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The craziness that is TTC after stopping the pill. On this thread we have 100 day cycles, do weeks of opks and send ovia into a fit with our ever changing fertile windows! Welcome.

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Sunnydays321 · 29/01/2016 07:12

Hi ladies,

This is the 2nd thread following on from

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2452018-Waiting-to-try-and-cycle-a-mess-from-the-pill

For everyone who is entering the madness that is Ttc after stopping the pill. Maybe to start the thread we could all post our stats, so we remember where everyone is at and don't have to check the old thread. X

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LemonShizzleCake · 21/03/2016 16:15

Hi all - hope everyone's having a good start to the week. Not much to report here...exhausted all the time, and generally feeling a bit "nothingy" with it. Not feeling bad, just haven't got much energy and it's making me a bit blah. Don't really want to do anything but stay in bed!

Other than that still feeling quite "normal" at this stage, no sickness/nausea to speak of really. Sore boobs when they're pressed, and DH thinks they've got bigger but I'm pretty sure that's wishful thinking. Also seem to get cold very easily and then have trouble getting warm again, which is weird (shivering a bit as we speak, even though I've got the heating on, furry slippers and a hoodie pulled up over my head!).

Appt with GP on thurs to get the ball rolling, get referred to midwife & antenatal stuff. Having friends over for dinner tonight who I would normally get quite pssed with (btw Cookie* your drunken message was hilarious Grin) so have already told a little white lie about being on mega antibiotics, so they can't even try to tempt me into having a little one. FX they believe me, I am definitely not telling anyone IRL at the moment as I am so terrified something might go wrong Sad

And yes, chapman this was our first cycle of trying (i.e. not using condoms and deliberately DTD at the right times), but I came off the pill about 18 months ago...it's taken this long for my cycles to settle down into a reasonable pattern/length! They'd been 50 days for the past 3 cycles, so I was expecting the same again - it was only because I got some EWCM that we DTD 3 days in a row just in case, and then my temps went up which confirmed what I'd suspected, that I'd ovd earlier than usual, giving me a 37-ish day cycle. So shan I am not at all surprised that you might be having some odd length cycles having only come off the pill a couple of months ago, mine were mad for ages (one cycle was almost 6 months long...!) - I hope for your sake that yours settle down faster than mine did Smile

Sunnydays321 · 20/03/2016 17:57

Yup cookie! That looks positive to me!! Annoying to go back to beginning of tww but better to dtd too much than not enough!

I was moaning to DH about my crap ovaries and the fact that this cycle is like 46 days and counting and he got all excited and said "maybe you are pregnant". That's the first time Iv really seen him get excited bless him. I have to explain I thought I was only just ovulating/ovulated and definitely wasn't pregnant but it was sweet!

Oh bobo, it's rubbish when it gets rubbed in doesn't it! It will be you soon though. Some times I feel fine about it and really happy for people, and then other times I feel miserable and jealous. Iv got a friend who has just started trying, she got pregnant 1st month 1st baby and she thought she was pregnant from one time dtd this time. Wish my ovaries were that eager! Xx

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Cookie22 · 20/03/2016 15:38

Poor you Sunny- hope your shifts go in quickly. Is it the NHS you work for? I've got a 4 day week next week & the following week, then off for spring break!

Here's my OPK from half an hour ago- it's definitely a positive (I think??). So as of tomorrow or Tuesday I'll be right back at the start of my tww! Clear blue tests are getting binned- the good old cheapy tests are the way forward! Just hope I actually do ov! Dtd this morning, will try seduce him again tonight and tomorrow too #exhausted Xx

Sunnydays321 · 20/03/2016 08:16

Yeah still do a test Shan just in case.

Officially 3dpo today. Ff has given me proper cross hairs today. And my nipples are killing: my normal post ovulation symptom. Got to try and book my progesterone bloods in for wed or thurs... Bet they won't have any appointments left and I will have to sneakily ask someone at work to do hem and then it will be pretty obvious we are trying. I don't want to tell anyone Hmm. Hope everyone is having a good weekend. I'm working, on a 9 day stretch with two on calls. Boo x

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shankate182 · 19/03/2016 23:27

I'm still going to test when I get my hands on one but won't be disappointed cause I'm obviously ov now instead?

Sunnydays321 · 19/03/2016 23:07

Probably is late ovulation, Iv ovulated on cd44 this cycle. (Even though I ovulated on something like cd20 last month) The pill can give you irregular cycles for up to a year. Some people get period type pain and ewcm in early pregnancy (although thick white cm is more common in pregnancy). X

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shankate182 · 19/03/2016 23:04

I think I know what's wrong with late af
I'm having af pains the last 3 days and I just went to the bathroom and got proper string ewcm so I must be ov now? Which explains the pains ov pains so I'm going to dhd tonight and for the next few nights anyways? 1st time in a while iv got this it was creamy the past few weeks but this looks like egg whites so I'm kinda disappointed now? Any opinions girls

Cookie22 · 19/03/2016 19:06

Aww just seen your message Bobo! I totally know how you feel chick! I'm so happy whenever people on here get their bfp! It can be hard tho when in RL you have to put a 'front' on and be overjoyed, when deep down you are gutted for yourself! The day AF arrived last month I had to go shopping with colleagues for a 'baby hamper' for another colleague! 3 hours in mothercare, tk Maxx etc looking at baby stuff was not what I needed! Especially when the colleagues I was with were like 'Oooh it'll be your turn next'- argh! Sad xx

Cookie22 · 19/03/2016 19:00

Thanks Sunny! I'll do another OPK tomorrow and see if it's any darker or positive. No idea what is going on! I don't temp, but know that I probably should. I tried it last cycle but my DH gets up at strange hours of the morning for work, so felt it wouldn't be accurate enough with erratic times every day! I just have a feeling I've definitely not ov'd yet and this is perhaps me just approaching my surge now! Xx

BoBo90 · 19/03/2016 18:44

Oooh and I should add that I am thrilled for everyone who has got their bfp 😄 feels like we are all in it together so When anyone gets that elusive second line I'm happy for them 😊
I'm just being a wimp this week haha xx

BoBo90 · 19/03/2016 18:39

cookie that must be so annoying for you!

Sorry for the following rant😅:
I am officially having a crap week 😩! Af was a couple days late so I got my hopes up only to have a bfn on Wednesday. I could handle that but then two people on the march bus got bfps later that day... Followed by another bfp on Thursday... And another yesterday!!! By now I'm thinking Mother Nature is seriously rubbing my bfn in my face 😡 No bfps this morning so I figure the run is over and then up pops a post on Facebook showing a family friend had her baby 4 weeks early! I'm over the moon for her as she had Ivf and he is a beautiful baby, I just didn't need it this week! I'm waiting for an announcement tomorrow from a family member saying they are pregnant to be the icing on the cake and then I may have a little cry 😞 I always thought ttc was supposed to be a fun happy thing but apparently not 😩

Sunnydays321 · 19/03/2016 18:07

Aw cookie, you sound like me about three weeks ago! That opk is definitely negative. Mine have test lines of varying degrees of darkness through the whole month. Was your one last week darker than that? I haven't got a picture put if you look back on thread to about the 26th of feb you will see my pic of my almost positive opk. I thought that might be ov as the 2nd line was almost As dark as control... Then got lighter. This proper positive was way way darker. Do you temp? That's the only way to confirm ovulation after positive opk.

Also just a side note.. My opks are always darker after Iv been drinking (which thinking about it was the case with the one a few weeks ago) because I'm dehydrated the next day! Maybe it's just that.

Xx

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Cookie22 · 19/03/2016 17:46

Frustrated*

Cookie22 · 19/03/2016 17:40

So I'm confused yet again! Thought I was 4dpo but have been doing OPKs just incase I get another late surge like last month. Looks like my body has been tricking me and my ov is now approaching. I'm officially done with clear blue smiley OPKs! Waste of time! Will try and seduce DH tonight and tomorrow! Does any else get strong OPKs even after ov? I'm one very confused, frustrates lady right now!!! Angry xx

The craziness that is TTC after stopping the pill. On this thread we have 100 day cycles, do weeks of opks and send ovia into a fit with our ever changing fertile windows! Welcome.
Cookie22 · 19/03/2016 12:35

Oh God, apologies for the drunken chat! I know I probably shouldn't be drinking whilst on the tww but what the hell! Feeling mega sicky this morning... Wish I could say it was a bfp symptom but I think too many wines (and Jaegerbombs) are to blame BlushGrin back to bed I go.... Xx

shankate182 · 18/03/2016 22:46

I know hahahaha emma Kate is my name but I don't know where autocorrect got shan out of 😅 😅 not even near the name emma 😅

Sunnydays321 · 18/03/2016 22:33

Haha yeah cookie! Sounds like a great night, have fun and have a drink for us all! Iv got a sober early night with my bleep, waiting to be called out! Great little Ttc family. Hope you are having a similarly peeshed night Chapman!

Shan, that's hilarious that your name is actually Emma! X

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shankate182 · 18/03/2016 21:51

I don't even know 😂
Like I don't drive neither does my husband but I live in the middle of a bog haha and when I get into town I do be rushed off my feet getting food and stuff by the time I get home I realise I forget and my husband is to embarrassed to get one as he works with all his friends and we trying to keep TTC a secret so I can't really ask anyone either I will get my hands on one soon I might pop into tesco tomorrow when I'm heading that way to check if I'm lucky to remember I keep forgetting as I'm just waiting for af to arrive because of the BFN 2 weeks ago well 1 BFN the other one was invalid

cnchapmanxx · 18/03/2016 21:47

Ee my god cookie you are hilarious man! Love you too doll! 😜 You won't regret it!!
He's amazing I'm getting mortal on Sunday for the football so in looking forward to that! Hope your having a good night!

Went to this clueHQ tonight in Sunderland I'm from there and it took my mind of baby's for a whole one hour haha!! I'm off to buy seven seas pre conception tomorrow, I'm stocked up on opks sticks and I swear to mother fucking god I will catch this month and have a beautiful December baby!👊🏻👊🏻

Sunny - I get asked if all the time, and also people st work go are you pregnant yet I politely say fuck off and it's none of your business but I fully understand where your coming from! And I defo agree about us all looking out for each other sometimes I feel soon as someone has there bfp they fuck off and never come back on.. 😭😭

Lemon - I didn't realise it was your first cycle!!! That's amazing!!! When did you stop taking your pill and have you had a period yet haha? Thanks for your bfp vibes hope I catch them this month!

Shan - poas please haha! How have you not been able to get a test!!! We're do you live il post you some haha! Xxx

shankate182 · 18/03/2016 21:40

Funny thing is also my name isn't even shan or Kate it's emma but autocorrect put it to this and I don't know why 😅

shankate182 · 18/03/2016 21:38

Cookie
Haha I know I'm trying to 😂 Yeah TTC family is the perfect word my husband is laughing away here and I'm blaming him because he won't get me one 😂 hope ya have a good night anyways while I'm stuck at home with my 4 younger sisters 😂 and 2 nephews I'm looking at them going il have one of you soon as he's on 2 months old ☺ we love u to :)

Cookie22 · 18/03/2016 21:23

Hi guys, this is a wee bit peeshed post whilst out at a part-eeeee!!! I love you all & I hope this isn't deleted! Lemon you funny lady!! So happy for you and your bfp!Sunny, your DH sounds like a gem! I'm so happy I've got my wee ttc family here! Chapman- love you doll! Hope you're having a wee wine/tequila tonight. Shan- for the love of God POAS!!! I'm gonna regret this post in the morning lol- love to you all Xx

shankate182 · 18/03/2016 20:28

I understand what u mean which is why I'm not getting my hopes up? But I shud of ov around valentines day but I'm not sure now get cramps that's last for like 2 mins and go away? So I'm confused but kinda nausea feeling on and off aswel? Boobs are kinda sore? So I'm confused

Sunnydays321 · 18/03/2016 19:30

Haha lemon, we don't mind queue jumping here! I'm genuinely really excited to log on and see who has got bfps. There are not a limited number of pregnancies.. Ie the fact that you are pregnant doesn't mean that one of us won't be. Or put another way if you weren't pregnant one of us wouldn't be pregnant in your place. Everyone and every body is different.. And my hubby said to me the other day, the longer we wait the more exciting it will be when it happens. He is a good egg. Thanks for the lucky stars!

On a separate note I just bumped into someone I vaguely know (ie have met about twice) in a shop, they have recently had a baby... And after I asked about the baby he then asked me if we were trying!! That's not an appropriate question, in a shop! Haha, because of my job though I get asked a million times a day, iv perfected my lie to, "no we have only been married 8 months, we are just enjoying married life for now". It's like asking someone if they are having unprotected sex! 😂 I might ask a close friend but not a near stranger!! X

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LemonShizzleCake · 18/03/2016 18:42

Hi gang

Sunny you are right, I think we all do genuinely care about how everyone is getting on - even though we are complete strangers IRL! I even feel a little bit guilty that I've got my BFP on cycle 1, feels like I've jumped the queue Blush and normally I'm so polite.

So I will do what I can for you guys - with that in mind, here's a big batch of...

Star ~ Star ~ Star ~ Star ~ Star ~ Star BFP VIBES Star ~ Star ~ Star ~ Star ~ Star ~ Star

I am wishing and hoping so hard that they rub off on you all as soon as possible.

Also, whilst I am of course remaining positive, I am very aware that it's VERY early days and I am by no means out of the woods yet...so trying not to get too excited until things are properly settled in.

Have a lovely weekend, all (and shan for goodness sake, please POAS!! The suspense is killing us all! Grin) xxx