April 2014 thread! - still continually supporting one another!

How was ds in his new room lulu?

Not too long cupcake! Is the consultant appointment specifically to discuss a vbac? I found then midwifes and consultants always say completely different things:

How strange that stbxh will have the kids but never over night! I don't understand men!

And I don't think there's any risk of me getting pregnant!

I was on cerazette- didn't stop my bleeding but it was lighter.

DS was awake at half 7 this morning and asleep by 8 tonight so getting back to normalish. He has been full of energy today. He pats my bump now and says 'baby' but it is just copying what DH shows him to do. His room has been decorated and his furniture has arrived so tomorrow night is the big changeover to a bed. Hoping it goes smoothly. It is right next to his room now and has view of the park so he can still see the ducks. He and I are arranging his toys in there tomorrow.

Cupcake , DH is fine with work. Has really adjusted now to the job.

Ducky, it will be SIL and BIL who have DS when I go to the hospital. If it is through the night we will just ring and they will come here and stay here. It is only 2 minutes drive. If it is through the day they will just pick him up from nursery. We are hoping it will be during the Easter holidays and DH will be off. Then he can keep the paternity leave until later in the summer term.

I would just let STBXH get on with his grumping Ducky. You are well rid. Who cares what he thinks?

Hope DS2 is ok Cupcake- could it be a heat rash?

Cupcake why have they said that? Can you ask for a second opinion? I've seen so many threads on here about people going for vbacs. Your midwife doesn't sound too supportive! How has stbxh been with you recently?

Lulu your ds is pulling a late one! Have you decided who will be having ds when you go into labour?

Well I think I have given up on ever getting the ds Christmas money of stbxh. The draft divorce petition has been signed and returned to the solicitor. He won't like it as it mentions the history of domestic violence and him cheating on me and not doing anything round the house and how he reacted last time we split. He's going to be fuming knowing that I have told anyone about all of that. I had to go collect some stuff from the house while he was at work, I think he's moved his girlfriend in so i didn't want her using/taking my stuff. I found his large stash of condoms.... I hid them because I was feeling petty

I know I have asked before, but, were both of you on cerezette? I got my pills the other day. They said there's a manufacturing problem with cerezette so it's a different pill but the same kind. Did it stop your periods?

Well Ds has just gone to sleep! He has been running round until half 9 then snuggled in watching TV with DH until about 10 minutes ago. DH has been at a parents' evening and came in about half 8, had his meal and looks knackered. Just wait until we have two of them!

Ds likes that kids programme he's on with the puppet things

How was ds injections?

Dd was not happy at all! Stbxh didn't bother asking how she was. I'm feeling a bit down about it at the moment, how can he care so little. We were together 10 years but it's like he has no concern in the slightest for me or the kids. I think our whole relationship was a lie and I wasted 10 years on him, loosing every single friend I had along the way.

But on a positive note, my solicitor got my marriage certificate today so the divorce can move on so excited to get the final thing to confirm the divorce. I'm going to frame it!

Omg cupcake! That was on in the background and I heard someone talking about anti depressants in pregnancy! I didn't hear it all just remember glancing across at if! I was playing with ds.

H finally text me. I met him at the pub half way between our houses. He was already there when I got there, he had hit himself a drink, nothing for ds. I had to get ds a drink. There was a £1 toy machine and ds was standing by it saying 'please daddy! Please daddy! Please daddy!' Stbxh told him he didn't have any money to get him one.... then walked off to get himself a drink, he paid in cash.

I think stbxh has moved his new gf into our house they have been posting pictures. She's sat in my house, drinking out my favourite wine glass (I had a special glass I used to drink out of ) while stbxh cooks for her. He never did that for me. No doubt she has gone through all my stuff and took what she wants.

Who are they Cupcake? Why did you speak to them?

It began with an S and was about a wman who had aliens growing inside her. It was awful.
SIL has tried everything. It is just continual. She isn't throwing up, just feeling nauseous all the time. Has stopped actually being sick.

DS goes through phases with eating. The last one was a fortnight of weetabix and scrambled egg.

What film was he watching lulu? I love crap horrors

Poor sil with her morning sickness! Has she tried them wrist bands? I hear they are quite good.

Am having a bit of trouble trying to get ds to eat recently, he just won't eat anything and I'm getting a bit worried. I have his dietitian soon so I'm hoping she can give some advice.

Boobs not bobs

Rant away Ducky- happy to listen to you. You are right- you have your lovely children and have dumped the loser- now let him sink himself.

No SIL goes to bed very early at the minute - is really suffering with sickness and only feels better lying down. Is exhausted. DS went to bed about 8, very tired by then. DH is watching a crap horror film and has had all of his snacks and beer. I have had a glass of prosecco. He has just said 'Shall we just go to bed?' It is pouring here and really cold. Walking home along the seafront was absolutely arctic. Says -3 on the outside thermometer. Cats tucked up in their becs next to the radiator. Exciting New Year's Eve

My bobs are so sore at the minute I can't lie on them.

Happy New Year!

And happy new year!

Happy birthday to ds for yesterday lulu!! Your dh is a good egg I hope I find someone like him one day! Is sil having ds tonight?

That has most definitely dropped cupcake!! Does ds1 understand there is a new baby coming?

When I last spoke to stbxh about that 'present' I told him I couldn't speak to him right now because of how angry I was. I have not heard a peep from him since. He usually sees the kids Saturday but every Friday he will text to confirm the time and stuff, I didn't hear from him so I didn't take them. I'm tired of fighting for him to have an interest in his children. I'm tired of having to drive all the way to a dirty house where we can't even sit down because he doesn't clean. He didn't contact me to ask where they were, if they're ok, or when he can see them again but he has been putting lots of lovey dovey photos up with new gf.

I'm feeling a lot stronger and able to stand up to his bullying now, but it just sucks because I have lost all my friends through this whole relationship. I have no one to talk it through with..... so I rant on to you two! (Sorry!)

I have been getting very stressed about the whole thing but had a bit of a turning point earlier. I was sat on my living room floor with dd on my lap and playing with ds and his dinosaurs. Dd has started smiling so was sat there smiling and ds was laughing away and playing nicely. For the first time in a very very long time I felt genuinely happy. I have lost a lot but he is the one missing out on times like that. My children are amazing if only I had chose them a better father!

Gosh, it has dropped Cupcake! Has baby not just settled low down? Could it be to do with 2 previous caesarians and muscles being cut? My bump is still pretty small. Have only put 6lbs on.

We have been poured about 10 cups of tea this morning - all empty by DS from his plastic tea set. He has just handed DH a plate and said 'Hungry Daddy' . Almost lunchtime I think.

We are off out to the antique/junk market after lunch then havng tea at the Italian place about half 4 and walking home along the seafront.

Just us tonight. DH- who has been planning what he is having at the Italian place all morning - has bought stuff for a cold supper later on- olives, hummus, flafels, tzatziki, cheeses, bread, a camembert to cook in the oven, crisps and some salad. He is looking forward to all the food and a quiet night he says. SIL is suffering badly with sickness being pregnant and goes to bed really early.

Have a happy New Year's Eve and a good 2017 everyone.

Well DS is 2 !
He had a lunch and tea party - PIL, BIL, SIL , grandma and Elisabeth the old lady we are friends with, and me and DH.
He was very good. He got a tea set and a kitchen and crayons and paper and paints and brushes and some old fashioned toys like a spinnng whizzing top thing amongst other things. He has been serving tea and giving cups to us all and putting sandwiches on plates and handing us them-including nes he has dropped on the floor and picked back up and ne the cat got.
I was watching DH with him and am just in awe of how amazing a dad he is. I felt all soppy about it.
Happy New Year you two, I hope 2017 is your best yet.