TTC following an ectopic pregnancy

ooh everything crossed ceder. did it hurt?

So sorry to hear your sad news 99rb, Look after your self.
Glimmer I hope every thing works out for you finger crossed.
I had my hsg yesterday I pushed the Dr for a bit more info this time she showed me the dye going through the tube. When they did the last picture she back out to talk to me (last time she hid!) and told me the tube is open but will look at the films in more detail and do a report. The fertility nurse said she will look at the results for me when they go on the system which will be today or tomorrow and then talk to my consultant for me. So I am hoping I will be able to talk to my consultant on the phone and wont need to see him yet if its good news.
I hope your hsg went ok pink elephant I was thinking about you.
I hope everyone else is ok.

fingers crossed for you glimmer.

So sorry to hear your sad news 99rb. I second what you say about the 2nd mc: the first one was a complete shock but whatever I will learn next week, I will be more prepared. But some women find it gets harder which each one -- I really don't know. I wish you a lot of strength in the coming weeks.

My bleeding has stopped now and I have no pain, so my EP worries were hopefully wrong. I am trying to hold out for the scan next Tuesday, where I will hopefully learn more.

All the best to everybody!

lol, its totally understandable 99rb, you feel like the rest of the world is moving on while youre stuck in slow mo. take a bit of time for youreslf, you still have to mourn.

glad all is ok (as best it can be iykwim!). Life just trundles on doesn't it! Feeling a bit better today, body wise. Felt a bit guilty asking mil to take dd to her baby class this morning, but just couldn't bare the thought of facing everyone (not that anyone would probably know!). It wouldn't have been fair for dd to miss out, she just loves this little music class, a chance to boogie away.

Pink Elephant and Cedar - Hope it goes well for you both tomorrow. Will be thinking of you. Let us know how you get on.

ok ta, 1st af since my ep is a bit of a monster but it means that my cycles almost gone straight back to normal, so am v lucky.

me, i'm fine, i'm an interloper on this thread, not even ttc but after two eps and a successful pg i sometimes have thoughts to offer. love to you adn your family.

Hi girls back at you]

Must admit I do feel a bit better this time round, if that's possible! My first mc was my first pg and happened naturally and was a complete shock at 6.5wks. But this time round, I guess cos we could understand clearly what we were seeing on the scan (having been there before) and I had 2-3 days of worrying something was up, plus not having the drawn-out mc, cramps/bleeding etc, the d&c has made it less difficult iykwim.

How are you both?

oh 99, it's too sad... i am so very sorry for you and your family.

oh 99rb {{hug}} wish there was something i could say, its so unfair! please feel free to cat me if you want to talk.

Hi girls, thx so much for thinking of me. Wellllll, my story as short as possible, after going to A&E on Sat lunchtime the pain just got worse into the evening and I was admitted onto the ward Sat. evening for observation. Again they said I couldn't be scanned till Monday but atleast I was in the right place if my situation changed (was there from Sat. to Mon). Resting helped, but the pain was always there. Finally Monday morning came and I was scanned and surprisingly the outcome was not one I had pictured - the baby was still only 4mm and only a feotal pole could be seen, no heartbeat, and I was supposed to be 9.5wks. It seemed less and less likely to be ectopic as I didn't have tenderness where they thought I might have and my HCG level was ~45000 which was too high for an EP apparently. But they took more bloods on Mon mornig and it showed a drop to 37000. They advised to scan again in a week to see if I had my dates wrong, but the last time we bd was mid-Jan and I tested BFP at the beginning of Feb so I know I was 9+wks. The baby looked like it did when I miscarried the first time, so dh & I knew there was nothing to be done. As I wasn't miscarrying naturally I opted for a D&C (they called it something else?). I guess I was atleast expecting a mc of a 9wk embryo, not 6wks as I had symptoms right up to Friday last wk.

So that's my story, no baby after 2 months. I feel so empty, so normal , like shouldn't I have something at the end of this? Where's my baby? But what's keeping me going is looking at my two angels at home (ds&dd) and being thankful I have them.

I will keep checking this thread as you have been such a support to me.

So sorry to hear your situation, glimmer. Let us know how you are.

its not cleanliness thats second to godliness, its being a consultant!

Bloody Nhs expect me to wait to september to find out the results on my hsg I didnt know whether to laugh or cry when they told me. Another £100 to see the consultant for 10 minutes I wish I earnt that much an hour!

me too cedar.

september???

Hi everyone, Aitch I did order the book through amazon deliver date 16th!
Pink elephant glad you have got a follow up appointment that isnt to far in the distant future. I couldnt believe it when they said september for mine I am hoping to be able to talk to my consultant on the phone or if not I supose I will have to see him privately. Just to worn you when I had my 1st hsg they werent very keen on telling me what they saw, In fact they told me it all looked ok then I found out 6wks later it was blocked I think they can only tell whats really going on when they sit down and examine the films afterwards. The fertility nurse at the hospital is going to try and fin d the results out for me this friday so maybe you could try something like that.
Sparkley it sound really positive that you feeling so sick etc. My friend who had twins felt the same! very sick and very tired.
Lissie I hope your feeling a bit better today.
I hope 99 rb is ok.

right what was your af after an ep like? mine started with spotting (v odd)over 2d and seems quite dry iykwim. is this normal?

lol sgk, that would be a shock!

yes, I thought the gp would say no when I asked but she just said yes straight away, just hopes she remembers to book me into the correct hospital lol!!
However.......... she did say that because I am feeling so rough, so tired and had a postive test a week before my period was due, and as I have never had MS in any of my pregnancies before, that something is different with this pregnancy and it could be twins!! DH said that he will cry if the EPU say its twins next week...

how are we all, any news from 99rb?

my apt is next weds am v scared. bit low today too. af is here and feel v weepy and angry