April 2014 thread! - still continually supporting one another!

That is really good news about your flat Ducky. Congratulations. Could someone else not screenshot his stuff for you so that you don't read it. It s having exactly the effect he wants it to. Let him get on with it. As soon as he sees you are not reacting he will just stop.Don't tell him your new address either.

We moved lots of smaller stuff yesterday- that BIL could move by himself or with a porter's trolley someone had loaned him from work. The kitchen is unpacked and lots of our clothes in the 'dressing area' which isn't posh at all but what a treat to have it. Books on shelves, small tables, stuff in garage.DH helped after work. DS was excited and ran round shouting but a bit nervous as well and puzzled by it all. Don't know what he'll be like tonight when he has to sleep there.
We cleared the dining room here apart from our dresser and the table and moved SIL and BIL boxes here as well. Their stuff is in our kitchen which felt odd. I am feeling a bit emotional about this house now. DH and I have been so happy here. I am glad SIL and BIL are having it.
Typical of DH, he thinks he might have a 'games room' and get a snooker table, a big telly and have a bar in one of the attic rooms so he and BIL and his mates can watch football and chill out up there. We'll see about that.
Today is going to be busy and I imagine DH will be in bossy mode as chief removal man.
Hope DS2 is feeling better Cupcake. Your exH needs a poke in the eye with a sharp stick.

Oh no cupcake I hate taking them for injections hope he is feeling better soon! And at exh!! I don't understand what goes through their heads! How can they be like that with their own children.

I got some absolutely wicked news today.... I went to view two flats. I got one and even better..... I pick up the keys tomorrow feels like such a huge huge weight off my shoulders! I could of actually cried. The landlord was lovely and I told him about my situation, he had a lot of interest on the flat but said because of my situation he was going with me and will get the keys to me tomorrow. Restored my faith in people!

Thanks guys I honestly don't know why he still has so much control over me. He put another suicide message on there last. He was meant to go back to work today after his 'paternity leave' and I was worried sick because he put that status on there, then went offline. First thing he does every morning is check his Facebook, and he should of been up for work at 5.30 but there was no sign of him. I went all morning not knowing if he had hurt himself. Then he appears again. He messaged me this evening saying he wants to see them and his manager has told him to take another few days off

I keep him on my Facebook as I screenshot the wierd stuff he does for evidence, he usually leaves stuff up for a few hours then deletes it. He's so manipulative people just think he's a nice guy so I feel like I nee evidence. When I called the police that one night even the police officer said that he seems like a nice guy I was lol, eeenmm yes a nice guy who just smashed up the house and was stabbing knives everywhere while his son is in the house

Sorry to ramble on. It just helps getting it down.

Did you complete today lulu?

Ducky- don't give in. Let him get on with it. If he is stupid enough to kill himself you and the children will get the house anyway. Take him to court. Change solicitor. Just don't give in or involve yourself in his conversations. Don't look at his Facebook. He is a tosser and a bully. How dare he demand you take the children to him. I would make him go to a contact centre the way he is going on. I feel like thumping him myself on your behalf I am so angry for you.
The people we are buying our house from moved today and came round and gave us the keys. We have exchanged contracts and complete tomorrow so can start moving stuff tomorrow. DH is off on Friday but BIL is going to move boxes and things tomorrow for us and SIL and I will unpack stuff- kitchen, books, some clothes.DS is at nursery tomorrow and Friday. DH and BIL will start moving some furniture at tea time and then bigger stuff on Friday morning then BIL and SIL will move in here and DH will help them move.

Sorry that was so long! Am just getting fed up of it and needed to rant!

Do you still have your support belt cupcake?

Tbh I'm not impressed with my solicitor, she's very slow at doing anything and seems extremely sympathetic towards stbxh. The only reason I went with her was because she seemed to think she could sort my housing problem out but that hasn't happened

Last night there was a big argument. Whenever he has asked to see the dc I have always took them, and I have took them to him. I have never said no to him seeing them. The night I was out of hospital I was exhausted and uncomfortable but I took them to see him as he was moaning about it. Baring in mind he doesn't mind that we are currently homeless, and doesn't pay a penny towards them.

The other day he text me st night saying he wanted to see them the next day, because last time I went round the house was filthy I said I would meet him up the park with them in the morning as I was very busy for the afternoon. He had been on his phone but not replied. He then must have gone back to bed and woke up in the afternoon when he rang saying he was ready to meet me at the park. I was out at this point and not feeling well, ds still hasn't slept so I said if he was awake after I had done shopping I would try and pop round before I had to go out again. He was demanding he must see them and I got mad and said only if I had time, if not it would be the next day. I ran out of time.

Anyway, later that night he put a Facebook status up, which was pretty much a suicide threat. Then he text me saying it's killing him that he's just sat there.

I rang him up and he was obviously extremely drunk. He was crying down the phone saying I'm stopping him seeing his kids. I told him I have always done what he wanted when he wanted. Then he hung up on me and turned his phone off. Probably because he knows I'm right.

I waited a bit and rang back and he just kept saying I'm stopping him seeing his kids. I told him I would speak to him tomorrow when he is sober and hung up.

I feel like I'm being bullied, and even though I am away from him he's still controlling my life. It's horrible

He's saying I'm stopping him seeing his kids, but he couldn't wait to get out the hospital when dd had been born. He litrally only wanted to stay to take a picture of himself with her. They even got a student midwife to come in to pretty much be my birthing partner to rub my back and give me drinks and talk to me because he just sat in the corner not speaking to me.

I'm getting fed up of it all now but it's definitely showing me I have 100% made the right decision.

Lulu that is lovely news about sil!! Your ds will be a big brother and a cousin!! How many weeks are you now? I didn't tear last time I was cut, apparently the cut tore open this time. Strange though as this time I only had gas and air and wouldn't have known if they didn't tell me! Whereas with ds I had an epidural and felt it.

Cupcake have you had any spd this time so far?

Absolutely gutted about my house... just as I went into labor, strong contractions, I got a message from the estate agents to say they have decided not to give me the house they had someone view it just before me, they got an application in just after I had been accepted, but they are working

Am currently kind of sofa surfing between family's house. Stbxh doesn't give a shit. He hasn't paid a penny maintainance and is sitting in our house (that is now absolutely filthy) whilst me and his kids have nowhere to go.

Dd was born Thursday, he spend maybe an hour with her in the hospital and then demanded I take her and ds round to his the night after I got out where he spent half an hour with them.... well, he sat on the sofa while ds played on the floor and then he held dd for like 5 mins.

Have viewed one other house so far, it was tiny, on a main road with no parking, and have two more to view this week but am not holding out much hope. I just really don't know why I am still so terrified of stbxh and tip toeing around him

I am just so so thankful I have my two wonderful dc, and am just trying to stay strong for them

We have had a lovely tea tonight. Roasted sweet potato chips and roasted parsnips- with honey and mustard glaze. Brussel sprouts. DH and DS has roast chicken and I had quorn sausages. Veggie gravy and Yorkshire puds. It was delicious.

I am not overdoing things Ducky. I feel great at the moment and you can't tell I am pregnant when I am dressed, although I have a small bump when I am not. I am still earing my normal clothes and think I will be able to for a while yet as they are mainly tunic dresses and opaque tights.

That's lovely about DS with DD. I hope my DS will be as keen. We have just stopped mentioning it because he shows no interest. When we move he will have his own room separate from the nursery so we are going to start preparing him after Christmas by him seeing the nursery being done etc. He is too excited by his little life and all the things he loves doing to be interested in something he can't see, hear or touch at the moment.

Big news this morning - SIL is pregnant! About 7 weeks so early days. They are delighted, just so over the moon and we are really pleased for them. Odd to think it will have DS's nursery here- she decorated it for him with paintings on the walls once we had painted it. She loves it and says they are going to keep it as it is. She said they have known for a couple of weeks and were going to wait to tell people but decided to tell us. They are waiting until Christmas to tell PIL.

I hope your tears heal quickly Ducky. I got off very lightly last time and am hoping I will this time. Did you have bad tears last time? The thought frightens me.

We got home late last night, we had to wait in to see peads as she had a mark on her face, but it's just a rash that should fade over time.

Am a bit more sore today. Ended up having a lot of stitches. Had a first and a second degree tear and then more stitches where her nails cut me on the way out

She's very chilled out at the moment ds is very proud and keeps holding her.

Cupcake will you be having physio or anything for your hips?

Lulu that is a speedy move! Hope everything goes well Friday and your not doing too much while pregnant!

We are almost packed. Dining room os packed and full of boxes. Spare bedroom os packed. Garage and kitchen are packed. Shed packed. Lots od DS's things and most of our clothes packed.
Moving on Friday. It has happened quickly and smoothly. Quite exciting.

Before I got pregnant I mean, not when I was about to give birth

I am two stone lighter than I was before I had DS!

Congratulations Ducky She is beautiful. I am so glad you are both safe and well. Lovely idea about the babygro- made me feel tearful.
Hope you had some rest last night. Are you home today?
DS will be so excited.

Hello

Well that was eventful..

Contractions stopped, then started again some time later and within an hour she was here

Too fast for any kind of pain releif and they came on extremely fast and strong. I was an absolute wuss, screaming in agony. I was having contractions with no breaks the staff were absolutely amazing though. They had no room on labor ward so I was in the assessment unit surrounded by other ladies for the most part! They were all very nice about my screaming too haha.

Have got some pretty bad tearing and grazes but have got plenty of pain releif now.

She is wearing her big sisters baby grow

Hope everything has happened and you are both resting Ducky.