Is waiting before ttc (metaphorically) killing anybody else or is it just me?!

Took me about a month th pluck up the courage to mention it to dp. I first broached the subject after some drinks and said "I'm really jealous of all these new babies ppl have" it was too subtle he didn't get the hint . So after about a week I text him from work and said when I get to target (slimmingworld) we should have another dexter" he agreed n was really up for the idea phew! At that time I hadn't set a target at fat club but now I have so I've booked to get the coil out. My god its hard work to actually get an appointment to take it out, feels like they are making me wait even longer than I already have to ttc. I need to time it right though cannot get pregnant in may because we already have dexter's birthday in Jan April would make a December baby which is rubbish for them having a bday so close to Christmas. So I have to try really hard to wait til June. 😢who am I kidding, as soon as it's out I'm trying!

I'm so broody and waiting for the OH to be ready is as you say, metaphorically killing me! I'm off the pill for other reasons in October 15 and was worried i wasn't ovulating due to the way my periods were so got hold of some OPKs and got a very strong positive last night (the day the tests arrived so no opportunity to do it earlier although i'm on CD13). Luckily my cycles seem to have gone straight back to 28 days but really light and short too hence checking to see if i'm actually ovulating. I know of others who quite a few months down the road are still waiting for their cycles to return so might be worth thinking about stopping those horrible chemical hormones sooner.
How do you get your OH on board with TTC without him freaking?! Am hoping he comes around after his trip away in May! Edging ever closer but worried he'll freak and not be happy about it!
I've been losing weight since not being on the pill as just not hungry an more - used to graze all day. Getting my body and mind ready will stand me in good stead when he's ready so i can pounce!! xx

Hi all,

I just thought I would add my two cents as someone who was waiting to ttc. I came off the pill in Feb last year. My cycles have settles to either 27 or 28 days but it took 8 months to get to that point. We started ttc in July after a holiday and the wait was awful. I wish I had started tracking my cycles and pre af symptoms before this point as the first few two week waits were just an obsession with symptom spotting! Here we are, into cycle 8 and still not pregnant. This waiting bit is far harder than waiting to ttc. I'm very much a "want something so go get it" person. Even now though I still have doubts. It's normal.
To the person who thinks being 4 months pregnant will not interfere with their wedding dress - think again! I looked huge at 4 months with my first! Even at 4 weeks the bloating can make you look very pregnant!

Oh we are in a similar boat! Married a year and a half. We just bought our first house, but we have a huge trip planned in July, for which I would rather not be very pregnant. Have negotiated an April TTC with the husband (I low-balled him with March, cause he needs time to get used to certain ideas).

This will (hopefully) result in our first. And now that I know it's coming, I just can't wait! IUD came out in November because it was so painful. I'm secretly hoping I could already be pregnant, as we have not been all that great with our (temporary) birth control situation.

I feel guilty being on TTC threads as we are not actually TTC YET, but I'm just really excited!

Like pp, I am getting married in October this year - so we're having to wait to TTC so I can still fit in my dress!

We have decided to ttc from June, as I would be a maximum of four months at that point and it won't interfere with my wedding dress. This would be baby #3 for me, baby #1 for him!

I have the implant in atm, that's coming out in May to give my body a month's breathing space.

Hello,feel your pain. Getting a lot of pressure from family too doesn't help! Married I'm September and came off pill in October. First period came after 67 days still waiting on another one! Cannot even be bothered POAS as it will be negative!

I know what you mean about spending years trying to not get pregnant and now wanting to. Or being contraceptive free!

If you're a vegetarian or don't eat certain meat products it's a big problem when it doesn't state which animal it came from. I don't eat pork for a variety of personal reasons.

Nataliefruit , POAS is pee on a stick. It's taken me a lot of reading to catch up on the abbreviations! If you're thinking of July is come off soon - to be honest I wish I'd done it sooner. I'd read 3months is enough but I don't think it is! The thing I'm finding now is after trying not to get pregnant for so many years it still feels a little wrong... Although I want a family, getting pregnant seems so scary. 😳

Jessicajane83 - what's the problem with gelatine? I'm taking seven seas trying to conceive and I've just started (10 days ago) Angus Castus to see if it helps me regulate my cycle.

I'm getting married in October this year. Would love to ttc now but paying for a wedding and maternity leave in the same year would killed us off financially.

Went see the GP on Thurs as have been extremely fatigued and she suggested I POAS just in case. POAS this morning and it was negative (and was sad even though this is not the right time for us)

I know what you mean. I've just come off contraception and am waiting for a normal period. Also have a big holiday in the summer. All I can think about is DTD like like nymphomaniac . Taking vitamins but just discovered the one I got has gelatine so have to look for another....sigh

Hey,

I'm in this very situation. DH turned 30 in August and he got really broody. To be honest I was never sure but seeing him really want one made me realise I did so in September I came off Mircogynon after 14 years. My cycle is really unsettled now, first was 28 days, second 35 and the last was 56 days!
I would recommend coming off any hormonal contraception and starting to let your cycle sort itself out. We have a big holiday sorted for early July so we want to start TTC at my next OV (as I won't be too pregnant to holiday) but now I have no idea when it might be.

I'm trying convince myself that I'm not in a rush to conceive but now I really want it and everywhere I go I see babies and everyone is pregnant and I'm even convincing myself that I'm going to struggle but we've not even tried!!!

Basically I think deciding TTC does weird things drives you bonkers.

Hi Nataliefruit.

IUD is even worse...it's been up the foufou for three years! Yes I am taking supplements. Nurse said sooner the better. Also cutting down on the caffeine!

I would come of the pill asap, I waited until six months before we actually wanted to TTC and so far it's been four months and I've only had two periods! After waiting so long before TTC it really is so upsetting having such long cycles and not knowing if I'm actually ovulating! I found from lots of posts on here that it takes much longer than most people imagine for your cycle to get back to normal post pill!

Having said that you always hear of people who do manage to get pregnant quickly so you may have to use an alternative method xx

Hi I'm a newbie. We decided over Xmas that we want to TTC. Had to wait for an appt until today to get IUD removed. That was much easier than putting the thing in. Even if she did wave it on my face post removal . Want to get a 'normal' period before TTC but I want to jump on the DH right now!

What I would suggest though, is that you start tracking your cycle. Ovia is excellent and free. So that when you do start ttc, you have some idea of cycle length and your af symptoms. So that when you do start ttc, you know where you're up to better. I started tracking about 18 months ago and it's been really helpful, not just so I know when I'm due on, but that I know when, in my mind, I'm a week "late" I'm not actually late, I'm just having one of my longer cycles. I spent my early twenties terrified of falling pregnant, and now I'm actively ttc, I've realised it's much harder than I thought!

The nightmare with waiting is...the waiting. Before we decided I cajoled Dh into ttc the wait was ridiculous, because I was counting every day until we did! And to be honest, it doesn't get any better when actually ttc! The waiting is definetly the worst bit. Enjoy your time before you start and have amazing holidays!

Ugh yes! We have an active holiday planned in may that would be ruined if I were pregnant so we're waiting until after. It's so difficult!