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TTC following an ectopic pregnancy

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PinkElephant · 01/01/2007 18:35

Hi, My DH and I have been TTC for the last 8 months and finally found out I was pregnant before christmas. Since then I have been in hospital and have been treated for an ectopic pregnancy. I was given a hefty dose of Methotrexate which has made me feel rotten and should induce a miscarriage soon. We can't start TTC for 3 months now which is really hard to take as it took us a while the first time - but everything will have to be on hold until the summer now. Has anyone experienced this?

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cedar12 · 01/05/2007 12:42

Pink elephant its crap isnt it. We are having a bit of a rest this month. Not stopping ttc just trying not to stress about temps and ov tests just go with the flow a bit. Easier said than done though.

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PinkElephant · 01/05/2007 09:02

Lissie - AF due tomorrow and I have such strong cramps that there's no doubt she's on her way!! Really hoped I'd not feel this sad if I didn't get PG the first time but yes here I am again. Just feels like we're never going to have a baby, feels like an impossible dream. I also feel I'm just getting older and older and time is running out.
99rb - we did it on all the right days this month, I think thats why I feel more upset that we haven't got PG. You automatically think, hey well why didn't it work, whats wrong?

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99redballoons · 30/04/2007 21:10

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lissielou · 30/04/2007 18:15

i hate that run up to ov, you forget what making love is like, or even shagging. you try not to argue, but end up so tense that theres no way you can enjoy it. then when af arrives it feels like such a fecking waste of time and bodily fluid.

PE, whens it due hun?

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PinkElephant · 30/04/2007 17:57

Oh why, oh why, did a tiny weeney foolish part of me think I might get PG this month . I kept psyching myself up for another 8months of TTC again but I thought that just perhaps, just maybe, we might have some luck for a change and I'd be one of those lucky girls who it happens for straight away....but of course NO!! I'm feeling a tad miserable as I'm waiting for AF to arrive in the next 3 days. I also foolishly did a PG test on saturday and never has it been more of a BFN!! I got really sad and feel fed up already and we've only being TTC again for 1 month . I need to pull myself together as I think this is going to be a long process!!!

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cedar12 · 30/04/2007 16:15

Thanks 99rb trying to be more relaxed got a reflexology appointment on thursday really looking forward to that. Every day last month up to ov almost killed us and definitely any passion!

99redballoons · 30/04/2007 13:34

Hi cedar, sorry you're feeling so low. It's always a horrible time of the month (AF) let alone when you're ttc, let alone after a mc/ep! Maybe just notice your CM this month? I found that it would change to EWCM for about a week in the middle of my cycle and we'd take that as the sign ov was about to happen and just tried during that time and a few days after. We didn't try every day, which if you're not usually up to that rate, can get quite regimental, stressful and unsatisfying. We would try every other or even every third day over that time. I think you ov on the last day of EWCM or just after it changes back to normal. So if you try three times over that week it should give good odds? I know it's hard 'losing' a month, but maybe that's worth it for a sense of normality for a little while iykwim (easier said than done I know). So you're not really ttc, but are still giving it a relaxing shot.

Hope everyone else is ok.

[btw, ds' getting a bit more confident with the wiping thanks!]

cedar12 · 28/04/2007 08:55

I knew it was possible as the ovary and tubes are all quite close but thought it was quite rare. Its all very clever how the body works isn't it.
Af not arrived yet but have deiced to relax a bit more next month its all been getting a bit much.
Are the cramps any better Pink elephant?

lissielou · 27/04/2007 19:49

hi all, am back! tutter, thats really interesting, had no idea that could happen

Tutter · 27/04/2007 12:56

ps it was the month that i stopped charting that i fell pg with ds - may have had nothing to do with it, but have to say i'd never chart again (although i did find it useful in the early months of ttc-ing post-ep, as i got to know my cycle)

Tutter · 27/04/2007 12:55

hi cedar, i know i ov'd on my left side because the sonographer could clearly see the corpus luteum (which is left on the ovary following ovulation) on my left ovary at each of the early scans

i was surprised when it happened the first time (with ds) and even more so to discover it happened again with this pregnancy. who knows - maybe i only ever ov from my left side!

cedar12 · 27/04/2007 12:14

Thanks tutter dont mind you butting in at all. Its good to hear some success stories I hope wee all get there soon to. Its nice to know you are checking the thread to see how we are all getting on.
How did you know you ov from tubeless side do you get ov pains both sides.
Feeling a bit better know been over to see my mum and had a moan about dh. Think we might give the ttc thing a rest next month and just go with the flow a bit. Just have lots and lots of sex no charting etc though.

cedar12 · 27/04/2007 08:35

99rb I meant I hope ds has started to wipe!

cedar12 · 27/04/2007 08:34

Hi everyone, I am afraid I need to have a rant feeling like shit cd28 feeling really down so af must be on its way. Dh being crappy cant understand why I get so angry. I got really upset last night and angry with everyone. I think dh thinks I am going mad feeling really angry about other people being pg. I even explained the stages of grief to him, hes just shit. I wish he would just understand that I am going to get upset every month.
Pink elephant I think you are probably right about hsg. Especially as you had a lot of pain at the time.
99rb I hope has started to wipe! You really good at the moment maybe I should stop charting etc I think its doing my head in. But I worry i will miss the vital days.
Lissie I gave in today did a test bfn. I will be joining you at clear blue anonymous.

99redballoons · 26/04/2007 19:48

Sorry, had meant to say I had forwarded the email onto Cedar, not Aitch, in my last post.

Hi cedar, it was nice to see you on the other thread. 'Wiping bottoms' def keeps your mind off other things!
How are you? It's funny, with my last pg I too felt lots of cramping litterally a few days after ovulation and thought this just doesn't feel right, not how I usually do when waiting for AF. I knew I must be pg so it wasn't such a shock seeing the BFP this time round (well of course it was really!). Having said that I have only mc twice and not had an ep so not sure if you feel 'more' post ov the first few cycles. My pains were like constant ov pains which I just don't get except at ov.

lissie

Hope you're feeling a bit better PE.

Must admit I'm feeling better now AF has finished. Also feel quite content about not charting this month! The break of not worrying about getting pg again is allowing me to focus more on ds & dd. I feel a little like I've 'not been paying attention' to dd growing up, always thinking I'll be having another one to experience it all again with. But now that we're not ttc atm I'm so wrapped up in her '-isms' and loving seeing her blossom from a baby to a toddler. Happy mummy atm!

Tutter · 26/04/2007 18:20

no, the egg travels from one "side" to the other

i say "side" because in fact the two tubes aren't in fact a million miles from each other - just looks like that from a 2D image in a text book

tubes emit a signal and kind of waft to attract eggs into them - it is perfectly possible for them to suck in () eggs from the "other" side

my right tube is very good at getting eggs from my left ovary

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PinkElephant · 26/04/2007 18:15

Really ....how does that work tutter? When they remove the tube is it still open to receive and egg still?

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Tutter · 26/04/2007 18:11

hi all - hope you don't mind me sticking my nose in but i'm afraid i'll always be a lurker here from time to time - just can't keep off the post-ep boards

i spotted cedar's post and just wanted to let you know that both of my successful pregnancies post-ep resulted from ovulation on my tubeless side

that's it really

good luck all x

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PinkElephant · 26/04/2007 18:08

Cedar - now I never thought but its could be after the HSG which is causing us some extra cramping this month. I usually don't get it for this long but it is the first time I've ovulated since the HSG so maybe its a bit inflammed still

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PinkElephant · 26/04/2007 18:07

Jeeese Lissie talk about feeling like someone's stuck the knife in!! It's always the way. Just think she's got a long road ahead of her alone though....you have to kinda feel sorry for her but I know its toturous for you!!

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cedar12 · 26/04/2007 10:43

I think who evers up there does have does have a worped sense of humour sometimes. Sorry Lissie its so not fair.

lissielou · 25/04/2007 18:46

well, its official, if there is a god, he/she's a monty python-esque figure with a truly warped sense of humour! my lil sis's 1/2 sis is 4m pg, she's 17 and doesnt know who the dad is. til recently was living with a violent drug addict and has never had a job!

im so fucking pissed off now, i dont know if i should laugh or cry!

got the usual urban myth about women who try for years, blah blah. and i should stop worrying about it!

cedar12 · 23/04/2007 19:32

I am ok thanks Pink elephant. Had a bit of a crap week last week but feel a bit better now. I am 8dpo today and have been also having funny cramps etc not painful and on both sides. After my first ep it took a long time for my body to settle down so I supose its the same this time.

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PinkElephant · 23/04/2007 18:55

Thanks Cedar and Lissie for your calming words. I am still have cramps, boobs are so sore and stomach is bloated and hard. Yes you're right, if ovulation was friday it's too soon for anything to be happening, I'm sure you're right Cedar and I'm sure I'm just feeling everything because I'm more aware this time around. I feel sick at the thought of having to go through all that again. I promised myself I would keep cool about the whole TTC and here I am fretting already
How are you both?

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cedar12 · 23/04/2007 11:16

I hope it all settles down soon Pe, I am sure it will. If you only ovulated on friday it would be to early to tell if it was an ep as it doesnt implant until 6-10 after ovulated I think. I get all sort of funny cramps and aches around ovulation and afterward this month. My mum thinks I am just super aware after everything which has happened. I hope you feel better soon its so stressful tcc again.