TTC following an ectopic pregnancy

oh dear PE, i had that panic right after my last mc coz during my ep i got backache after the 1st lot of bleeding stopped and before the ep was diagnosed, i had bad backache again and spent a fortune in pg tests out of paranoia. will keep everything crossed for you sweetie

fingers crossed that your june 4th appointment will prove redundant...

i will. next appt is on june 4th so will mention it then. am trying not to get too optimistic but its obv that getting pg is no prob at all, so hopefully thisll give us all a better chance!

they're crossed. i'd mention it to the doc, though, i only didn't cos i wasn't seeing him iykwim?

have started taking it (and am ttc) so fingers crossed

another link I came across about aspirin during pg.

Hi girls, have sent email on to Aitch and have CAT'd you lissie

Off to a wedding this afternoon. Mil is minding ds and spotty dd. I hope she(mil) survives. I have this terrible feeling dd will be crying 'mamma mamma' for the four hours I'll be out She slept through from 12am to 6:45am so I hope she's finally on the way up now.

Have a good weekend.

thank you. ive been quite aggresive about her rights this time around and quite bossy. part of me cant wait, part of me is so jealous i want to die!

maybe, just maybe it won't be as bad as you think... this might be a child with whom you will always share a special bond. i did freak out quite a bit after visiting my friend's new wee baby in hospital but then i've always kinda loved seeing him a bit as well just because, weirdly, i think of him as carrying a bit of a torch for my baby no 1. who knows? i'm sure you'll try your best to be brave, and then you can come and cry with us when/if you get upset.

really? have been toying with that, had appt booked before i found out about the ep!

am ok most of the time but my SiL is due in 2w and im dreading it. i feel so bad about it but we were pg at the same time with our ds's and my 3rd mc due date is in june.

oh dear, sweetheart, it's not rational at all but sometimes the mad wee thoughts just get you, don't they? i wish they didn't, but they got me too. it's nice to feel you're doing something, isn't it? what about some reiki and/or reflexology, have you thought aobut that? i went to a woman and it was amazing, i just about flew off the table when she touched my right heel. turns out that was the spot that corresponded to my right ovary/tube etc. left heel was fine... i thought that was amazing as i'd told her nothign about the op.

you know aitch i walk down the street an there are gloriously pg women walking around with their lovely bumps and i feel like they are looking at me as they pass and they can "see" all the babies that have been killed by me iykwim.

i know its not rational and i havent actually done anything wrong, but in my darkest hours.....

the nurse said that asprin may help and wanted the specialist to prescribe then. he wouldnt but she said that if i wanted to she would support that.. the last mc was kind of a last straw tbh. i cant just let nature take its course now, i have to be pro-active

that's what i took, lissie. but i just took it, didn't really mention it to the doc so am not advising you to do same. iykwim? but that's the dose i took.

i hope the counselling goes well for you, after my crappy things i honestly felt like i was being stalked by pregnant women. i used to sid by my window and think terrible thoughts. it's all normal stuff i reckon. [hugs lissie]

dont have cat 99rb but if you could send it to me thatd be great.

got some 75mg asprin today from asda, it says on front that its for people with clotting disorders so i think ill just try my luck with it in the 2nd half of my cycle. one of the little buggers will have to stick eventually and if i can do anything to encourage that i will! at this point ill do anything!

cedar/lissie, I have this really long email that I compiled for a friend's friend who had been trying for ages (ttc 2+ yrs, then mc at 7wks, trying again). It covers lots of the info I found out after my first mc. Not sure if you want to have a read, it's just too much to post. CAT me if you do (or I can CAT you).

Thx for the cpox tips. Dd had a terrible night last night, I ended up sleeping on her floor she wouldn't let me out of the room. Had to take her to the docs today as there was dried blood inside her ear(hole). Apparently secondary infection caused by cp in her ears Poor little thing. Have set up a proper mattress in there for tonight, expecting a repeat performance!

Not until september, If I am not pg in the next couple of month I might make private appointment. I am going to set a date then possibily look into other options, maybe ivf but I really dont want to go down that road unless really have to. I but cant wait another year or two endlessly tcc like we were before last ep. But I suppose we are in a better position this time as last time we tcc and my tube was blocked which they didnt test for until 18 months after first ep. But at least its open now and according the the drs looks pretty good but that what they said before second ep. Better go and cook tea been out all day dd really tired and grumpy.
I have decieded to not tcc until June?

tbh i dont think anyone can understand the pain unless theyve been thru it. when do you see the consultant next?

Glad I am not the only one. I was doing ok until my friend at work told me she was pg.
I know its only a couple of months since ep and everyone keeps telling me its earley days but all in all we have been trying for a 2nd baby for 2 1/2 years!

it makes me so angry. and when i hear about people mc-ing or having an ep i think "oh poor thing" then i see a hugely pg lady waddling around and (im ashamed to say this) im furious with her!

start a counselling course today, they'll have a field day with me!

I know what you mean about blaming people Lissie. I feeling so annoyed that everyone else life just carries on and I am stuck.

cedar, thats fab, and v interesting. am just sick of all this now. the only baby that wanted to stick around was in the wrong place and im fed up of trying not to blame something iykwim!

99rb, {{{hug}}} hope you all feel better soon!

Poor dd 99rb it horrid getting cpox in this weather. My dd got it when she was about 18 months and it was a nightmare. I found giving her some piriton syrup as well as lots of calamine helped. Hope your all feeling better soon.

Hi girls It's a pretty bleugh month for everyone isn't it. AF arrived two days ago, brings it all back, haven't had one since Jan and again you just feel that somethings missing..

To top it off dd now has c-pox, two wks to the day after ds (over Easter!). So she's helping me keep my mind off everything, poor
litte thing just plays through it but you can tell she's completely run down.

Thinking of you all.

My link didnt work hope you can get it from this.