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Cupcake92 · 2016-02-16T11:03:30+00:00

New thread :) I want to see lots of our old faces back!! Come on girls!

duckyisback · 13/10/2016 21:46

I don't know cupcake, i need to speak to the council and tell them my situation I think and see what they say. The room allocation is ridiculous. I'd only be entitled to a 2 room as well until dd is older.

Omg I'm so sorry to hear about your dog the poor thing, had she been poorly for long? My dog died two years ago, he was only 4, he had a brain tumour

Did you see the parents when you got her?

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Cupcake92 · 13/10/2016 20:03

Oh no ducky! :( I'm sure u will get one! Have you tried asking the council? I've signed up to bid on housing association houses BUT I'm only entitled to a 2 bed until this baby is born :/ and I desperately need a 3 bed.

I'm absolutely gutted and heartbroken :( my poor dog is only 8 months old and I had to rush her to the vets today.....she's got a tumour, had a biopsy today and her results are tomorrow at 11am. But the vet said it doesn't look good at all and he's warning me now it's looks like cancer :(
He said the worst thing tomorrow
Would be id take her in, they operate on her and if it's too bad and spread then that's it she'll be put down :(
She's only 8months old how is that fair!? :(

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duckyisback · 11/10/2016 19:29

Are you feeling better now cupcake?

I'm gutted. Got told today I didn't get the house... and I'm unlikely to get any one in any of the areas I need to be as they're all stopping accepting people on benefits feeling super down about it all. Can't help but think I'll be stuck in this horrible miserable place forever

At least for now I'm going to be squashed in a room sleeping on the floor with ds and dd. I don't even know how we're all going to fit in.

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Cupcake92 · 11/10/2016 08:03

It was just a really bad day. I think the fact I was so tired and exhausted didn't help much!

They always take forever with houses! I hope you get it or at least get one soon!
As for H grr why do some men do that?! Ur on a limited income yet he's got cash (or had) but spent it on crap then expect u to pay up! They only care about themselves

Oh as for ds being all for his dad don't worry. Ds1 is like that. He'll go on and on and on about his dad saying he wants his dad and cries and moans for his dad but then that passes and he doesn't want to see his dad changes his mind a lot! So I wouldn't worry, he'll soon get over the dad phase and want u all the time lol :)

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duckyisback · 10/10/2016 06:06

Oh cupcake that sounds difficult and I'm sure i would have done the same thing. Sometimes I struggle with just ds going out and being pregnant let alone having 2! Thank god your xh isn't being an idiot and took them for you! You are doing fantastic, you had a hard day but keep on because you really are doing great.

Still waiting on the house I'm just really really hoping no news is good news iyswim. am applying for 2 more today but they're small but st least it's something. I came so so so close to ending it last night. He was horrible to me again, really bad. I went for a shower to calm down and text dm telling her once ds is in bed I'm telling him because I had enough. When I went down, he does what he usually does, he realised he went too far so started being all nice. Then I feel bad again. Just hope this house comes up this week.

Then he'll paint me as the devil to anyone who will listen but I'm hoping it calms down quickly.

I feel bad too because ds is going through a phase of being obsessed with him. I know it's really really stupid (and hopefully due to pregnancy hormones) but I cried yesterday because h spends like an hour or two with ds and that's enough for him, then he does what he wants, he's never once got up wirh him, made him dinner, changed his nappy, yet ds was crying shouting for daddy.

He's also told me that my weekly money (what's left over after I pay the bills which is £20 a week) which I use to take ds to soft play/swimming/trips/baby groups, has to go towards the bills now as he can't afford it. Yet this moth he has brought himself a load of new clothes, a new bag, some stuff for his bike, stuff for his weight lifting, and I found hidden booze and fags the other day which he doesn't know I know about. So it's ok for him to spend on himself but he wants to take away ds only money. And he brought himself all of that after not getting me even a card for my birthday the week before because 'he couldn't afford it'. I also found a hidden container for a weight lifting powder thing, it costs £45 to buy. H completely denied it, he said it's not his, he found it at work empty and liked the container so brought it back.

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Cupcake92 · 09/10/2016 19:56

Yes ducky he has them both for the whole day.
How are things going? Have u heard about the house??

I am really struggling atm and worrying how I'm gonna look after 3 small children on my own :(
I went out this morning to Asda and ds1 was being awful! I needed to get him some shoes for preschool to run about in as his trainers got a huge hole in! He wouldn't try them on and screamed and tried to chuck all the shoes off the racks.
I just brought him the pair and went. We nipped into subway to grab some lunch to take home. He wanted 2 packs of crisps and I said no pick one. This made him again chuck himself on the floor screaming and I paid for the food and tried to leave but he was literally sat at the till screaming and people needed to pay. I also had ds2 and was holding him. I ended up just breaking down into tears and just basically shouted at him saying I can not do this and I dragged him out. I'm a single parent I have one small child on my hip, a screaming toddler and u can tell I'm pregnant as I have a big belly now and not one person helped me. They just sat n watched n probably spoke about what an awful mother I am :(
It's been a horrible day :( and I think I've cried the whole day.
I drove them to exH's house after n said he needs to have them for a few hours as im having a bad day. He was actually really good about it n took them off me and said he'd give them tea as well then I could come pick them up after tea.
I came home had a super long bath and went to bed for a bit.

It's been one of those days where I just wish I had someone.

Hope everyone's else is okay and I hope u don't mind me having a big rant

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duckyisback · 05/10/2016 12:04

Does he have them both for the whole day?

I have no idea if he knows or not. He's being really really wierd. Like possessive then he's trying to be all nice to me

I don't know if he'll get me anything for our anniversary. I won't be getting him anything. I'm hoping I'll have a house by then. Still waiting to hear about this one house, but two more have just come up. I'm getting desperate!

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Cupcake92 · 04/10/2016 19:46

Exh admitted he wouldn't cope with them both at night yet as he's a 'heavy sleeper' and worried that he won't wake up when they do in the night. But I feel fine that they never stay over I think I'd worried my head off if they did

He sees them every Monday and Thursday. That's the days I'll be working. Also sometimes has them on a Sunday for lunch but not always.

Hmm that is weird behaviour by ur h maybe he senses something is not right I don't know.

Oh gosh, do u think he'll get u anything for ur anniversary?

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duckyisback · 04/10/2016 13:21

I have no idea if my h will want ds overnight. I'm thinking probably not. I'm hoping not. Ds still doesn't sleep, and I know it was ages ago but last time h took over the night shift I had to interrupt and sort ds out as h was getting so mad I was worried

I wouldn't worry about the movement yet cupcake, I know I was over 20 weeks before I felt anything At all this time which really worried me too but now she does star jumps!

It's good h has them both together, how often will he see them?

I'm very worried about h's behaviour ATM. He's being very.... strange. We didn't speak at all Sunday, barely spoke yesterday, now today he keeps texting me asking how his 'beautiful family are' and how we're so good together and he went on my Facebook and commented on a pic of me an ds saying 'MY baby'

It's our wedding anniversary at the end of the month too I'm dreading that.

Just trying to post this for the 5th time, it's saying failed to post! Sorry if it's posted loads!!

duckyisback · 04/10/2016 13:21

I have no idea if my h will want ds overnight. I'm thinking probably not. I'm hoping not. Ds still doesn't sleep, and I know it was ages ago but last time h took over the night shift I had to interrupt and sort ds out as h was getting so mad I was worried

I wouldn't worry about the movement yet cupcake, I know I was over 20 weeks before I felt anything At all this time which really worried me too but now she does star jumps!

It's good h has them both together, how often will he see them?

I'm very worried about h's behaviour ATM. He's being very.... strange. We didn't speak at all Sunday, barely spoke yesterday, now today he keeps texting me asking how his 'beautiful family are' and how we're so good together and he went on my Facebook and commented on a pic of me an ds saying 'MY baby'

It's our wedding anniversary at the end of the month too I'm dreading that.

duckyisback · 04/10/2016 13:20

I have no idea if my h will want ds overnight. I'm thinking probably not. I'm hoping not. Ds still doesn't sleep, and I know it was ages ago but last time h took over the night shift I had to interrupt and sort ds out as h was getting so mad I was worried

I wouldn't worry about the movement yet cupcake, I know I was over 20 weeks before I felt anything At all this time which really worried me too but now she does star jumps!

It's good h has them both together, how often will he see them?

I'm very worried about h's behaviour ATM. He's being very.... strange. We didn't speak at all Sunday, barely spoke yesterday, now today he keeps texting me asking how his 'beautiful family are' and how we're so good together and he went on my Facebook and commented on a pic of me an ds saying 'MY baby'

It's our wedding anniversary at the end of the month too I'm dreading that.

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Cupcake92 · 04/10/2016 10:40

They are okay ducky. Up and down. Some days he seems like a great dad and being nice, other days he's just useless and pathetic lol
He does have ds2 now yes and they actually have a really good bond. But he still doesn't have them overnight tho.

I hope you do hear about the house soon! Keeping my fingers crossed for u!

Omg 5 weeks left!! Is that it! That's flown by!

I'm 17 weeks pregnant now ages to go! Haven't felt baby move yet tho. And weirdly haven't had any signs of spd which is good but also it worries me that he's not growing right or something's not quite right in there.

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duckyisback · 03/10/2016 09:30

How are things now with xh cupcake? Have you been getting on? Is he having ds2 for your now too? I hope my mil doesn't bother, I really do. She's such a horrible person. But beleive me, ds is so uncomfortable around her I will fight til the bitter end to make sure she doesn't have him!

I don't know when I hear about the house... I put the application in last week so I'm hoping this week. There was so many people viewing it though I'm thinking I probably won't get it

I have been slowly moving things out the house though so dd2's stuff is all over the place, I just want to get it all sorted now. I only have 5 weeks left! Well it will be 5 weeks on Thursday until my induction date. 4 weeks until I'm full term.

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Cupcake92 · 02/10/2016 23:45

Sounds like you've had a lovely weekend Lulu :) it's beeen lovely weather hear also. I've listerally done all my washing this weekend and it's all dried outside !

Eugh ducky I feel for u having to go to mil! If u know ds wouldn't feel comfortable sleeping over at her house stand ur ground and do not let him go! Both my ds's would never stay at my mil house. She hasn't even spoken to me or the dc's since the split. So my kids have no clue who she is

When do u find out about that house?

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duckyisback · 02/10/2016 18:28

Sounds like you have had a lovely time lulu. It has been awful weather here the past two days.... no good for camping! Did you tell sil?

I went to mil. It was worse than I was expecting and ended up in an absolutely massive argument. Ds hardly knows her at all, he wouldn't go near her and didn't like him speaking to her, which is weird for ds. I can only assume he is picking up on my feelings. But she went mad because she wants to have him stay the night. Ds would hate that so much. He would be so upset and confused. It's stressed me out so much. I feel ill since it has happened

I couldn't make h go alone, it's an hours drive away and he lost his licence last time we split. I couldn't say no as he would make my life hell if I did.

LuluJakey1 · 02/10/2016 13:04

Well DS and I have had a nice weekend to ourselves. Dh and BIL went to the Lakes yesterday in the camper, walking. Are camping there. Must be mad. Will be back later on today.
DS and I have been doing nice things, been to beach and took his pull along bike, saw the seals at the lighthouse yesterday.
Today we have been for a walk alng to the park and fed the ducks. We are off to have lunch with SIL. I haven't told her about me being pregnant yet. I might this afternoon- will see.
Don't go to MILs Ducky. Let DH go by himself.

duckyisback · 02/10/2016 10:46

Ergh got to go to mil house today. Actually feeling sick at the thought of it

duckyisback · 01/10/2016 07:22

Cupcake, I'm a fan of injections they keep an eye on me anyway because of dd1, I have 3 weekly scans and regular consultant/midwife appointments. They will probably just change my next scan to scan and consultant I think, but that annoys me because it usually means ages waiting around!

Lulu, maybe it's a phase... ds does something similar... only he slaps. but with me he'll pat it and say 'ahhh baby'.

Have put my application form in for the house so it's just a waiting game now.

LuluJakey1 · 30/09/2016 17:34

I have no idea why DS patted my tummy and said biscuit. You can't tell I am pregnant just looking. He patted DH's tummy last night and said 'duck' - dcks are a bit of an obsession at the moment - but don't know what the tummy patting is about.
DH has taken him out for a walk. I am lying on the bed tired.
Are you Ok Ducky?

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Cupcake92 · 30/09/2016 13:13

Hello!!
My internet has been down for a few days! :( apparently something was faulty with the main line? :s
It's back now tho! Yay!

Oh no ducky!! Hope everything's okay? Have you got to go back and be checked or do they just put it as a one off thing? As for the house it's annoying when you View one with lots of other people!

Lulu, biscuit is cute bless your ds!!

I had a flu jab the other day! I normally hate needles but it was actually alright and have felt fine since having it :) glad I had it now!
I'm weirdly feeling alright this pregnancy :s which makes me feel like I don't have a baby in there haha

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duckyisback · 28/09/2016 18:57

Haha biscuit!? He must think you've ate too many

Ds is very concerned about me since being in hospital and won't leave my side. When we got back he made me sit down and made me tea with his tea set he keeps hugging me saying 'ahhh mommy'.

Went to view the house, don't know if I'll get it. There were 5 loads of people viewing it at the same time so was very awkward I think the fact I'll be on benefits will go against me

LuluJakey1 · 28/09/2016 18:07

How are you Ducky? Hope everything is OK.

3 boys is lovely Cupcake. Think what you'll save on clothes. We are not bothered as lng as this one is healthy. A girl would be nice but so would a boy.

DS patted my tummy today and said 'biscuit'

duckyisback · 27/09/2016 13:34

Cupcake, boys are wicked I'm sure yours will all be very good friends and have a great relationship!

Can you get any help from housing benefit or anything? Sounds really difficult are you on the list for social housing?

Had a huge scare today. I was out shopping with ds, I had some pain, it felt quite low down but was uncomfortable. I thought it was just because I needed a wee. There were no toilets near so I went home, when I wiped there was blood so I phoned hospital in a panic. They said I had to go to the bigger hospital that's further away because they thought I was in labor and they have a specialist nicu. I was terrified. Dm came to take me. They monitored me and I was having contractions but they Wernet sure if they were practice ones or not, they tgink the pain is a water infection and aren't quite sure where the blood came from but there is no more and my cervix is closed. So scary. Got to wait two days to confirm whether it's a water infection.

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Cupcake92 · 27/09/2016 09:22

Bless u ducky :( u are certainly doing the right thing and I think the note is a very good idea. At least then he'll know what's happened and given the opportunity to sort contact out for the children etc. Sounds like the right way to go about it ducky. And I do hope u get a house soon! I'm also still looking and there's nothing :( plus atm as my new job started later than expected (my start date is 3rd October) I'm so behind on every bill going and in some bad debt now and I can't even pay my rent this month and it's due to come out Saturday :( I can't even get a loan as I have bad credit. Ahh lol

Lulu ur ds sounds like he knows exactly what he wants! bless him!

Yes my scan was yesterday. I hadn't posted anything about it yet as (as bad as it sounds) I was feeling a bit disappointed :/ it's a boy! That's 3 boys I'll have. I'm never getting my girl now :( all I ever wanted was a little girl. Not sure how I'll cope with 3 boys. I was just so so desperate to get a girl because I'm not physically able to have anymore children :(
I feel better about it today as he was healthy and nothing wrong. And I picked a name. I think I'm gonna call him Jaxson. I quite like that name.

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duckyisback · 26/09/2016 21:29

I tried but they said it's fully booked for viewings seems wierd because it's been listed for a long time.

I could get social housing but I would have to go into a refuge first, I have been offered a place a few times but they don't sound like pleasant places.

My plan is to get a private rent, then after 6 months I can go on the housing register and hopefully get a council/ha property then. It has to be 6 months though as I'm moving to a different borough, but it's just down the road iywim.

Cupcake was it your scan today?