TTC following an ectopic pregnancy

blimey, its been quiet in here, how is everyone?

oh cedar, me too. tbh i think the last mc hit him really hard. we were both v optimistic about it and then... still we can make an appt after christmas but if i have another mc in the meantime we shall bring it forward i think. (awful that we have to think like that)

its 1/2 term this week and we are potty training ds. i must be a looper!

how are you?

Sorry your dh is being a pain Lissie. My dh made a fuss about it all to, well he just didnt talk to any one for about 3 days before! I hope youve given him a good kick up the bum, why dosent he want to get them done is he worried about the results? Have you got a break from college this week? I hope you get another appointment soon. It all just seems never ending at the moment we have been ttc for 3 years at christmas. I think I ovulated late again this month so my period will be late I just hope it finished before the op otherwise they wont do it.

dh has cancelled it. he has only done 1 of his w*nk tests and none of his bloods so they wont give us any new info/treatments. im fuming. and sad. how is everyone? its been so quiet here!

Hello everyone hope alls ok. Lissie good Luck for your appointment I think its tomorrow. I hope they finally give you some answers. Harriet hope the ivf appointment went ok.

wow harriet, thats a big step, when do you hear?

cedar, you poor thing, you've really been through the mill.

After I got the infection from the ivf I was worried it could have damaged remaining tube. Also worried if 2nd ep caused any further damage. So my consultant has promised to sort everything out so i am having lots more blood tests and another laposcopy more in depth than the last one last year. My consultant said that i have really good chance and said its more a matter of when it will happen not if (he said he dosent say that to many people) Also started having some accupunture to get my cycle sorted after the ivf. He has also picked up that my periods have been very light in the last year. So he will be treating the lining of my womb. Already this month my period has been better sorry if tmi but it been a lot fresher brighter blood rather than be brownish! Any way we cant ttc till after op so just trying to get on with every thing at the moment. It is hard as one of my friends is about to pop in months time and another one has just found out she is pg she didnt realise until she was 13 weeks! she has polycystic ovaries so is very irregular. It wasnt planned but she is pleased and has been lovely to me told me first and hasnt been going on about it all the time. Most go got to go to work. harriet good luck with the ivf app

Cedar Ciao
I am genidef by the way, name changed, couldn't switch back w/o help from tech, have now grown attached.

Yes - what is op for?x

Put in a call to IVF clinic today...am starting to think...

we missed our appt, dh hasnt had all of his tests done, but its rescheduled for a fortnight yesterday. glad you seem to be doing ok-ish. what is the op for?

Sorry didnt mean to ignore you lissie some one came to the door earlier and I forgot what I was doing. Doing ok, got my date for my op 8 th nov and had some more blood tests. Dr has told us not to ttc until after op as my cycle has been a bit messed up since ivf. How are you? I hope your still enjoying your course. Havent you got a dr appointment soon I seem to remember you mentioning october. Are you still not ttc? i am glad you coped ok edd I did get your email but not got around to replying yet.

hi cedar, how are you?

Hi Lissie and harriet.

have you thought about reflexology or aromatherapy? doing this course (get practised on a LOT) have really relaxed me.

wish i could say something to make it better

Love the name.
Typically fraught and stressed as usual. But this is nothing new!

I really need to start meditiating or something. Any suggestions?!

oh harriet how are you feeling now?

I know what you mean re the due dates. My grandma is ill at the moment and I was talking about my feelings about not having a newborn with me...as I had expected...my mum goes: "Well, you wouldn't have been able to come home to see your grandmother if you'd had one..." I'm sorry but she would love to be a great grandma the second time around, and I thought it was also generlaly a tacky thing to say.

Ladies i'm struggling. On another thread people are raving about the doctor who failed to diagnose my ectopic - but crucially failed utterly to alert me to possible symptoms even though [this individual] couldn't see anything on the scan and to get to the ER at once etc etc. Two hours later I was at an NHS hospital bleeding etc. I've probably told you this before.

It's all I can do to restrain myself from BLASTING [THIS INDIVIDUAL]!!! But this individual doesn't see that many patients...we refused to pay the bill for the appt...could well guess somehow if word got round and with the google etc...

But it makes me soooo crazy....

hope you do come down here

well, baba would have been due tomorrow and everyone seems to have forgotten feel so blue.

No. The house hunting is on hold. We are staying put for now - DH says quite tough to get a job in shrop (once people get settled into a school they tend not to want to go from tehre apparently) and my job is reigning in the working remotely a bit...plus, the rates. we'll wait a few more months and reconsider...

i know. every pg test now holds a sort of dark power over us. we cant not test yet a bfp is almost dreaded. any news on the move up here?

thanks lissie. i still have'nt changed my name back yet - need help from tech apparently and can't be a*. getting used to the name too. RE aunti f will try agains next month, so chin is up at the moment.

It wasn't great though -brought back loads of memories of when i first found out it wasn't working out last time, will spare you the details. ohh yikes. Glad it's over from that point of view, and resolved in a simple way.

genidef

just checking in, harriet, so glad your fears were unfounded but sorry about af.

ColdPenguin
Thanks for your message. You're right about the blood test - the only reason the doctor's sec didn't book one for me was that it was going to take hours to wait in hospital...and I think she thought I was further along than I was - although I did say.

Just wanted to say you are not alone. I suspect most people that have had EP's have done this.

I find that wind or IBS symptoms cause quite similar pain to an ectopic.

My first ectopic never ever gave me a positive on a pregnancy test (even after 6 test at home & 2 in hospital). As a result, for a long time after I thought that any little twinges were another ectopic even if tests were negative.

IME experience, the best thing to do at the VERY early stages of worrying is ask for a quantitive HCG blood test. This will confirm if you a pregnant and allow you to start the 48hr bloods if you are worried about an ectopic.

I'm never going to be able to ring this doctor again - well, okay that's an exaggeration but I'm feeling that stupid. All I can say is the pain felt the same. Has anyone else panicked before and done seomthing similar - please make me feel better.

it's Auntie Flo!! A bit early, but not THAT much. I feel like such a TIT. I thought I was due 21st.