TTC after prem labour and NND

Yes, don't hold off. Chances of a due date baby are pretty slim in anyone and I think we're more special than most. I've joined the November bus knowing full well baby would be coming in Oct if we get that far.

I'm doing okay thank you. DH reckons I'm wildly hormonal - though he risked his neck suggesting it! There's just the beginnings of morning nausea now, which is reassuring and familiar. Long may it continue.

chat a cautious happy congratulations! 😊 How are you feeling at the moment? Mentally and physically?
We are going to officially start TTC again this month, it's been 5 months since my c section with T now and I've spoken to my GP and my bereavement midwife who have both given me the green light. Extremely nervous but also tentatively excited, not sure what to expect!

Thank you. Very early days, probably 5+3 today. Going to be a long 7 months, hopefully.

Tentatively positive news here. My GP did say I'd probably be pregnant when the clinic referral came though - she was right. I'm keeping the appt just in case it all goes wrong but I can hopefully cancel.

Good to hear your cycles are back Sunny. First step done.

Didn't find Sunday too bad, to be honest Sunny. My mum came over and we have a lovely day just the two of us. Hope you managed to enjoy the weekend and it didn't get you down. Much harder was the invite to a needless present-grabbing naming day from an old friend who couldn't bring herself to send a message or card following our son's death. Shan't be going to that one.

I think it's a way into the system and will reserve judgement until the appt comes through . I'm pleased I wasn't fobbed off with guidelines and 'it'll probably happen', etc., but mostly I'd quite like to just be pregnant and the longer it goes on that I'm not, the more worried I get. So I'm pleased to be in the system.

Welcome Puggle, sorry to hear about your son - what a horrible shock for you.

GP was very sweet (she's lovely) and because I don't really fit any specific referral criteria, she's sending me to recurrent miscarriage clinic. I'm expecting bloods, a scan and for them to suggest aspirin from if when I get a BFP. There may be more involved, but as yet it's unclear.

Hello ladies, I'd like to join you if I may! I'm not currently ttc but hope to be in the next few months! My son T was born via emergency c section in October at 36 weeks. I had a rare condition with my placenta called Vasa Preavia which was undiagnosed. When my waters broke, the blood vessel that was covering my cervix ruptured and T lost a catastrophic amount of blood. We got to spend 5 days with him in NICU before he sadly passed away. I know Sunny from a previous thread and she pointed me in this direction! my consultant has told me when I do become pregnant again that I will be prescribed the progesterone pessaries that some of you have already mentioned from 12 weeks to 32 weeks and also have extra scans at 16, 18 and 21 weeks to check my cervical length. I might ask for an early one to get a base length too. I'll also have a scan to specifically check for Vasa Preavia at 28 weeks although the likelihood of it happening again is very slim.
I'm here to cheerlead for the first few months as want to get to 6 months post c sect before starting to try again. Seacrown my son was also born on 16th October! How are you getting on this month? Nice to meet you all and sorry we are all here! Xx

That's ridiculous sunny are you ok? How are your cycles? I'm sorry for your loss chat what is happening with the doctor? Are you having any investigations?
I'm doing ok! . 8dpo and feeling ok, quite positive this month, whether it happens or not. Do any of you lovelies chart? I'm liking the look of mine as my temps keep going up but don't know enough about them to know whether that's normal before the pre menstrual dip or not? All I know is last month, my first properly charting although had a short luteal phase, they only went up for three days then headed back down every day until my period came. Any help would be much appreciated!
Xx

I've been on nights, so no news here. Booked a GP appt for Weds (hoping I can leave work on time to get there!), so hopefully will get at least some local support/early investigations in the diary.

Sorry to hear you're having to chase them around Sunny. Hope you'll hear back soon.

How are you all doing? Just checking in x

chat I've previously conceived fairly quickly, but something isn't working this time. I'm off to the docs in the next few weeks to investigate a little further.

Do come back and let us know what the Dr says. I am finding ttc more difficult this time, which is odd because I have always conceived in my first cycle in the past (and it wasn't that long ago).

Hi Sunny and all. I'm in a similar position - we have been TTC since our DS was stillborn at 36 weeks in May last year. I agree the miscarriage board isn't the place for me either. I've had miscarriages, and they were awful, but this is completely different.

It's been a fairly hellish road if I'm honest. I've previously conceived fairly quickly, but something isn't working this time. I'm off to the docs in the next few weeks to investigate a little further.

I have a theoretical plan with a local obstetric consultant should I ever get to that stage...it's hard not getting ahead of myself.

Congrats, Kitty, I hope this pregnancy goes smoothly.

I had an ultrasound-indicated McDonalds cervical stitch last time. I had it at 17 weeks, and it failed at 22+6.

I will be having a high shirodkar/TVCIC at 12 weeks when I next get pregnant. I looked at having a TAC (a trans-abdominal stitch), but I have a large fibroid that is very near my internal os, so a TAC might be difficult to place.

If I were you, Sunny, I would insist on an early trans-vaginal scan at 8 weeks gestation to get a base length measure of your cervix. If she scans you at 16 weeks, and has never taken a cervical measurement prior to this, it might not be immediately clear whether your cervix is shortening or not.

Yes, there is research evidence to suggest progesterone helps to support pregnant women with cervical issues. I took pessaries from 17 weeks. In hindsight, I should have taken them as soon as they were suggested (it was something like 13 weeks). Next time round, my care plan is for weekly progesterone injections.

If you can, it is really worth talking to a regional specialist at a teaching hospital about your loss -- someone who specialises at late miscarriage or premature birth. What I found was that a lot of local consultants are so busy dealing with their case load, they aren't always up-to-date on some of the advances in more specialised obstetrics areas. I've also had registrars tell me things that aren't exactly accurate (such as the cervix not being "load-bearing" when there is evidence to suggest it is, to some extent).

Also ... prior to my first pregnancy, I had no idea that I could have a problem with my cervix.