April 2014 thread! - still continually supporting one another!

I'm going to get my medusa done, and my tounge if I'm feeling brave... probably not a good idea to get them at the same time tho! Going to get my tattoos in the new year!

So so fed up, meant to rain here but not til later and we are all going insane. I've shouted at the kids so much just so fed up of never having a break from them too. It's stressful being round them 24/7 and we're still stuck in that horrible little flat so all in the same bedroom (and bed)

It's a bugger cus most the times he's lovely, he just has little episodes where he's horrible!

When is your scan?

I have court again the 18th. I think I'm going to treat myself to a piercing after!

My dc's are fine although we're all going insane, been snowed in the past 3 days, haven't got a garden or anything so ds can't go play in the snow and we're all trapped in the one room. It's driving me crazy! Hopefully we'll have rain later to clear it all away!

Well he made out the other night I only feed my kids mc Donald's (do they all get their lines from the same place?!) then he was a bit funny with me all night, then said he was sorry for being arsey with me it's just cus he has a cold. I mentioned it the next morning and he denies saying that, said that was just how I interpreted that and I need to learn to take a joke.

Told the courts, they dropped one of the charges but I still have to pay a £410 fine that I can no where near afford some of that is the court costs, it would had never of gone to court if I'd had the letters tho.

Sounds like you got yourself a good one cupcake!

How are all the ds's?

Indirect means he doesn't see them/him. Just letters etc which seems ridiculous as he can't understand them. He was 3 today.

Have been so stressed, read an article this morning (4am!) about a man who was abusive and many of his lines were the same as my exes and he killed the children. Haven't been able to sleep

Have had a speeding ticket go to court which he opened and kept for 6 months too. Just feel like everything is going his way.

Have also started to notice tendencies in my boyfriend I don't like, which I'm finding hard as I love him .

Too many mc Donald's what a pathetic excuse! Have you had ss come round?

Omg cupcake sounds awful! What did he say to social services?

Court overruled and gave supervised contact in a constant centre to my ex. He's been awful to me. Had one session and ds refused to go in, refused to look/talk to him etc. He doesn't want to see dd. Now I've had the court advisors round saying they're going to advise the court that he has indirect contact only.

Happy belated birthday both of you.

Cupcake, give him a chance but be careful, go slowly and use double contraception- whatever you are on and a condom. Take your time really getting to know him so if he turns out to be a wrong'un you haven't over-invested.

DS is at nursery and DD had her breakfast and is asleep again. It is bliss. I am having a cup of coffee before I start making some curtains. I bought some amazing Voyage material on a market stall and am making it into full length curtains for our front room. It is a bit of a challenge but is keeping my brain active. I might get an hour before DD wakes up - she had a bad night with teething.

MIL is staying with SIL at the moment so she is going to babysit tonight and DH and I are going out. Can't believe I am so excited about a meal out.

There's only one way to find out cupcake! Sounds like you found yourself a good egg!!

Most people forgot my birthday too

Happy birthday cupcake!!!

That sucks about everyone forgetting have a large wine and stick a movie on, that's my fave thing to do!

Do you think he'll crack and get it done lulu?

Cupcake he sounds lovely. A gentleman is exactly what you deserve. There is a 22 year age difference between me and my boyfriend.

Ds is loving pre school! Had my appt with the solicitor today to hand in statements about all the abuse I suffered from stbxh, it was something like 17 pages long, and I had photographic evidence of some. I just want all this to go away!

Cupcake, DH and I have been smiling about your descriptions of his age, as if he is ancient. We are both 38 now and not feeling elderly yet. He sounds nice. What does he do? Does he have his own place?

Ducky, I am with Cupcake on yours. Not good, not respectful. You deserve better.

I have told DH I don't want to take the pill so if he does not have a vasectomy there will be no sex without condoms- he hates condoms. We'll see.

That's lovely of him cupcake... are you still seeing how things go with him? Yas disco in the living room!

Lulu that's an awesome come back about his bits not being the same! Are you definately sure no more though? I think once I get myself a permanent house, I'm going to get sterilised.

Well he vanished for a few hours then was back home alone. there's been a few incidents tho, I posted on here about one not long ago, him and a girl telling each other they loved each other in messages, she lives in America but I still find it strange. All his friends are stunning young models but he seems overly close with all of them putting very flirty comments under all their barely clothed pics.

So is he just a friend with benefits Cupcake or might he turn into something more?

Your sounds like he might have a crush Ducky- not a good thing.

DH is seriously contemplating the vasectomy I have said he should have. He is humming and hawing about it. He would like more children but I am not having any more. 2 are quite enough. I don't want to be having teenagers in my 60s! He could have it on a Friday, have the weekend to recover and be at work on the Monday. I am sick of hearing about it tbh and he is full of rubbish about it, I can't be bothered. I just say 'Really?' and 'Mmm' very vaguelY. I struggled not to snap when he said last night 'It's sore afterwards you know' and 'It is a life-chnaging decision Lu and if something went wrong my bits might never be the same'. I muttered 'Try giving birth' and he shook his head as if I had no idea. Grr! ✂️

You have nothing to feel guilty about cupcake, nothing at all. How has the guy taken it? I hope he supports you through it. And if I was closer to you I would help you out as it must be totally draining with 3, you are a super hero! But that many children would be insane maybe if we were closer we could just drink wine in the lounge and pretend we were both out

Lulu I have found dd to be more difficult than ds! I thought girls were meant to be easier!

Having a bit of a moment tonight. When I first got with dp, he was showing me pictures of his 'friend' and he was telling me about how perfect and gorgeous and amazing she is. I thought nothing of it. The start of last week he told me she split up from her boyfriend, then the day or so after told me they were going out for 'dinner and a catch up' today. I think they haven't actually met in person and this is their first meeting. I'm so anxious about it. Guys.... I think I found myself another bad egg there's been a few 'issues' as of late. Think I'm actually giving up on men all together.

Cupcake that is really sad. I am so sorry you are in this situation. What an awful time. How are you feeling today? How did DS1 get on at school? DS still has two years yet. He goes to nursery two whole days and a morning. DD is 5 months now and sitting up. She is not as easy as DS was. I love it when she has an afternoon nap- I have one too. The cats avoid her like the plague. She adores DH and he does her. Mutual admiration society. 🙄 Little witch can whinge all afternoon and them beam, hold her arms up to him as he comes through the door and be sweetness and light all night. DS bosses her about and tells her what she should do.