April 2014 thread! - still continually supporting one another!

Oh my god! Congratulations lulu!!! And good timing with the holidays! What was her name?

Well DD had a bad night last night but has been asleep for two hours now - longest yet. As DH put her in her pram at 8 this morning to push her round the park and see if he could get her to sleep (she had been awake since 1am apart from a brief nap) he said to me wearily 'This was your idea'.
The same man who was saying airily on Sunday 'We should have at least 3 Lu.' He is finding a vasectomy more appealing after last night.
But she is very sweet when she isn't crying.

My dh has been obsessed with the jet wash today, showing the boys the wonders it can perform and they have been very impressed by the power and how great a job daddy has done .

Yes you forget how much they feed In the first few weeks. It's non stop. You also forget how tiny they are compared to your older children. I found it really weird the first couple of days getting used to handling a newborn again.
When i brought ds2 home ds1 was not bothered at all. Did the same, took a look at him and then carried on playing. Funny that your DS was looking for the box. My two were alot older when ds3 was born and were obsessed with how ds3 was going to get out. Having a newborn is just so lovely though and just the wonderful times and togetherness they bring.
I bet it just makes you feel so complete.
Not sure what to advise about the wind! Dh will probably be happy when that phase passes😀

I started about 6 in the mornng and stayed at home until about 1. By the time we got to the hospital I was 8 cms. Waters broke at the hospital. Last time they broke at the start, this time it was really late. She arrived pretty quickly after that.
I had forgotten how tiring newborn babies are. Today we have fed her, fed her, fed her, fed her. She snoozes between feeds but soon wakes up.
DS looked at her and was a bit non-plussed. After a bit of stroking her head and giving her a kiss, he said 'Where da box?' He likes a big cardboard box and we think he thought she had come in a box.
DH is already besotted.He has been telling her about football as he fed her this afternoon. We took her for a walk in the park and DS fed the ducks.He wasn't very impressed that we didn't take his buggy.
I slept for two hours this afternoon. I seem to have quite bad wind for some reason

Congratulations Lulu and to your dh, that's lovely news. Wow you were saying you were having pains at 1030ish and she was here 4 hours later. That's great. How fast did she arrive after your waters broke? Bet your dh is made up. Lovely news and glad you're all well. How was DS when he saw her for the first time?

We are home. She arrived at 2.38pm and weighed in at 7lb 6oz. She has very dark hair and I think she is perfect- although every photo we have taken she looks grumpy on it. It was ok. Gas and air. No stitches or tears. I am so tired though. Have had a bath and am in bed. DH is feeding her. TT Perfect Prep back in action. DS is fast asleep at SILs and we will get him first thing. He doesn't know yet. He thinks we have gone to fetch her and has helped SIL make some cakes for her.
I did get a bit odd on the gas and air- I get a bit sweary and say strange things. Apparently I told the midwife DH is having a vasectomy and if he doesn't go to the Dr to see about it, I will do it myself with the bacon scissors

I have been having pains now since about 6 this morning. Pretty regular. Not too bad. DH has taken DS out for a walk and I am just relaxing with my ipad. Rang the hospital who told me to take 2 paracetemol and stay at home. I hope this is it. Am so fed up.

Good that you're going for the smear my emoticon was really for my double smear lol

Gosh once they start school time really does begin to go fast. My kids love school so I'm sure he will be fine. Hope the wound heals quickly. 😥on the smear test, i had mine recently and then they had to do it again because there weren't enough cells taken!! I've just had an injection to numb my mouth from the dentist and it's taking ages to go back to normal.

That sounds bad about the wound cupcake! I didn't even know that could happen!? Are you moving about ok?

that ds1 is starting school already! That's crazy!

That sounds bad about the wound cupcake! I didn't even know that could happen!? Are you moving about ok?

that ds1 is starting school already! That's crazy! X

Cupcake speak to your health visitor about housing. Mine seems to be quite good with that stuff.

So I went to meet stbxh. The place was empty apart from one member of staff who wasn't in sight and an old couple sat at a table the other side of the room. He immediately became aggressive. He was shouting at me about calling the police and saying he's not selling the house until he knows he will have enough to buy somewhere else. I kept saying to him that if he carries on I will leave and he kept being horrible so I put dd in her car seat, and went to get ds coat on. Ds started saying 'want to see daddy' so stbxh turned around and said 'I want to see you too but she won't let me' so I told him to go and see his son instead of sitting shouting at me.

BecUse i called the police on him, the health visitors in this area were notified ( mine is in another area) and this new one came out to see me and was lovely. She talked through everything that had happened and was really supportive. She said she thought I could do with a support worker. She gave me the number to call.

I called them and gave them the whole history, they said they think I'm very high risk and because of that they're reading my case out first thing tomorrow in a meeting with loads of organisations including social services and the police its shook me up a bit. They said they wanted to get a safe guarding thing in place so I can stop all contact with stbxh. They have arranged a support worker who should be contacting me before the end of the week. Scary stuff

Why is it that men are quite happy to have children but as soon as some of them split with their partners they suddenly feel they don't have to do anything unless asked. Why not take on half the parenting especially if you are not well. It's hard enough dealing with a newborn as it is let alone being unwell and coping. I hope you heal soon. Not sure about the house and what council do. Maybe speak to someone at a citizens advice bureau and see what help is available.

Oh gosh. How did it go? Hope he was kind to you and decent to the children.

Spoke to soon! Have to go see him tomorrow

Perhaps he thinks he is not allowed to contact you after the letter.

Hopefully it won't be far off then lulu! Would be good if it happened in the holidays then dh could have his paternity too! He works with young adults that have all different learning difficulties. He is very sweet.

9lbs sunny! That's big! How tall are you?

I'm a bit worried at the moment, before you get a non molestation order a warning has to be sent. My solicitor sent stbxh a warning letter the other day saying his constant messages and threats have to stop and if not I'll get an injunction and he'll have to pay. But he hasn't contacted me about seeing the kids. It's been over 2 weeks. I'm worried he'll get drunk this weekend and show up at my house or something. Or maybe he just read the warning that he's not allowed to contact me at all I don't know but I find his silence scary. And how can someone have so little interest in their children? He hast ever asked how they are.

Mine weren't any more painful. Think they say it's just because your body knows what it's doing the next time and therefore everything happens alot faster. My ds1 went on for ages and that was very painful and he was 6lbs. Ds3 was a 9 pounder and I'm only tiny so you can imagine the shock!

Oh I hope it doesn't happen that quickly, I have heard that is more painful than a longer early stages. I suppose it will be what it will be. I had back ache and tightenings today but it wore off.

DH is at work until next weekend then his Easter holidays start. I am hoping to hang on until then.

New man sounds nice Ducky. Hope it keeps going well. What does he do as a job? And he cooks! Yaay! Always a good thing.

Half an hour sunny! I found that because it was so quick it was too much to cope with, i don't know how to explain it properly. I couldn't imagine how it would feel being half an hour!