Thread 12 TTC#1"Trying is the fun part" said by nobody ever who's actually trying.

Rae - I have been crying over nothing not much for days. I'm not normally weepy. Stressed, yes, but not weepy!

I see a line hopeful!!!

peaches a clear blue one. And a cheap crap thing I got free with the opks. I got the neg just before all our families arrived so I've had to put a bit of a face on all day.

I always imagined trying for a baby to be quite an exciting and happy time. It's anything but!!! OH is happy that we get to enjoy more baby making.

Thanks to those with suggestions. In answer to some questions, I am using IC tests but they have been very much negative. I have also tried a cheapy OPK this morning which showed a line but nothing close to being positive.

I used to be able to time my cycle to the hour. Had been on birth control for 12 years, but as soon as I came off my cycles were regular.

I haven't tried a FRER. I have no other symptoms so don't think there's even a slight chance it's a pregnancy.

Yes, I am stressed but I am always stressed LOL Actually I've been managing my anxiety a little better than normal, having the TTC to focus on has taken some of my other worries away, and have also been keeping busy.

My concern is with the light clear/streaky brown discharge, for the last 48 hours. Had a tiny amount of brown discharge earlier but it has gone now. Still cramping awfully, feel pretty rotten with it. Debating calling the doctor tomorrow, am I being paranoid?

I do not want fuel any cray-cray but this article is very interesting lifestyle.one/closer/diet-body/health-fitness/cryptic-pregnancy-happens/

rae any chance you could post me your leftover cakes?

kat the chukka-chukka solace was for you!!!!

Starky I think you earn a for managing a quickie!

Thank you all for the lovely wishes :) still in shock but very excited!

Ever I just hope she doesn't get hurt (again).

AF is still not here. Just cried at a Dog's Trust advert though so suspect she's about to show her face!

catching up after a looverely day walking in the peaks - lots of snow !

Holly - congratulations! And Happy Mothers day to you and all other BFPs!
pug, Rae wow - lovely cakes!
And i am waiting behind Elle to give hugs to pyxie and others
wow kwick ! I hope everything goes well for you!!!

Dorreen and Hugh!

lol, OH wondered why i cracked up !

Starky I really need to get back to mine. Its for a friend to cheer her up (down due to work stress and multi-adulterous bastard of a 'D'H) I need to finish it before she graduates!

love your commentary Kat!
ipatches my last AF had a few false starts.... I have no suggestions other than wait another few days before taking a frer.

for a small number of women it takes longer for a BFP to be detected ....

Thanks Pug I just listened to the nurse and she explained very well I give myself a from you then
Elle thanks maybe I should start a career drawing bums Maca is a root and I used to have it in smoothies as super food and some people take it for tct but I am not sure you can take it at all parts of cycle so I am not taking any atm.
Thanks Jem I might start my drawing business soon then
Kwick this is all so exciting!!!! I loke the nest use
Starky I love your creation!!!!!!!!
Hahahaa Doreen and Hugh
Kat if you find a lady that keeps you updated like that can I please hire her?
Rae Things seem to be moving quite quickly with your friend and new boyfriend. Stay put, this might be a short term thing...
Hopeful I think I see a line...

What do you think ladies??!! Just done another test got a bfn yesterday but can you see anything here? Or am I going crazy!?

Aww vix is it definitely a bfn, what test did you use? That's an emotional roller coaster and a half. Sending hugs xx

I'd love a scone rae sooo need some food right now. I've been struggling a bit today with a late period, doing an opk and getting a line, then having a bfn after spending £££ on a test. We got our hopes up last night and the come down has been a little rough!

ipatches I'm exactly the same, but no need to worry. I've been over a month late being like this before (not due to contraception) its tough but eventually it will come....or your preggo!

rae that's quick! Very whirlwind romance...just been reading through earlier posts. Did you saying anything about her ditching you? It's awkward when there's a work relationship too.

ipatch how frustrating :( are you using the good tests?

confused that is bizarre! Are you opking too? Wonder if we will ovulate together. We have DTD cd 8, 9, 11 and hopefully again today and tomorrow morning. Then weds morning as soon as he walks through the door it'll be pants off. Fx it'll be enough!

The friend that ditched me on Saturday night has just text me to say that her new boyfriend (who she met 3 weeks ago) is taking her on a European city break this weekend...

jem it's so freaky, our dhs have exactly the same travel plans (early Monday to weds eve) and I'm planning exactly the same times to dtd! Lol fingers crossed for us! We did it the last two nights and we will go for gold again tonight!

Evening ladies. Hope you have had/are having a lovely mothers (and mothers to be) day. This time next yr the thread will be full of round bellied ladies and little fluffy bundles of joy ☺

AF is a bitch! Sorry she's still showing her ugly mug!

pug I have anxiety and sometimes I need a good talking to, don't feel bad. I need to vocalise my feelings and sometimes I don't and when my OH feels stuff needs said then it actually can lead to me clearing the air with what I'm holding in. Don't feel bad it's a bitch to live with I know this x

Oh brought me in nice scones earlier I obviously must have mentioned your lovely baking skills ladies ☺

Hi five starky that quicky might just be the one ✋

ipatches I did another IC this morn still bfn but been cramping quite noticeably since Thursday day time. Would we be wise to go down the route of a more sensitive frer or such? I'm usually spot on with my cycle but once a yr the bitch throws in an extra 3/4 days because I obviously need the head f#ck of that! I'm not prone to spotting though.

Stark I'd say jump DH in the shower but that's not so good for Doreen and Hugh.

Pug sorry about your row
Anxiety is a bitch, I hope your DH has some help and a way forward?
To put it in perspective... DH's day off work is a day I work. And I occasionally leave him with a tat such as "run the Hoover over" or "put the washing on" or "do the washing up" and whether it is done or not is completely not predictable. Sometimes half of it is done. Sometimes all, sometimes more (if more, then I am normally in trouble for "leaving the place in such a mess that he had to do it all") so it's better when it's not tbh!
(Just to add I do not live in a pigsty. And am generally on top of all the cleaning.)

Patches maybe you are just having a light period?
Were you on the pill? I have periods that I only wipe with tissue and don't need a tampon. They are getting a bit heavier now I've been off the pill for longer (still only 2 tampons per cycle tho)

Kwick - I don't think the chucks chucka would give DH much solace :-s I think he'd go into hiding.

... I realise that the above sounds a bit bananas! Sorry.

Patches

I'm not sure if stress affects things? A couple of years ago AF was late, I did multiple tests (all BFN), it was a really bad time for me to be pregnant for multiple reasons. Got myself in a total state and ended up sobbing at the GPs, convinced I was upduffed and terrified. They did a blood test, it confirmed I wasn't, and AF turned up the next day! What I'm saying is I wonder whether actively waiting for it can delay things?

Guys, I need a rant. I am royally fed up.

AF was due on Friday.
She hasn't shown.
Since THURSDAY I have had cramps. Bad ones.
I have the lightest, most pathetic amount of light brown discharge since Friday evening. Not visible on a panty liner, just toilet paper.
Tests are BFN and I have no other pregnancy symptoms whatsoever.

Should I be worried by now?

Oh pug only just seen your message lovely :( it's SO hard dealing with someone with anxiety, but it's also not fair that he's not help kg enough. This is the source of rows between me and DH too. Also effort to initiate DTD! I feel like this is 90% me. Although awful I hope getting everything out in the open helps in some way - it might help him see the impact of his behaviour on you.

confused yes to eggy Wednesday please. When is your oh away and back? I'm planning a VERY early shag tomorrow am and then weds morning as soon as he is back! If i could go and wait at Heathrow and shag him on the plane I would!