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11 pqe here - and 2.5 years TTC! I'd say don't put it off - you never know how long it will take. Also if you're good at your job your firm will just be glad you're coming back!

Thanks Harriett, pink. And I agree with you me that it more likely has a bearing on you when you return to work.

My area is quite niche so not sure if they would replace me over mat leave. I'm not sure they would let me reduce my hours either once I return. Honestly, I'm half wishing I hadn't got pregnant quite so quickly (cycle one as you know pink and Harriett!) - it's done now but the work thing is consuming a lot of me at the moment.

Harriett - it's two years for us too so I wouldn't get enhanced mat leave.

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Haha, yes Shelb, we're all coming out the woodwork now!

I think 16-17 months is fine, and like Harriet says, they will just have to lump it!

Pink my feeling is that how long you've been there has little bearing on how you're treated when you're pregnant but is more important when you go back. The feeling I get from my firm is that a bit more slack is given to people who have put in a few good years of hard work and have proved their ability and use to the firm, and who then need to take it easier for a few years when juggling childcare, compared to someone who's only been at the firm for a year or so and maybe hasn't achieved an awful lot in that time.

Having said that, I completely agree with what you say that it shouldn't dictate when you TTC. For some it takes years, for me it took a lot longer than I thought it would.

shelb I think that's completely fine. No point worrying about it - they'll have to accept it!

Are you entitled to enhanced maternity package? I think it's 2 yrs continuous service for me.

No way pink too!

I'll only be 16-17 months at my current firm once I go on mat leave and I'm terrified of how they are going to react - lead balloon I'm thinking.

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Hi ladies

Harriet, Leonie and Shelb - who knew we'd all be on this thread too!

I am 7.5 years PQE and have been with current my firm for 6 years, so fairly long term for me.

I think its best to get at least one year PQE behind you before TTC, but for me, after that PQE level would have had no bearing on when I started TTC. That has been purely driven by my finding the right partner and my age (i'm 33). My career is important to me but given that you have no idea how long it will take to TTC before you actually start trying, I didn't want to delay and then look back in years to come and regret not starting to try earlier.

A lady joined my firm at Associate level and three months later announced she was pregnant - she had literally conceived the week she started her new job. I'm sure it very much depends on your firm but there was no animosity towards her and she was treated just as the firm would have treated any other pregnant lady (as far as I am aware).

Wow Euro! That is amazing!! And very rare. Well done!

12 pqe. Went on mat leave as an associate, came back as a partner!

No I'm going to be a sahm for a while but I'm currently pregnant with DC2 so it has worked out well.

I will see how I feel when it's time to go back but at the moment I'm thinking I will go back full time. I know a few mums in other teams who work 4 days but it just seems like a poor deal to me, you work 5 days in 4, take a 20% pay cut, and basically still have to be available to deal with calls and emails on your "day off" or switch it to another day if something urgent comes up. I'd rather get the DC settled in a routine with a good childminder or nursery every day.

What I do plan to negotiate is an earlier finish 2 days per week. DH will pick up from childcare 2 days, I will do 2 days and (hopefully - haven't discussed it with her yet!) my mum will do one day. I feel it will be better perceived by clients and colleagues to be in every day but leaving slightly early a couple of days a week, than to have a whole day off.

luckystar are you going to do something else or be a sahm?

I'm also worried about how I'll feel leaving my hypothetical future baby. Unfortunately I'm the main earner so will definitely have to go back to work.

I am hoping to try for a four day work week (which will likely mean 5 days crammed into 4), which has been granted to two people at my firm (US firm so surprising!). If my DH can then work one day from home (similar job but slightly more flexible in terms of wfh), this would mean DC would be in childcare 3 days a week which feels a little better. All very hypothetical at the moment, but trying to think as much through as possible!

I was 5 pqe but I did everything straight away so I'm only 29. I've resigned now as I just cannot compute leaving DS for 14 plus hours a day.

That's interesting leonie. No one in my team works PT and I haven't even considered asking for that. A few work from home on Fridays though which probably works well as its usually a quieter day.

I did read that a good PT pattern is to have twice as many AL days and then agree with the firm to take these at mutually convenient times. Probably not great if you're paying for childcare though!

My firm seems pretty good with returning mums and a fair few of them work PT. Having kept an eye on what they do, I think working 4 days and having Wednesday off is the best PT pattern. Nothing really happens on a Wednesday!

shelb Happy to chat so drop me a message! I'm conscious about piecemeal identification of who I am (not that anyone would really be interested...) so I get it!

harriet I'm 29. If DH was the same age as me I'd have happily waited a few more years until early 30s but he is 38 and did not want to be over 40 already with our first. Which was fine with me, plenty of time to work on the career when I get back. (Although I am v concerned about how the hours will fit with a family. My firm seems to have a pretty poor returner rate after mat leave and I don't think they'll be that flexible. At the moment I am just thinking I'll cross that bridge when I come to it.)

How old are you me624? (If you don't mind me asking?)

I did the gdl and had a gap year so qualified at 27 rather than 24/25 which is partly why I want to start now. At my firm most seem to wait till early thirties but I was worried I'd have problems conceiving.

shelb def pm me! I can't work out how todo it on the app otherwise I'd message you.

I'm 7 months pregnant with DC1 and I'm 4.5 PQE. I feel it's a good time to go off with plenty of experience behind me and a solid reputation in my team. The only thing that I think would have made it easier is if I'd waited until I'd been promoted to senior associate, which actually would probably have been this year if I wasn't going off. Mat leave will set me back in that respect but it was the right time for me and DH - he is older than me and didn't want to be too ancient a first time father.

Hi Harriet I thought it was you! hi leonie! Would you mind if I pm'd one of you on this? It's hard to talk in an open forum without exposing yourself.

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Hi leonie and shelb from ttc#1 thread!

zaza I'm starting to ttc this month. If I get pregnant now i will go on mat leave when I'm just 2 years qualified.

Tbh I'm most worried about how I will cope working the hours I'm currently doing once I go back to work after mat leave, but will cross that bridge later!

Just to say that I worried a lot about this when deciding with DH to TTC and still do. It's been less scary now that we've decided to go for it but the potential impact on my career does worry me nonetheless.

My firm requires 3 years' continuous employment before enhanced maternity leave!

I'm TTC and I'll be at least 1 year PQE when a baby is born (most likely closer to two). I feel it's very soon in my career but I thought I'd regret not starting sooner if it took a while to TTC and I've been at my firm for 2.5 years - and with my team for a good chunk of that. My intention is not to take very long for mat leave as I don't want to lose momentum with work, which I really enjoy. DH is very supportive and I'm hoping to be able to take a little lull on the chin and hit my stride in my late 30s. I'm 27. It seems like most at my firm wait until mid to late 30s to TTC. I don't think that would work for me with my family and career aspirations.

Reading responses with interest!