TTC following an ectopic pregnancy

Doh, sorry, thought it was this mon. Wow, so a BFP this early does sound very encouraging along with the symptoms. I found with my ds&dd and this last pg (made it to 9.5wks) that I was sicky etc until 6wks then everything disappeared until wk8/9. It's so hard not to panic during this time, but it happened with my two successful pg's too. Just try to take it as easy as poss.

99rb, glad youre feeling a bit more positive afs not due til next mon but testing again today and still faint but darker. boobs are bigger, veiny etc and im so sick! its great.

dont mean to be insensitive to others am just v scared, that 6w mark is looming!

Hi PinkE, glad AF has arrived, you can now 'see' when you can TTC again and make sure dh has no nights out that wk!

Lissie, how are you feeling? Now the AF date has been and gone have you tested again, is it darker? Hope the tiredness hasn't set in yet (but on the other hand, hope it has iykwim!) It's hard chasing another lo around whilst pg those first few months.

Feeling much better about things atm. Had a long chat with my sister and bf (after chatting to you all I realised I really did need to speak to someone and get these feelings out) and realised we'll just approach next time round the same way as we did this last time, try for 6 months and see what happens. If it's meant to be I'm sure it will happen for us again. Not sure when my AF will arrive as I had ERPC on Mar 12 so guessing will hopefully be sometime nxt wk.

Wishing you all a lovely break with your families this wk.

lissie i just saw your BFP! ooh, how wonderful. it's a tense time but hopefully this time it'll all be wonderful. pinktulips, well done for sticking it out for the three months and 99, i hope you work things out soon. i personally don't think that god or whoever is bothered enough with us teeny humans to punish us for wishing to have another of his beautiful little humans, but i can see how it might feel that way sometimes.
anyay, fingers crossed for everyone, exciting times are ahead.

So glad the 3 month wait is over for you pink elephant.

Hi lissie, a bit of both I guess! Tbh it's made me feel better just getting it down on paper iykwim. My heart wants another baby, I have always thought/hoped I would have three (I come from three and love having two siblings), but at the same time I just can't bear the thought of losing another one... I also can't get it out of my head that I must be due some bad luck after having two such beautiful babes and that I'm greedy for wanting three! Maybe the mc was my bad luck. Maybe next time will be different. I know this sounds completely weird and most likely I'm just not ready for another yet. Dh says we don't have to think about this at all atm, but I can't help it! Mind you I read on another thread that it really isn't worth the energy worrying about things you don't have control over and to save it for when you really need it. So perhaps I should just take that advice. Sorry to go on. It has helped to talk though.

the q is, is it your heart or your head thats stalling?

if its your head then youre reacting in the same way i did after my 2nd mc, was just too scared to ttc again so gave it 6m, grieved for my bean then ttc.

if its your heart then maybe you really arent ready for another baby yet! hth, am i making sense?

Sorry! didn't mean for it to be such a long post!

Wow lissielou, fingers crossed for you.

Sorry, have been checking in now and then, but nothing really to report, but thought I should say 'hi' to let you know I'm thinking of you all

Actually, I hope you don't mind me sharing this on here as I'd like to talk, but I know others are trying for no1&2 and in a way I feel selfish(? if that's the right word) about airing these views... anyway, here goes.
Dh & I are in such a conundrum (sp!) state atm, we were 70/30 about having a third when we started trying in Jan, giving ourselves 6 months to try for no.3 and if it happened, how lovely, if it didn't, well we were't going to get all heavy about ttc and would accept being a family of four (very blessed to have my beautiful ds & dd) as I've had a previous mc and also two 'bad' smears resulting in alot of biopsies and anguish etc. so I really didn't want to get heavy about no.3. Then it all happened first month of trying and I must admit I was a bit mixed up about things, how would I cope with 3 etc, am I pushing my luck as I have two lovely dc's and then low and behold I miscarried. After the mc I was (and still am) upset about losing no3. but I thought I would really want to start trying for no.3 again asap, but the reality is we're back in the same place as we were before trying for no.3 and weighing up the pros & cons. If money wasn't an issue we'd try for another just like that, but it is and I worry if we really can afford 3. Plus I'm 35 this year and I just know something will be not quite right this time round and I'm so worried we'll have 'complications' before or after the birth etc. I don't want to add any additional strain to my current family iykwim. I really don't know what to do. Deep down I know I would still like three, but I'm just not sure it's the right thing. So mixed up. Maybe we should just try for a short while again and see what happens.. I don't know. Also part of me doesn't want to have only 2 out of 5 babies at the end of the day, would be devastated if we did try again and yet another mc...

tbh and knocking lots of wood, feel quite good about it this time. know now that theres nothing more i can do, just have to pray that this one hangs on!

Very quiet. Keep me updated on your news makes me feel there light at the end of the tunnel.

oh cedar, thats pants. no tips, seem to get pg vv easily just cant hang onto them! its been v quiet the last few weeks hasnt it?

Congratulations Lissie sounds really positive this time. I am sure bfp this early is a really good sign.
I got my af this morning a bit fed up got my hopes up a bit. Have you got any tips for me for next month.
Where is everyone else? Are you still out there pink elephant.

hi all! got some news, af is due a week mon or next sat depending on whether cd1 is 1st day of spotting or bleeding and got a BFP yesterday!

surely a bfp this early is a good sign, got early bfp with ds not with my mcs or the ep!

cedar, why dont they have your results? thats shocking!

Better luck next month luby, I think I might be joining you in a few days I am sure its on its way.

Is everyone ok? Just to let you know I'm out this month -period has just started. Must try harder next month!

No results yet they are really starting to piss me off now.

got chromosone and day 21 bloods on monday, the nurse wants me to wait until may to have my HSG but i want to just get it out of the way iykwim. got so many blood tests to do now am starting to look like a pincushion.have you had your HSG results back yet?

Ok thanks lissie, cd23 today so the dreaded waiting bit convinced myself yesterday I was pg so hard not to symptom spot. I think I am being a bit hopefully as its only the first month of proper ttc since ep.
Have you arranged any of your tests yet?

hi cedar, blimey. it has been quiet how are you feeling?

Hi everyone, been very quiet here recentley how are you all.

glimmer, got another thread running at the mo with my complaint letter on it. the hospital have to respond within a set timescale. again you can CAT me at any time if you want!

Hi all -- sorry to be intruding again. LissieWBE I have been following your story, although there are some bits of informations that have escaped me. I know that you have considered at some point to complain or sue.
I have recently written a number of complaint letters to the NHS trust, GP and private consultant and finally sent them off. I do not expect too much of a reply, but have to admit that expressing my frustration has made me feel much better and I have made some progress in trying to leave that traumatic time behind.

I realise that you must have many things on your mind that are probably more important to you than complaining, but I just thought I share...