Thread 9. TTC#1 The thread where we unanimously delete Ovia.

starky thats amazing. I remember a few years ago OH was complaining that I wasn't up for it as much as him anymore, but this last 2 months I have had to initiate every single time, which concerns me as maybe we are subconciously TTC as a way to fix our relationship without knowing that's what we are doing. He said he's not in the mood as often because of work stress, him mum going through chemo and the cat waking us up all the time but then always seems up for it if I prance around in panties enough. I don't know if I'm completely over analysing the situation though, maybe we are fine and this is a normal concern?

Let me in please!

MrsM
34 y/o
TTC no.1
Cycle #1 after coming off pill on 13th Jan. Had withdrawal bleed now waiting for the real AF to arrive to determine cycle length. Formerly regular 28 days so hoping to return to that.

Love reading these threads

Wow! 1 evening off and we're on page 20!

Can someone summarise? scrolling is making me nauseous

Any testers today?????

starky “I swear he's got the libido of a 21 yr old! He's nearly 38 and would cheerfully go hell for leather at it twice a day! I shouldn't complain, I'm lucky in that respect I suppose!”

You are indeed a lucky girl. Second month in and I already feel like I am coercing my DH into it. He needs to up his game!

kat “I actually can't sleep without a podcast.”

I’m so glad there are other people like me. This is me.

Other fave listens for me are The Worst Idea of All Time – two Kiwi comedians watch and review the same film every week for a year. Off the wall, very funny.
Everything Adam Buxton – the interviews, the Adam & Joe Show. Very childish humour. And jingles. He writes a version of Like A G6 to a story about a lizard in a blizzard. It kills me.
Also enjoy Radiolab, Woman’s Hour (gets me all self-righteous), In Our Time, The Life Scientific, Desert Island Discs, My Dad Wrote A Porno (ridiculously funny) and Serial – although not enjoying the second series so much.

pug “We've had more sex over the past week than we do in a whole month lol”

This is where we are getting to. DH and I have been together for almost 10 years. We enjoy DTD but this feels like a return to the early days where all we did was DTD. It’s great, I feel a lot closer to him in fact. But it’s a lot of effort..

Elle I am completely symptom free. I just feel sort of normal. Last month I felt a bit sicky and then my period was a bit late but still bfn.

Pug mummy I would believe the clear blue smiley, I read a study that said they were the most reliable and my consultant recommended them. Also it sounds like you would be covered whenever it happened! I just have to pin my faith on the clear blue smiley face since I only get the one attempt a month.

Stark I think you made the right decision, there's no placenta that early so your little blastocyst wouldn't come to any harm if it is busy implanting away when you have your prosecco.

Hey ladies!

Sorry struggling to keep up with the thread atm! Fill me in? Any news from anyone?

eud it depends what your normal hcg level is, and what day you implant. If you were pregnant you may not have even implanted yet which means you may not get HCG in your urine for another 3 - 6 days!!

Hi Elle yes it is. Although I had a peak solid smiley face on a clear blue digital opk Friday, whereas as a normal opk had a very faint line, so not sure what to think. Dtd anyway just in case!
We've had more sex over the past week than we do in a whole month lol. I'm hoping that means he's swimmers finally catch the bloody egg. Just hope my uterus isn't a bloody battlefield, feel bad for them after watching the great sperm race now!

Eudae they give you stats on the packet but they are not very accurate at 11dpo, if I recall correctly about 55% 5 days before your period is due, gradually increasing closer to AF date. So you're definitely not out. Do you have symptoms?

Feefs the jaw problem sounds horrible , do you have weird angled wisdom teeth? The last time I got mine xrayed (they are all weirdly cramped, pointing backwards and don't have room to come through properly) the dentist laughed and said hope you don't get an infection as nobody would want to try to take those out! Hope the splint helps things to settle down.

Pugmummy your OPK looks positive to me, is that the darkest it has been? I know some people got darker ones at the peak (that one looks about the same as control), but my darkest were like that, and I got temp drop so think I did ovulate. I would get on it just in case

What is asmr? I am having difficulty getting to sleep at the moment (snap with the job Feefs Ni and Moggy, mat leave seems like the promised land!). Ni your attitude seems healthy, I need to learn to detach more.

FX you have inspired me to look for a yoga class, I totally need it! My flexibility is embarassing.

Kat hope the massage sorts your shoulder out.

Sorry about AF Miwel

I don't seem to be keeping up with the pace of these threads at all! 11dpo now and have just given in and used the first of my frer's. BFN obviously. How sensitive are they really? Does this mean I am probably out for this month? Are they lying about the whole 'it's fine to test ridiculously early' thing. I now have to resist the fancy tests and try to limit myself to the cheapies till I get to day 14 right? There's no chance of me developing the ability not to pee on any sticks at all. I feel it's important to be realistic!

Sorry AF got you miwe

Thanks starky and kat. Totally get the squidgy biting it more thing . Hope your massage helps today!

stark thanks for info.😊
AF is now here and is giving me a tough tine of it.
Off to try and get dr appointment today as I should take high dose folic acid.

It's quite major having a surgical so can make tmj problems. Also stress is a big factor :( Sometimes soft guards help but if still pain in a few weeks it won't (occasionally can make things worse as some people clench more on it as its squidgy) if You have a hard one it should be one called a Michigan splint, which is a stabilisation splint properly adjusted to your bite. They take a bit more time to make than the soft one. Google it there's lots of info on splints and tmj problems online.

I've buggered up my neck/shoulder. Last 2 days has been a bit sore but today I can hardly turn it to the side. Managed to book a massage for tomorrow afternoon. Off to bed now zzz night all

Ooh, thanks for the rec stardusty. My current asmr faves are adreambeam and whisperaudios.

Hi kat I've been taking full dose ibuprofen and co-codamol. Trying to stop/reduce both, I'm worried about taking ibuprofen so regularly whilst TTC. Obviously would be better to be taking nothing but as I understand it co-codamol is considered safer. It's definitely a soft night guard because she said we could try a hard one if it didn't work but to try it for at least 3 weeks first.

That's helpful tho as I can hold out some hope that a hard splint might work if this soft one doesn't! Still waiting on the oral surgery place contacting me and do be honest a little apprehensive if further procedure required.

Thanks for your advice and everyone for your helpful suggestions today I'm feeling a bit more optimistic about things and that I have some ideas now to help me get back in control. Sorry if I took over the thread a bit this evening and I really am grateful for your advice all.

Ps Starks I'm leaning more towards don't test, but it's not about me, it's about you! If you test on the day of your dinner and you get a bfn (either cos you're not upduffed, or because it's just too early) will it dampen your dinner? If so do you just limit to 2 glasses of bubbles with dinner to play it safe and wait to test?
No easy answer I know! Crossing my fingers for you though!

Fx in definitely going to look at that tomorrow. I try to go to yoga twice a week but there's insane roadworks between my home and class now so it takes me at least an hour in rush hour to get there, then 1.5he class, then 45 min back... Just effort levels I don't have in the evening right now. I am rubbish at self practice though so maybe some guidance would be good

Omg... And I was looking for a podcast about bullet journaling and I found one episode in a podcast called "pen addict". I keep falling asleep obv so I can't actually remember what it says. I think the whole podcast is about stationary though... I'm thinking it will be a good one for when I really can't get to sleep

Feef loving the bullet journal reference from DH. I'm going to think of a thrusting man now when I go to do my to do for tomorrow!

Stark love how u call it your twinkle. I'm not sure I could dtd that much. Far too much effort

Thanks FX have saved those names. Will have a go tomorrow after work need to get on this and not let it take me over.

I actually can't sleep without a podcast.
Before podcasts existed I used to have a little radio with an aerial and balance it on my bedpost and listen to radio 4 (mainly for the shipping forecast. Also occasionally "late night love" on bbc local.

Now- all time favourite is frank skinner on absolute radio. Also in our time with Melvyn Bragg, money box, science in action, other r4 ones, this american life, Serial, and most of the other u guys mentioned. (I sometimes go to bed just to listen to something)

Sounds like u had a pretty tough time with your tooth feef, when are you going back to the surgeon? Take ibuprofen and paracetamol (studies have shown more effective than tramadol or naproxen or other heavy duty painkillers for oral pain) if the tmj pain started after the extraction im inclined to think it could be something to do with that. If the night guard makes it worse stop wearing it and go back to dentist. Is it hard or soft? There is little evidence to support efficacy of soft night guards with TMJ disorder but they remain the most commonly prescribed. If it's hard then it's a different thing. Probably. I can't see it so can only give general advice!!

Good luck ffs.

Good look to all those poas tomorrow!!

And for all like me waiting for the (late) AF to deign us with her presence, may your bedsheets be ruined

Loving this thread. Can't believe there are even ASMR kindred spirits on here. I thought i was the only wierdo who liked to listen to tapping noises. Try whispersredasmr- she is fantastic!