April 2014 thread! - still continually supporting one another!

Cupcake that's awful can you arrange a meeting with them? That's just plain cruel. I'd flip

Rang the other day, all the ones I was looking at have gone waiting for a call hopefully in the week with some different houses.

Hahah omg lulu! Bet he was terrified for a moment!!!

I'm very excited. I have been out all day so haven't had chance to ring them, dm is going to try to ring them to arrange a viewing.

The area I'm looking at aswell I have been in the houses before, they have a spare down stairs room/dining room thing which I'm planning on turning into a play room which has big doors to the garden ds will love it! I'm already planning it out.

I will love it and I know I will be happy once it's all sorted and tbh I know h will find happiness once it's all settled and stuff but it's just the imbetween part that still scares me so so much.

Ducky, when he got back I was in bed. I had taken down the shower curtain and put it over his half of the bed. He said 'What's this? Is it the shower curtain?'
Me 'Yes, it's waterproof'.
It clicked and just for a few seconds he believed it and he looked really shocked then I giggled and he picked it up and threw it over me and told me to bugger off.
I can't believe he could think I might be serious. He says he thinks I am capable of anything if the mood takes me- nothing would surprise him

I think it is exciting looking at houses Ducky.

Hope they get that woman Cupcake.

How is ds1 now cupcake? What a horrible woman I hope she gets in some sort of trouble for it!

Haha lulu your poor dh he's scared you want to pee on him!!

Either today or tomorrow I'm ringing the estate agents to ask about a couple of houses. Hopefully going to view them this week or next.

You should get your car checked Cupcake - sometimes the damage is to the chassis and you can't see it. (This is according to DH who knows zilch about cars.)

Sounds like you have an opportunity here Ducky to leave. You have been trying to for almost 2 years now. It's a hard decision but things seem no better.

DH is at the pub. I have scared him I think. Today I have been quite horrified by the threads about men and sex and how many of them seem to want women to do things like pee on them. It seems, reading the threads that are around today, like it is very common . I asked DH if he would like me to do that and he looked totally stunned, raised an eyebrow and muttered 'Err.....no'. I think he thought I was offering (which I definitely wasn't. I was seeing what he would say). He hurried out to mow the lawn, then put a washer on a tap in the bathroom, then said he was going to the pub with BIL and not to wait up. I think he is scared to come home incase I have a plan. I haven't.

Omg that is AWFUL of that woman. Wtf is wrong with people! We're both the ds in the car? I hope not what happens next? Will your insurance people find her? Is there any chance of getting the scan moved forward? Or even getting in at epu based on what happened last time? I'm sure everything is fine but just for reassurance?

I'm worried because I didn't know it was so difficult to get a house there's one coming up that would be perfect because it's opposite my aunt, who would most definitely not take any rubbish from h so she could keep an eye out! But it sounds pretty difficult to get them!

I don't know why, I'm so miserable with him but the thought of breaking up with him terrifies me, I feel really sorry for him even though there is no love between us and we're only together because it's easy.

Oh cupcake that makes it slightly difficult!!! Maybe you should just mention it to them and as its there you might be in and out in a few mins?

How did the house viewing go?

Hope the ds's start sleeping again for you! My ds sleep has gone bad again after going really well!

I had some fantastic news, my grandad is willing to help me out with deposit etc for a house, so I just need to find somewhere suitable. Although your not filling me with hope cupcake!

Then it just leaves telling h, I'm so terrified!

Could you phone in sick cupcake? That's what I did for my first scan with dd1. I tried speaking to him in the day last time cupcake and then I went out but I didn't have anywhere to go so had to come back.

I think your right lulu. It terrified me last time. He wouldn't want me in the house, last time he told me I had to go because 'I was doing this'. He didn't care where me and ds were going. This time though I don't know what will happen as the mortgage payments have gone up quite a bit so neither of us can stay here alone.

I am still putting money away in my tin. Am hoping to get at least 2 months rent (and half deposit). My brother is also looking for somewhere to move so he said to make it easier we could get a decent sized place together and would go halves on everything which really helps.

Well done to your dh's school lulu! Hope his good mood continues. When does he go back after the hols?

You see Ducky, that is where his drama queen reaction last time has got you. He has made you apprehensve and more concerned about his reaction than your emotional well-being. It's a classic emotionally abusive behaviour. Perhaps if he thought you were staying in the house and he knew where you would be and could see the children, he might react differently this time- is that possible?

How do you think work will react Cupcake? I would go to the training and try to change the time or date of the scan. Don't lie to them about it. That won't look good when they do find out. I would think the NHS will just take it in their stride- they are a huge employer

DH is in a very happy mood - the sixth form at school did amazingly well in their A levels. We have been out for dinner to celebrate - SIL babysat DS who was delighted to see her.

Yes lulu, things are no better still. I have a tin I have been hiding money away when I can in the hope o will get enough for a deposit and at least a months rent somewhere.

Thing is, now would be a perfect time to split! Because one of h's friends rents with someone who has just moved out so he needs to find a roommate, the rent is really really cheap with all bills included so would be perfect for h. But he just doesn't think there's anything wrong at all with our relationship.

I wish I had the courage to tell him straight away but I just don't. I'm terrified of his reaction. I hate confrontation like that.

How are the dog and cat getting on Cupcake? SIL looked after our cats. She said they avoided her and BIL like the plague but scoffed all their food.
Sorry about the house. Something will come up.

Ducky, that is almost 7 months! Hasn't it gone quickly? What are your plans for DH? He was driving you mad before I went off.

DH has had to go to bed - he has had cheese on toast and a bowl of Heinz tomato soup and is fast asleep exhausted. DS has been in bed since 7. I am enjoying having the sitting room to myself and the cats are cuddled up with me.

That's awful about Cadbury world cupcake :-( hope ds managed to have a good time there though. And as for stbxh, he is a joke!! Won't even have his own children to give you a rest! I would love to go to Skegness one day! I haven't been on holiday in a while! Glad you got your training date. Are you still looking for a new house? Do people know about your pregnancy yet?

Glad you had a nice time lulu, who was looking after the cats for you? Bet they really missed you! I'm 26 weeks now!

We are back. Had a lovely time. DS has loved it- he has been in the pool every day and in the sea. Has been like DH's little shadow.

I might have put about half a stone on I think- have eaten lots of French cheeses, crepes, patisserie things and ice creams.

DH and I have not had a cross word.

Glad to be home though. Cats very pleased to see us. Nice to get a cool North Sea breeze.

How is everyone? Have you started your training Cupcake? What about the house you are after? How are you getting n Ducky? How many weeks are you now?

I am knackered tonight. Second flight was a bit of a trial but short thank goodness. DS was a bit whiney and I was worried he was disturbing people.

I've looked at that page, I think if worse comes to worse I could apply, on the grounds of his unreasonable behaviour last time? Maybe?

Did you say it was free?

Thanks cupcake, will read through when I have my lunch. The only problem is I couldn't afford the house on my own, not even close but I don't think he could either.

The mortgage is in both our names although there was a strange thing about it. When we brought the house it was before we were married. H was given £50k from his family as a deposit and it was decided we would get a mortgage and pay 50/50 on everything. In order to get the £50k I had to sign documents saying that if we were to break up and the house sold, h would get £50k back and 50% of anything left over, or two thirds of any money from sale iyswim.

Then we moved in h was conveniently unemployed for months on end so I paid £100 of all bills etc. Even paying for his car and petrol and stuff. Eventually when he got a job he started paying a small bit towards the food shopping and that was it, I still paid the rest. Then we got married.

When we had dd, h got some post. Because he never opens it I open it for him, it was from the solicitor and it was saying sorry to hear of the death of your daughter, then went on to say 'because you are now married the documents ducky signed are now void, in the event of the sale of the property any money would be split equally. Because of this we need to draw up more documents changing information where the money (£50k) came from. Please discuss this wth ducky and let me know if she is willing to sign'. Obviously it was more legally worded. But it basically said to screw me over more they want to lie about where he money came from.

I have still got that letter hidden I told h about it and I was mad, mainly because of timing. How dare she mention my daughter then try and get me screwed over in the same letter! I told him I threw it tho.