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TTC following an ectopic pregnancy

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PinkElephant · 01/01/2007 18:35

Hi, My DH and I have been TTC for the last 8 months and finally found out I was pregnant before christmas. Since then I have been in hospital and have been treated for an ectopic pregnancy. I was given a hefty dose of Methotrexate which has made me feel rotten and should induce a miscarriage soon. We can't start TTC for 3 months now which is really hard to take as it took us a while the first time - but everything will have to be on hold until the summer now. Has anyone experienced this?

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PinkElephant · 07/05/2007 18:29

Just missed period on thursday so I'm only week 4 really. Just feels like period should be starting and the cramps come and go, there not really bad but they are there and I have taken paracetamol for them. I'm intending to make an appoint to see the GP this week as she promsed she'd start doing my beta HCG's as soon as I knew I was pregnant and refer me to the EPU. I read on the ectopic website that you can sometimes get a bit of cramping from old scar tissue from previous ectopics but I'm not that positive

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AitchTwoOh · 07/05/2007 18:26

you could be right, PE, or you could be wrong. i had the worst cramps with DD, for example. so bad that i went a bit mental and actually punched myself in the place where the crampse were. i knew it was another ep, of course, so it didn't matter... honest, it felt EXACTLY the same.

you may have had some bleeding internally with the ep, even with metho, as the baby wasn't really supposed to be in that place. so that can cause adhesions which don't like being stretched by a pregnancy. also, if you speak to a honeslty, the one thing i can tell you for sure is that you don't know whether you're right or wrong. that's the torture. and for all of us, the next time we get pregnant, it will be the same. hold on, you just have this next bit to get through then you'll know for sure...

lissielou · 07/05/2007 18:22

have you rung your gp? how many weeks do you think you are?

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PinkElephant · 07/05/2007 18:21

Feel so sad and worried now. I've had constant cramping today but no bleeding. Think its all happening again

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cedar12 · 07/05/2007 17:01

Pop back and check up on us pink elephant.

lissielou · 07/05/2007 16:35

come back to visit wont you?

AitchTwoOh · 07/05/2007 16:33

hope this is the one, PE...

cedar12 · 07/05/2007 16:31

Congratulation Pink elephant Keeping everything crossed for you keep us posted.

lissielou · 07/05/2007 15:25

oh PE, im so happy for you (tears in my eyes) good luck, you deserve some luck, keep us posted sweetheart!

quick q, after your eps did your periods seem heavier than before?

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PinkElephant · 07/05/2007 14:36

Hi all,
After all my cramps in the build up to AF last week, AF never arrived and instead I was suprised with a BFP . Now.....apart from feeling overjoyed, I'm also trying to be very realistic this time and am just hoping my second little beanie can find its way to my womb. I'm having just the odd bit of cramping which is terrifying me, no spotting or bleeding, but there's nothing I can until I have the blood tests etc this week. Please, please, please be ok......

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cedar12 · 04/05/2007 11:58

I had reflexology last night and it was wonderful. I would definitly reccomend it to all of you. So relaxing I fell asleep! and feel really great today I am going to have a few more sessions over the next couple of months has any one else tried it.

cedar12 · 04/05/2007 11:31

People can be really insensitive cant they. 2 women at work are pg and all I get is how old is your dd, shes 4. Oh that I big age gap arent you trying. Which I reply only for 2 1/2 year and have had 2 ep. I cant remember how many people I have had to explain myself to. They should just piss off its hard enough seeing pg women every where we go with out people giving us the third degree.

scorpio1 · 04/05/2007 10:24

(butts in- well wait when you have you 2 children and are ttc a 3rd and let it slip - then i get questions like 'why, whats wrong with your two?' and 'why would you want so many children' , like ive just said i want 50!)

Sorry to hear people are being so insensitive

AitchTwoOh · 04/05/2007 10:21

LOL! you taught them a good wee lesson for the rest of their lives, there. i remember watching Michael Parkinson grill Kylie on her advancing biological clock and it made me absolutely furious. nobody knows what's going on with other people, they should just keep their mouths firmly shut. dd is 16 months so i'm getting loads of pressure (from friends who Should Know Better) to start trying again. even saying, 'well i'd love to, but it's a bit like facing a firing squad so i'll have to work up to it' doesn't shut them up...

lissielou · 04/05/2007 08:07

thanks, i just gritted my teeth and said that having lost 5 babies in 18m we're in the hands of the experts now! ive never seen anyone go so red

AitchTwoOh · 03/05/2007 18:55

fucks sake, i can't believe that people just come right out and say that these days... it's so unbelievably incautious...
well done, wee lissie, you were very brave and a good aunt.

lissielou · 03/05/2007 17:35

thanks. it was tough tho, esp when ds came and sat with me he was totally entranced! had the usual "will you have any more then questions"

cedar12 · 03/05/2007 17:32

Well done Lissie

lissielou · 03/05/2007 16:54

well, am back and she's yummy. im so jealous!
but i coped, didnt cry til i got back so am very proud of myself

AitchTwoOh · 03/05/2007 12:15

well, there is that... hope this is your month.

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PinkElephant · 03/05/2007 12:14

Sounds like my kind of treatment.....now if I could only just get PG!!!

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AitchTwoOh · 03/05/2007 12:12

well, actually i do know you can go for a thing called endometrial ablation which is an op to take away (laser it, maybe?) the excess material. but i don't think it's a first step kinda thing, i know hunk was doubled over with pain before she got hers. and if it's not affecting your fertility then you should keep trying as the best cure for endo is getting pregnant, funnily enough.

AitchTwoOh · 03/05/2007 12:09

rather selfishly i only know abut the stuff that applies to me...

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PinkElephant · 03/05/2007 12:07

Thank Aitch - my goodness...have I really found an aspect of the reproductive system which you don't know about? You're such a wise owl and know so much

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AitchTwoOh · 03/05/2007 12:03

i'm delighted to say that i know nothing at all about endometriosis. apart from teh fact that i hear it's very rotten and sore. i tell you who does know all about it though, hunker. she's moving house at the mo but i'll direct her here when i see her around. (lord knows the computer will have been the first thing unpacked).