Ttc#1 Lucky no.13. The one where Doreen and Hugh ride the honeymoon gondola down the fallopian canal.

Congratulations jamjar !

Ahhhh mate that's brilliant :) Is your DH around too?

Hardly anything- just very sensitive nipples!

Omg girls, it's such a bizarre feeling. It's so weird to stare at white spaces in that little box for months, reading about everyone's BFPs and feeling guilty about being so jealous, all the while wondering what it will be like when (and if) it will actually be your turn. Then suddenly something appears and it seems like you've actually gone mental.

Maybe I have?! I'm trying not to get too excited because it's so early but just the fact that it can happen is huge.

Cycle 5- there's hope for us old members in the thread!

Ooh many symptoms too?

Oh jamjar!! Hooray for you that is fabulous news :)

A lovely crop of bfps we've had of late!

So I'm 11dpo...

Err

Thanks vix, will let you guys know how it goes! Callier, you have inspired me too with your 11dpo success! Huge congratulations!

(Am I the only one who reads everyone's congrats in a cheesey 'Congratulations caller!' As if it's a phone in?!)

I sympathise Jem, I really do. We were all ready to buy a house before I decided to start teacher training. We'd chosen a house and were about to put an offer in when I got accepted on the course. Had to put it off for a year and live with my parents until I graduated. It was a huge choice and I don't know how well my DH coped with it, he didn't say much but think he felt rather squashed by it. Best decision I ever made though. I do think things happen at the right time, I really do. Even if I'm the most impatient person ever most of the time!

Hey Snow, glad to know you've got a nice uterus!! Fingers crossed very tightly for you!

Oh and I bought the Clear Blue opks that show a high and a peak (flashy smily and solid smily) I figured they'll be easier to interpret than the darkness or not of a line on an ic.

We went to Cranes beach Ever I don't know if you know it but wow it is stunning, there's boardwalks to hike through sand dunes and then the beach itself is amazing. I'd like to live there but the houses are stupid money! Also went to Faneuil Hall and ate our body weight in foods from all over. Yum!

Snow [waves] nice to hear from you!! and so jealous of your life in MA It is so beautiful there.
Glad to hear your pipes are all clear

I am sometime between the end of one AF and the next one in my cycle, no idea where.

Can someone share here which cheapo opks they buy? My last batch was rubbish!

I'm pleased to have cheered you up Bluebird. The odds of conceiving and then that little egg implanting are actually pretty shitty so people who concieve quickly are super lucky, I so hope that you get yours soon too. And the nice thing for all of us who are still yet to have our first baby is that it's all still to come for us; the excitement of telling people, being pregnant for the first time, the cute newborn stage, first smiles etc. We've still got all of that to come.

Thank you all for your lovely messages today. What a lovely bunch!

A quick hello from across the pond! Congrats to cailler and Rae 💐🎉💐🎉💐🎉💐
We paid out of pocket to see a reproductive endocrinologist earlier this week (not as expensive as I thought/dreaded it would be!) and timed it right for a bunch of blood tests and a procedure called a hystosalpincogram (spelling might be a bit dodgy) which I had today. Found out there and then my tubes are clear and my uterus is "really very nice" so I'm happy about that. My blood tests revealed a couple of issues and I'm now on meds (again, not horrendously expensive!) to tide me over until I get a social security number and can be on dh's health insurance properly in a few weeks. It's nice to know that my bits all look good, my blood tests are being dealt with, etc. he recommended we carry on and then come see him if no luck in 3 cycles. Apparently the hsg can boost fertility for the first few cycles afterwards so I really hope we will get lucky! Loving it here, it's sunny today and feeling spring like. Driving around different towns trying to get a feel. Some of the nicer ones are way expensive which is a bummer. But really even the ones we can afford are in pretty nice towns. Went to the beach over the weekend. Gorgeous just gorgeous. 🌞😊

Thanks inspector, it's not something we've thought about but I see what you mean by a happy medium. I'll have a look into it.

Congratulation rae and callier!!! It's really cheered me up hearing about your Bfp after a year of trying. I'm at a year in April and was feeling a little bit hopeless. Good to hear a Bfp might still be on its way.

Jem Could you compromise and find a house-share for you and OH? They tend to be more flexible than private rentals in terms of length of contract, you can avoid estate agent fees by going through Gumtree etc, and obviously you will paying much less than if you were in your own flat.

I know it's not ideal, but it could strike the balance between your own place and being with your parents. So many people in their 20s and 30s do it in London now that I'm sure wouldn't have a problem finding people you get on with in a nice area; it might even only be you and one other person/couple.

Best of luck whatever you choose to do though, I really hope it works out :)

Ohh congratulations peaches!

Congratulations Rae and calliper!

Sorry i don't have enough time to catch up properly! On holidays here enjoying the sunshine and ISW!! Used ovulation stock for the first time this month and got peak today along with EWCM makes me feel a bit better that things are probably working as they should

Away until Sunday so will try and drop in and say hi! I hope everyone's okay and being kind to themselves!

Ooh, and congratulations Rae and Callier!

Pug I had a little cry in my car last night, another pregnancy announcement from an old friend and I ended up feeling quite sorry for myself. It's not fun but you do feel better once you've got it out your system! Hope AF is going to stay away.

Jem in one of my previous flats I didn't know if I was continuing to work or going to Uni and the landlord gave us a 10 month lease which we needed rather than a 12 month one. Maybe if you try having a chat with a potential landlord they'd do something similar?

Ive had to accept that too Jem...always thought my life would be settled (ie not in rented accommodation) by the time I had kids...but have had to come around to realising that a home is a home! Bloody London housing market... And my parents are in Ireland and his are elsewhere in UK so moving in with them isn't even an option!

No rush with your decision anyway if you have til May. Take it easy and get better first! xx

Thanks so much for your replies and support – they honestly mean so much to me and have helped me feel calmer.

I feel like there’s no right answer but my gut is telling me not to move in with my parents. Partly because it’s not just them – my sister and brother are both currently living at home too, so it would be quite crowded having us there too. If it was just mum and dad I think I could just about cope.

I think I’d rather sign up to a 12 month rental agreement (and get a 6 month break if I can ni) and review our savings plan – making sure that by the end of it, our next move is into a home that we own. I think DH disagrees and thinks we should sacrifice quality of life for the higher saving rate, but a) it isn’t his family and b) he’s away a lot. It isn’t as hard for him.

I think he’s being a bit caveman and thinking he wants to own his own bricks and mortar before starting a family. I get that. But buying in London is so hard, it seems the impossible dream, and so many couples are having to start families in rented – its much more the norm.

Big hug for you pug, really hope it’s not AF.

pug nothing wrong with a good cry. is needed from time to time

Congrats callier!

jem, DH and I took the decision to move in with DH's grandparents when we moved due to me changing jobs so we could save. We were quite lucky in that they had a 4 bedroom house so we chose the furthest bedroom away! We lived with them for nearly 4 years whilst saving (we had no savings at all and some debts when we moved) and paying stuff off before finally buying our house last year. It was at times stressful and hard. Admittedly we weren't ttc then, although we weren't preventing it from happening either. It was worth it.

Noticed the slightest tinge of brown cm on tissue this morning, 14dpo today, so think the witch is on her way
Felt very emotional after doing a visit to a lady today who has such a lovely, rewarding story, obviously I can't talk about it on here due to confidentiality, but I couldn't help but think about if I never fall pregnant, is that an option for me. Sat in my car after and had a few tears.

Congrats callier!!!