TTC following an ectopic pregnancy

You can push for bloods, but the monitoring can bring its own stress... but it's a case of knowing rather than not knowing with pg after EP. Congratulations on your BFP and I hope your pg journey goes smoothly.

agree, you should see your gp and push for bloods asap!

yeah, well, we know it ain't true. they don't.

don't know if your GP can, tbh. you could try, of course. i really think you had shite care at your last hospital for the ep, are you back at the same one?

can my GP request HCG levels checks??

but we know that ain't true, don't we??

that is the policy in a lot of places now SKG. it's a pisser though. you know that if you were in pain then they would probably scan you sooner...

and they will go by my period date, not from when I ovulated, which was early this month. So they are saying I am 4 1/2 weeks now.

I spoke to the EPU today and they still won't see me till 6 weeks, not even to check my HCG levels. I have an appointment with the GP on the 12th.

well just spoken to infertility nurse coz the gynae ward made another appointment for me but not with specialist and she was lovely!! said that the gynae ward dont look far enough back or would have referred me straight away, they wont do any big tests on the 21st and if my period hasnt come by then, they'll kick start it for me!

then spoke to gynae ward coz havent recieved letter re 2nd op (ffor major internal bleeding, bladder finding etc) and she tried to fob me off! saying its not policy to send copies of letters to patients (got copy of the 1st letter re ep) and i dont really need it! bitch! but i argued her down. am furious now!

Sparkley congratulations great news.
Pe- How funny we have got the same date for hsg. I live southampton so about as far south as you can get.

tbh think ill wait til weve seen the specialist. 3m just feels too long! my malteser was so wanted and it makes it harder that it held on past my other lost beans, just in the wrong place

Sorry, it wasn't 5 years, but 4 years. 3 months will be over before you know it, please just take it easy and pamper yourself in those 3 months, your body needs to recover. I didn' feel like sex anyway until about 3 months after my ectopic, mind you I had surgery and felt like shit. You know, the reason I got pregnant after all that time might have been down to taking someone's advice and standing on my head after sex, there's a tip for you!

So sorry to hear about that, you'll get there eventually, it took me 5 years after my ectopic, involved several little operations as I had yucky tubes, but 9 months after my reconstructive surgery I got pregnant and now have a gorgeous little 9-month old dd. I thought I would never have kids! She's a true little miracle. As I'm 36 now we want to TTC again asap, so fingers crossed and a big hug to you from me!! Btw, my gp says it generally takes about 9 months on average for women my age to conceive

about 5 weeks now. just a quick message as I am so tired, guests have just left.

SGK, so happy for you hun, how many w?

hi all, thought I woould update you, and tell you that I got a postive result last week I have a appointment with my GP next week.

Got my appointment for next wednesday 14th.
Glad ive got it so quickley but dreading it in case the remaining tube is blocked. Me and dh have also got a appointment with relate next tuesday and had a long talk last night.

ooh good luck. when will you ring them?

Af arrived last night at last so hopefully will be able to get a appointment for hsg. I hope they can give me an appointment this month.

not yet, its on its way tho!

Luby thanks it is nice to know we are not the only ones who have felt like this. Dh is quite willing to go to relate and he has nagged me for ages to talk to some one. This time I feel I have coped a lot better but dh has been down and really fed about ep and work and has started smoking again and gets so angry at the smallest of things and I havent got the patients any more.

When I had my 1st ep 2 years ago I lost my tube and they told me to wait until i had a period. But I know lots of people on here have said you should wait 3 months to heal etc. 3 month is probabley more sensible but I just wanted to start trying as soon as possible. Have you had a period yet?

Lissie - the EPT advises waiting three months before TTC again. Partly this is due to emotional reasons but also to allow your body and tube to recover. I think you are at an even greater risk of another EP if your tube is still inflamed after surgery.

The three months after my EP felt like a lifetime so can completely understand you wanting to start trying again.

Cedar - sorry you are feeling so down. Relate sounds like a good idea if DH will go. TTC does put an enormous strain on your relationship. DH and I came very close to splitting up during the four years it took to conceive DD.

We also struggled after my miscarriage and my EP. I get upset because I feel that DH isn't bothered by it. DH says that it doesn't feel real to him because it is not his body that it's happening to so he can't relate. I feel that he just doesn't care sometimes.

Men are in an awkward position. I hope you manage to sort things out.