Awww Cookie sounds like you're having a rough time of it at the moment
But have that large glass of wine (I'm joining you!), tomorrow is another day. Re. ovary scans, I was referred for one by my GP, at my request - it was after I'd been off the pill for about 4 months and there was absolutely nothing doing on the AF front, so I wanted to get checked out for PCOS (have some other symptoms too, have always been fairly hairy, periods were very unpredictable pre-pill too, carrying weight around my middle, etc). They did blood tests which were inconclusive, so packed me off for scans.
In my case the scans pretty much ruled out PCOS but still didn't explain what was going on with my cycles, but then again I wasn't TTC at the time - they just told me to DTD when the time came and see if it worked. In your position, they may have more to go on, and be able to do further tests/offer more answers or treatments. I'd suggest chatting it over with your GP and asking them to investigate. Good luck! x