Aww Sammy I know it's hard. I was crying into my pillow for weeks after my first failed transfer but I've got into a different frame of mind now and whereas I would love it to work this time for me if it doesn't I have very clear plans in place of what we will do next which definitely helps. We are into the second year of married life now and his is definitely not how I imagined things would be for us either but I think it will make us really strong together and we will get through it.
With regards to immune testing your gp should be able to do all the level 1 blood tests for you if you haven't already had those and then you move onto the more complex stuff with dr gorgy which is what Trixie has had done and will be able to advise you better than me.
In a way I think it would have been interesting if your nhs round had been at a different clinic to see if they took a different approach to things than the private one. Will you still have the same doctor etc on the NHS as private? I know you said on bumsnet that you are worried they might stimm you less so you don't get ohss. I think this might be a good thing. People doing mini IVF often find that their eggs are better quality with lower stimms. This is what my doctor has also told me. It doesn't necessarily equate to less blasts it could actually mean more because they are better quality and I'm thinking that during your fresh round of treatment your lining was also thicker whilst on stimms? It could be a good thing if you could get a fresh transfer if this is the case.
Anyway you will work out the next step. Don't be afraid of doing another fresh round though it might not be as bad as the first and just think of those extra frosties as potential siblings so you won't have to go through it all again.
Technically progesterone should keep af away but it probably won't indefinitely. I can't really help with that one as it differs so much from person to person. Last time I bled before OTD even though I was on progesterone.
Not much news from me. Still not feeling too hopeful. I've been having mild cramps and pulling type feeling, lower back pain on and off but then I also get this type of thing before af each month. My boobs have got sore again and had massive hot flushes last night so much so I had to sleep with the window open which is unheard of for me at this time of year as I like to be snug and cosy but it's a well known symptom of progesterone as well so absolutely no way of knowing anything in this game!