Thread 10 ttc#1 The one where we're all really bored of hormones, the tww and cervical mucus or Why is my eggo not preggo!?

It's getting better elle thanks for asking. GP prescribed amiltryptiline at night which it really helping. Hoping I can stop the co-codamol now as pain more manageable.

Midwife clears up all the mess at a homebirth. We don't leave until we make sure the house is in the same state it was when we first arrived (and mum and baby are all ok of course). Plastic sheeting is what you need!

I want a homebirth, simply because being in my own surroundings will make me feel more comfortable, I love the thought of being able to snuggle down in my own bed after with my baby and DH, not have to wait about to be discharged home. I have several colleagues in mind who I would ask to be my midwives.

Latest evidence is that homebirth is just as safe for 2nd time mums (who've previously had a low risk birth) as hospital. First time mums, evidence suggests that mlu is the better option.

Whilst our mlu is beautiful and looks like a hotel, I personally would still feel more relaxed at home. And the more relaxed you are, the increased likelyhood of a normal labour and birth. I always tell my women who are considering a homebirth to really think about where they would feel safest and most relaxed. If they aren't sure, then I normally suggest that an mlu might be the better option.
I'm not silly though, any pregnancy complications or any signs of of anything going pearshaped, then I would be straight in. Id also trust my colleagues to say 'Pug, this isn't going to happen at home' and I would listen and take their advice.

This is all very hypothetical until the bfp comes along though!

Thank you all! I'm glad its a positive story for others - I know it can start to feel a bit hopeless after a few cycles - and I was worried that I was so anxious about it it would affect my chances. Now on to a whole load of new anxieties! Hope you all get your BFPs very soon :)

Kat can you put me down for testing on March 6th please?

Congratulation Golden thanks for sharing I stress about lots of people getting a BFP in cycle 1 or 2 (which i didn't ) so it's so great to hear of a BFP in cycle 5 xxx

Golden congratulations!!!! 🎊 And thank you for your post! I'm just heading into cycle 5 so that is just the dose of positive I needed!! 😉

Lara I am terrified of this episiotomy business too.

I never even considered a home birth either. I want to be near all the doctors and equipment of anything goes wrong plus who clears up all the mess at home???

Congrats golden you weren't behind... I'm on to cycle 7 now. for you

I think a midwife led unit would be my preference. I saw something on TV recently that said up to 50% of homebirths need to be transferred to hospital during labour (that might just have been for first borns). I couldn't cope with that. Let me be near all the medics and equipment in case anything goes wrong! Have looked up ones in the area....think one or two locally have very bad reviews (one is in special measures!) so ill be doing lots of research and making lots of demands to get the best one I can find!

Stark your and my OH both last night! I'm so exhausted and stressed after the move, the finances, the AF coming once again....I did not have the patience to be diplomatic last night when he kept asking me the same questions then not listening to the answer!! I want a few days off from him, work, everything!! Just me, my cat and the couch! As I can't have that I'm going to make sure I leave work on time every day this week instead!! No long evenings for me! would love to hit the prosecco but know I'd be even more exhausted the next day!

Congratulations goldenpinneapple! Wishing you a boring happy 8/9 months ahead

Hello, I've been a massive lurker on this thread - I think I posted on the first ever one and then lurked ever since.... partly because I felt like I was a couple of cycles behind (or ahead?!) everyone.... partly because of anxiety.... I hope its not too weird to post now! But its been so helpful and felt like company when Ive felt really crazy with TTC. I just wanted to share that I got my BFP this morning, on cycle 5. TTC1, I'm 31yo. Total squinter on an IC, followed by a really good line on a FRER - I had a dream last night that I did, and then...well, I did! I can't believe it. Its funny because every other month I've had so many 'symptoms' and this month, nothing really - only that my boobs didn't hurt a week before AF was due (they do now!). Anyway, I just wanted to say thank you and good luck to you all

kwick I will be investing in a bigger container! .

Love the idea about adding a positive habit for Lent. Tempted to say I'll exercise daily but have a feeling that might not last long...

moggy sorry about your niece and wishing her a safe successful operation and recovery

elle I left my gu ramekin at work and I think it got binned! I also was thinking about bringing home a plastic cup from the office... I think I've ovulated too now, hoping we have caught it. We didn't DTD every day either, am hoping every other day will have been enough.

Hello TWW

Lyssie 8 wow! You have got good genes for birth!

Thanks Holly. Cheese and spinach is a great idea, may steal that later!

Maybe banana smoothie with dates or similar Feefs? Miserable isn't it? Spinach always helps me but never tried it as a soup. How is your jaw now?

Lara, I totally feel the same way about birth since my student O+G attachment (terrified!). One reason I've left it a little later, for sure, really wasn't sure before that I would cope (broodiness much stronger now and has eclipsed the fear!).Not sure what the answer is-it's a very personal decision. We are looking to move soon and would be about 30 minutes drive at least from a hospital, but I personally wouldn't consider a home birth anyway.

Laurenowls you can have water births in hospital.

elle yes it's the bastard codeine. I can only eat soft diet as can't really chew. It's making fibre intake challenging. Going to get some prune juice later I think, not something I've ever tried!

Funny how we're all different! I'd never contemplate a home birth, and expect to have as much pain relief as possible. I'd even look into the option of an elected c section. I have a lot of anxiety about birth and am so scared of damaging my bits for life - I'm terrified of incontinence and prolapse. I know it's a natural process etc. but the thought of many quite ordinary birthing procedures like episiotomy and use of forceps is horrendous. Part of me likes the idea of just having a c section. Then you know where you are and what to expect. All a long way off right now, of course! I watched my nephew being born after a long and difficult labour that included a big episiotomy cut and forceps delivery and I know what my sister has experienced since, so I'm sure that's where the fear comes from.

to give* not to have give.... I swear I type everything out right and it send it out wrong :P

Starky
My dm had all 8 of us at home with a midwife. I feel like it would be so weird to have give birth in a hospital, just because of my upbringing.
I hope you get to do what you wish (:

I'd love to have a water birth but reckon i'll jump on the epidural so probably end up in hospital plus i have scoliosis so will end up in hospital anyway

Reading everyone's posts after work and I'm literally crying from laughter. :) Oh, dear!

What's everyone doing when we all finally start growing babies in our bellies? Midwife, hospital...squatting in the forest?

Elle I like a savoury pancake too :) cheese and tomato or cheese and spinach - yum!

Moggy sorry to hear about your niece :( sending lots of well wishes for her. Hope you're ok

Sorry about AF Kat. Fx for next cycle

Suchajem - I use a disposable plastic cup.