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TTC following an ectopic pregnancy

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PinkElephant · 01/01/2007 18:35

Hi, My DH and I have been TTC for the last 8 months and finally found out I was pregnant before christmas. Since then I have been in hospital and have been treated for an ectopic pregnancy. I was given a hefty dose of Methotrexate which has made me feel rotten and should induce a miscarriage soon. We can't start TTC for 3 months now which is really hard to take as it took us a while the first time - but everything will have to be on hold until the summer now. Has anyone experienced this?

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cedar12 · 03/05/2007 11:57

Lissie I hope you are ok today. Its horrid feeling so crap, hopefully with the aspirin etc your chances will be better. I hope we get some good news soon on this thread.
Sorry Pe dont know much about endometreosis.
Aitch is usually a fountain of knowledge maybe she will be back soon to give you the low down.

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PinkElephant · 03/05/2007 11:32

Thanks for your advice ladies. Now AF has not quite appeared yet so this will alter my dates for next month of TTC, so maybe I will go ahead and try even if we do fly to america. At least then if I do conceive which is highly unlikely I will only be a couple of days late. What do you think?
Having on and off cramps still but no sign of AF as yet. What an earth is going on with my body? Does anyone know much about endometriosis? I asked the REg about it when I went after my HSG xray as I'm convinced all the pains are caused by endo and she agreed but said it obviously isn't affecting my fertility so its nothing to worry about at the moment....anyone suffer with this?
Lissie - big hug sweetie

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lissielou · 02/05/2007 21:54

thank you, youve helped calm me down x

AitchTwoOh · 02/05/2007 21:51

deep breaths, lissie. you've been through worse. (unfortunately). give that baby a kiss from me.

lissielou · 02/05/2007 21:49

lol. right bedfordshire, big day tomorrow!

AitchTwoOh · 02/05/2007 21:43

Envy Wink

SparklyGothKat · 02/05/2007 21:40

I just have to look at DH and I get pregnant.. lol

lissielou · 02/05/2007 21:34

lol, tbh aitch i think he has super sperm! i seem to get pg at the drop of his kecks!

AitchTwoOh · 02/05/2007 21:33

oooh, that's sounding promising if he's fully on board. it doesn't work with reluctant sperm, all bucking and rearing when they get to the ova.

lissielou · 02/05/2007 21:27

well we go on hol next month, just to wales but its during my fertile time and dh has apologised for his reluctance to ttc and has realised that HE wants another lo as much as i do.

lissielou · 02/05/2007 21:25

thank you, and you.

AitchTwoOh · 02/05/2007 21:25

some people are just really lucky, eh? it'll be sticky tomorrow, but you'll manage. (just like you always have to... boo hoo). i so hope your fortunes change soon, lissie. sparkly's right, you deserve it.

SparklyGothKat · 02/05/2007 21:23

sorry didn't want to upset you You are one of my fave mnetter and you deserve some happiness.

lissielou · 02/05/2007 21:22

youve set me off again. hope everythings going well {{hug}} thank you

SparklyGothKat · 02/05/2007 21:12

i'm ok, don't want to talk my pregnancy with you feeling so low.
I hope you feel better soon, and you get to hold one of your babies soon

lissielou · 02/05/2007 21:09

she had her at home aitch, a perfect home birth no probs, nothing.

im sorry im in tears writing this but i just feel so low about this. its not like it was a surprise!

hi SGK, sorry about my mood, how are you?

SparklyGothKat · 02/05/2007 21:04

Hi all, just wondering how everyone is getting on. Sorry to read that you are feeling down Lissie

AitchTwoOh · 02/05/2007 20:57

aw, lissie. it's just more shite you've got to go through. bits of you are happy for her, i'm certain, but it is difficult and it will be a test of your courage to go to the hospital tomorrow.

lissielou · 02/05/2007 20:55

well , SiL has had a little girl and im feeling really shitty about it. ive lost 5 babies in 18m! its so unfair! sorry iknow im being unreasonable but ive got to go and see them tomorrow and i dont know how i'll cope with it. everyones been asking dh if im ok (which im really not) which makes me feel even worse about being so self-absorbed. will i ever get over this and reach a point where i can actually be happy for new mums? why am i failing so spectacularly at it?

think af is on her way too. whoopee!

99redballoons · 02/05/2007 17:21

Agree with the others and maybe leave it this month. It's hard enough to take the pressure when you're trying on a normal month let alone when you have something nice planned away. You won't enjoy yourself. 'Let it go' now, forget this month, enjoy yourself, have more drinks than you normally would, just try and relax

[and as usual this is easier said than done!]

cedar12 · 02/05/2007 08:25

Pe that a tricky one. My consultant didnt have any problems with me flying when I was pg we were due to go to france when I had the last ep. Can totally understand as I was terrified something would happen and I would be away from home and wouldnt have my mum with me. Unless you are going to the middle of no where I shouldnt about the medical side of it to much. But if you think all worry would ruin your holiday maybe it would be best to leave it.

lissielou · 02/05/2007 07:07

tbh, i would leave it then, more for peace of mind than anything

but luck you, america! hols?

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PinkElephant · 01/05/2007 21:28

Thanks guys - the misery will lift in a few days I'm sure Now a question for you as I'm a bit confused as to what to do..... I am flying out to America on 29th May for a week and am really unsure as to whether to stop TTC for just this month, or to carry on as normal. If AF appears tomorrow which I'm absolutely sure she will, that means that AF for next month will be due on 30th May (the day after I fly). Now that all seems ok (ish) but what if I get PG and I find out whilst I'm on hols. I'll be so pertified it will be ectopic again. It all happened so early for me last time at 5wks, that this could be the stage I'm at on the holiday. Apart from being terrified that my tubes may rupture mid flight and I die on the way home, being oh, so, slightly hysterical about the whole thing....what shall I do? Realistically, if this last months anything to go by, then I'm sure I won't get PG but these thing happen when least expected...

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lissielou · 01/05/2007 18:58

oh PE, thats shit. i know how you feel hun {{hug}} as cedar says treat yourself this week.

cedar12 · 01/05/2007 12:44

Treat your self a bit I have booked some reflexology to de stress a bit. Nice bath glass of wine and a big box of chocolates.