen anything on an external scan was 7 weeks, but alas, everyone has their own opinions on that too.

Good luck with your pregnancy.

Please accept my apologies, was unaware of the guidelines but would be very interested to hear when, where and by whom these scans took place. I'm just so surprised because as far as I'm aware this isn't possible.

Hope the appointment with your GP goes well OP.
Try not to stress too much, it won't achieve anything. And IME things have a way of working out, especially with support from family and friends.
Best of luck!

Congratulations anyway!
Don't let this get in the way of enjoying your pregnancy. Like I said, you know the baby is yours and you've made the decision be a mommy. Enjoy it x

Well I can clarify I am not a "troll" and this is a genuine situation that I need help with.

I understand some of the dates and things don't add up especially considering they had said I had conceived 3 weeks prior to my scan, but that's the information I am very confused about myself!

Some of your details don't really add up. Sometimes this is a clue someone is making things up, but other times it just shows people are human, fallible, get confused etc. And trolls do reply to questions. But directly accusing someone of being a troll is against talk guidelines. I wish mumsnet would take a much harder approach to people who do it publicly.

Yes. 'Troll' suggests you are lying.
I can't see why you would want to lie about sleeping with two men without protection and come on mumsnet to be spoken to like a silly little girl, but heyho...