Ttc#1 Lucky no.13. The one where Doreen and Hugh ride the honeymoon gondola down the fallopian canal.

Congratulations Cailler & Rae, been awol for a few days and just catching up. Spotting both of your BFPs has just made my TWW a little easier . Hope you're both feeling well?

Back to some rampant symptom spotting work for me!

Morning ☺

Congratulations calier wishing you a happy healthy 8 months x

jem i hate when life throws you a curve ball! Lots to consider. If you did move in with your parents could you agree to maybe do some over night hotel breaks in order to keep our track with ttc and just to have fun without worrying about noise etc..with your parents? Our friends where in very similar position to you, moved back in with her mum. They look for little over night deals, quite local and cheap and cheerful but it gives them a little bit of a break and they feel it can be quite romantic to just up sticks and get out their routine. I'm sure everything will work out x

Jem sorry to hear about this. It is never nice when your plans are thrown up in the air.

why don't you focus on getting better and then have a good discussion with OH? there are pros/cons to either renting or living with ILs.
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I've not been in your position Jem but I can definitely understand the struggle between trying to balance various aspects of what you want and what makes sense financially. DH and I went through a phase where I was desperate to move house even though we've only been here just under 3 years, and the best thing we did was to sit down and really work out the short and long term reality of the situtation. I would suggest, if you haven't done so already, that you work out how long you would need to stay with your parents to save enough to look for a house and how long it would take you to save if you rent somewhere else. If it cuts the time in half, you might decide you can stick it out but if it only brings it forward by a couple of months then it might not feel worth it. Similarly you might be prepared to put up with it if you'd rather own a home by the time you have a baby rather than renting. Sorry if you've thought of all this already but sometimes it's hard to see the wood for the trees!

Jem I feel for you...same thing happened to us this year. Landlord of my little rented house of 5 yrs wanted it back. He gave us 6 months notice so we tried to buy somewhere but no luck...we moved to another rental place in Feb. It's not as nice as my last place (having upstairs neighbours bugs me) but we managed to dump stuff when we moved, try out a slightly different part of the area we like, and living in another property has given us another experience and made us clearer about what is important in a house we buy (one street away from a tube line doesn't actually mean tube noise!). We did have to shell out 800+ in estate agent fees and moving van costs which totally sucks, but we did get a 12month contract with a 6 month break clause so we could leave if we find a house to buy (nothing happening at all on the house buying front so turns out being stuck in a rental contract didn't matter!) Ask for one of those contracts...most house purchases will take at least 6 months to find and buy!

I can understand your OH thinking it's a good idea if hes away a lot but if you tell him there will be no dtd while living at your parents I'm sure he'll see it differently!.. I know a lot of people who do that to save money but I (and my relationship) couldn't survive more than a month at my parents!

Jem so sorry to hear this! Bah.
I don't know what to advise, very personal decision. I would not move in with parents but that means that I have no savings as I moved out a long time ago and never managed to save up.
Lots of my colleagues are saving lots by living with their parents and I defo see the benefits in that and wonder if I made a mistake.
But then I imagine having a relationship under someone else's roof or even being on my own and living with parents. Nope, not for me.
But it might work for other people and it might be more sensible than what I think

Cailer this is brilliant! Thanks for sharing! It gives lots of hope to others when someone that has been trying for a bit gets a BFP thanks

Congratulations cailer, hooray :) hope it's a sticky little bean this time.

I'm feeling rather rubbish girls. I'm full of a cold-flu thing and feel dreadful. Our landlord emailed yesterday and said he needs his flat back from 1 June. We love this flat and it's like home for us. We were hoping to stay here until we buy as we are saving. But now I feel like the rug has been pulled from under my feet.

DH wants us to consider living with my parents (who live nearby and have room) where we could save lots more quickly. But to me that seems like a nightmare - how can we keep ttc and living there? Plus once we are ready to buy it takes months to complete. He's also away for a few nights a week - whilst I'd be stuck in my old bedroom at home like a 32 year old teenager 😔

But if we rent somewhere else we're probably committing to 12 months of renting. Plus all the costs of moving and fees / deposit.

Eurgh. I don't know what to do. This combined with feeling so crappy is bad combo. And I've had zilch symptoms - nada this month. Big fat :(

Aw Cailler that's fabulous news! Especially after your long wait. Hope your little poppy seed burrows in deep and you have a happy, healthy 9 months! X

My holiday buzz is sailing away today...it's gonna be a stressful day at work 😒

Thank you all. Will send some positive vibes your way Vix! There are hypnotherapy fertility sessions available on YouTube..!

We started trying March last year and I naively thought that I'd be holding a baby right now.. Though I am more than happy to be holding a positive test today

Lyssie I love that little cartoon
Congrats Callier
I am super pleAsed with all this BFP and a huge part of me can't wait for some names from the old gang to give some news!!!
Come on! Some people have been buying tickets for months

I have no idea about when in my cycle I am so this month I won't be symptom spotting like that alligator.
With the trip and the chocolate and, let's be honest, the daily couple of beers during hols in Belgium (tour lady kept talking about the nutritious value and I drunk the ones made by monks) my temps are all over the place.
On top of that, the second batch of opks that I bought are RUBBISH and I never got a positive for two months. I know it it the tests because of my temps and it worked with the other ones. I read the reviews too late.
Which ones are you ladies using??

Anyhow. No symptom spotting due to date ignorance is pretty great,i might get used to this, drop the calendar and just opks and SMEG plan

How are you today ladies?

Congratulations cailler!

Congratulations cailler amazing!!

Can you now both send positive get pregnant vix vibes please! I'm going to try a different mental approach this month. Shame my mil doesn't know I'm trying because she had hypnotherapy and all that jazz!

Thanks Rae looking forward to going through this with you!

Congratulations Callier!

So... I wasn't supposed to test until Friday/ Saturday but we have people coming to stay and we didn't want to find out either way with people in the house so we decided to test this morning and.. BFPs!

I'm v nervous still and trying not getting excited yet after a chemical last month but line is darker than it was on 14dpo last month and I'm only 11dpo today

Thanks IndiX, that's great to hear. I'm such a miserable git when I don't exercise! Glad you're getting on well

jam I dunno if it's because I'm generally excited or what, but I'm saying do it. Of course there is a risk of it being neg and the dh is out of town so you have no one to share the low with, but he who dares wins right?

Hi ladies!
Thought I'd check in and see how are you are all getting on? Congrats to the bfps, amazing news. And I'm sorry to any who that bastard AF has caught, enjoy lots of wine, cake and soft cheese and look after yourselves.

Rae I've just noticed your post about exercise, firstly congratulations!! And secondly I wouldn't agree with your midwife/gp who said to rest. I am now 10 weeks and have exercised throughout (except for at week 8 when I had a small brown bleed but it was nothing to worry about). The last few weeks I have stopped running as my boobs are huge and sore (bouncy enormous breasts not great) but I'm still spinning and doing high intensity cardio sessions and some weights m. Exercise is really important to keep you and baby fit and healthy. It's completely up to you if you want to rest for a bit, obviously I'm not medically trained and I know the first trimester is a bit scary and you want to do everything right. Anyway good luck for the next 9 months and see you on the grads thread!

Love that cartoon! I've literally been obsessed with my boobs for the last week. They've been sore for the past 9 days and I'm 11dpo. It's either a pg symptom or I'm going crazy as if I've only just realised at this point in my life that this is just how it feels to have nipples.

I really want to do a test tomorrow before DH goes away. Otherwise I'm likely to know if it worked this month or not on my own. I'm due AF on Saturday or Sunday, so it's not ridiculously early but it is still to early lol. Just kind of thinking, it might work, it might not- couldn't hurt to try???

Thanks vix

Lyssie love that!
miw the test results give you information. You will know where you stand and the best course of action. Knowledge puts you in control more

This is what it's like symptom spotting...

Rae congratulations!!! That is awesome! So pleased for you.

Elle that is gorgeous!