Relaxed TTC Feb/March/April 2016

Just checking in, welcome newcomers!
One more week of waiting for me, trying not to obsess!

I've posted a couple of times on here earlier in the thread but now I can officially post as a ttcer!

Came off the pill February and came to Friday when AF should've made an appearance and didn't so didn't feel great. But then last night I went the loo and voila! I literally yayed the house down and my OH knew exactly why I was yaying.
So happy and hope my cycles stay regular now. After this period we will be trying this month as it still means a Baby in November/beginning of December.

Mighty that did make me laugh as I have done the same! Although I think we will hold off April conception as there is a chance the baby would arrive on Christmas Day which if can be avoided for the baby's sake I will.

Lol mighty, I've done that before! But then i have this idea of the perfect time of year to have a baby would be in terms of mat leave- March! Would then mean it's cold wet and miserable during the time when you're stuck under a tiny sleeping baby and potentially dealing with colic, but then baby is old enough to not be screaming and eating all the time by the time summer rolls around, so you can fully enjoy any good weather . Same goes for January and Feb babies, but then you run the risk of an early crawler come summer...

Just catching up (or trying to, not so easy on a mobile!). I got a period last Thursday, first one in eight years which although was a bit of a disappointment it also means I know where I am with my cycle. If I've missed any positives, congratulations! And commiserations for any BFNs.

I am doing weight watchers online and used AF as an excuse to eat all the crisps. And chocolate. And possibly gin. Back on it today though. It's the evenings when I get in, they're fatal for me and diets. Ho hum.

I'm using Ovia - I found fertility friend a bit too technical. I have absolutely not checked when a baby conceived this cycle or next might be due in order to see if I could get Christmas off work.

Hi Sienna, FX for next month, crazy that you had to wait so long for an appointment. And amazing job on the weight loss. 1-2lbs per week is brilliant!

My BMI is currently 30.3 apparently. Until this past year it had never been 30 or above, but when I started using MFP again earlier this month it was 31.2, so I'm feeling good about losses so far. It was 28.7 when I was booked in at 11 weeks in my first pregnancy and I ended up losing weight afterwards and it was 28 a few weeks after DD was born. I hate that I let being at home with her turn me into a cake-eating machine.

I think the main reason I'm 'relaxed' TTC and not bothered at all by being out this month is that I at least want to be back to where I was at the beginning of my first pregnancy when I get pregnant again.. I have about 4kg to lose to get there and have it in mind that May is going to be our month!

Hope you're ok Alice x

Today I start taking my second to last pill packet! Would love to just not but I'm doing well with my weight loss and know the 15th April (day I take last pill) will be here before I know it. Our washer broke yesterday very annoying! New one gets delivered on Wednesday so my parents are kindly letting me do the weekends washing at theirs on Monday. In a way I'm glad though, it was quite old and we will now have a nice new one before having another baby. As long as we conceive this year we will have a four year old, two year old and new born so a new washer will be needed haha! X

My bmi has gone 17.6-19.5-18.3, cant win.

I'm rather stroppy this morning!

Hi,

I'm 25, DP is 28 and has 1 child already from a previous relationship. We plan to start ttc #1 this month (hopefully). We hoped to be 'relaxed' about the whole thing but I'm too excited and have already purchased OPK's. I don't want to pester or overwhelm DP too much so thought this would be a good place to talk .

Like others, I'm also on the weight loss wagon, although I don't have an awful lot to lose. Started the process around 2 months ago and have lost 1-2lb a week so far, although this week I haven't been as healthy as I could have been, and this will probably follow suit next week as we are going away for 4 days.

I'm hoping we can have a good go at trying this month, but I might be out depending on when I ovulate. I'm having my copper coil out on the 4th March (after a 2 month wait for an app) and I'm currently on CD 7 which will I mean I will be on CD 14 when it's removed. My cycles range from 25 - 30 days so I'm hoping I will ovulate on the later side this month.

Anyway, good to hear all of your stories and progress and good luck to all

I'm doing slimming world, and believe me that weight loss is a drop in the ocean! My bmi is about 38 which is far too high. I know plenty get pregnant at this weight but I know it's the first thing I'll need to fix if we have problems so I'm getting ahead of the game.

Oh I'll be a serial tester, there's no doubt! Just trying to resist that as long as poss!

Oh, and I'm a serial tester . I couldn't resist testing super early last time around and then bought a pack of digital tests and tested every 5 days or so until it turned to 3+. It wasn't TOO expensive. I only tested with the really cheap internet dip sticks until I got a real line, though.

Sausage, amazing weight loss!! I've been on the wagon for a couple weeks, but my results aren't quite that good. Got myself a Fitbit charge HR, though, so hoping it will keep motivating me to be generally more active throughout the day as the gym is soooo not for me. Mind if I ask how you're going about it - did you join a program, or are you trying it on your own?

Alice, commiserations, AF sucks, but enjoy the coffee and ibuprofen!

Yeah I don't think I'm that type either! My bmi is far too high to be super fertile anyway working on that though, 10lb down in 3 weeks so making inroads on that particular mountain!

Good plan not testing early, why do it to yourself, like you said expensive too.

I also think TTC will take ages and I'm not normally pessimistic. I think I read too much about problems and being on cycle 3 now it's clear that I'm not one of those women who can just look at a man and get upduffed.

I think I should avoid early testing not u! Bloody autocorrect!

Commiserations on the AF Alice, enjoy the coffee x

Thanks Wispaxmas. I don't want to get into the habit of testing prior to when AF is due, in case of chemical and of course to avoid the expensive repeat testing I'll no doubt be sacked into! I work in maternity so I'm painfully aware of chemical pregnancies and the like, I know I'd be devastated so I think u should avoid that sort of thing as much as poss. I actually ovulated wed as far as I know so a slightly better chance but really I am not expecting anything this month. Trying to avoid opk as much as I can just now, give me a month or 2 or I'll be on it! Im going to go with both apps for a month or 2 and then decide what one suits me better I think.

I can sympathise about the low sex drive, OH's is way less than mine. He would be happy with once a week! And that's with him working away half the time! Though it usually is more frequent the first few days he's home

It's nice to have others in the same boat as we aren't telling anyone we are thinking of babies, trying to avoid the pressure! I have this weird feeling it could be problematic or take a long time, but I don't know if that's the pessimist in me or just because I see people who have/had issues so often.

Good luck everyone!

AF from hell. Enjoying all the ibuprofen and coffee.
DH said again yesterday "if we have sex once in the fertile window I'll be pleased" he's not initiated outside of the window... Is that it then? Once a month is OK is it?

Hiya Sausage!

I get what you mean about joining the chat to keep yourself from overdoing it with DP, mine TOTALLY tuned out last time around. If you O'd today and DTD on Tuesday you're in with a chance, but I'm not sure I'd waste a HPT until AF is late. I'm DEFINITELY out for similar reasons. DH works away in Paris during the week and I had the cold from HELL (and bronchitis, woo, fancy) the last two weekends. Even so, it's still nice to come on here and cheer everyone else on!

I've never used Ovia, just FF, and I've heard a lot of people say they preferred FF because it seems more accurate unless you have the stock 28 day cycle. Are you going to use OPKs at all? They're a bit of a headfuck for me as I never get a +, but they might be useful for you if your cycles vary each month.

Hi everyone, can I join in?

ttc #1 DP and I have been together 18 months and I had my coil removed in September as it was due out. Just been using the (frustratingly reliable) withdrawal method since. This is the first month we have upgraded Haha! Not trying trying, but just seeing what happens.

I of course am unable to just see what happens. I've downloaded ovia and ff and am pretty in tune with when I ovulate etc. Had a clockwork 35 day cycle until a couple of months ago but it's been anything from 27-36 days recently. Not doing temps etc (yet) but going by CM and dates roughly. DP works away so this could be a loooooong process. Pretty sure I ovulated yesterday, had sex tues am. I've had a cold so we haven't done it much this month. Pretty sure we are out for this month but I feel I need to join this or I'll terrify the poor boy with ovulation and temps and prescribed sex!

Theresa, try not to get down, 1lb is still an amazing loss!! It's a sustainable loss. I've only been back on the weight loss bandwagon for a couple weeks now, but I set my goal weight loss rate to 1lb per week. Historically I've always struggled to lose even that after the first month of eating well and exercising. I always seem to lose a couple lbs. week for a few weeks and then nothing for aaaages. FX it's different this time. 1.1kg down this week. I've bought myself a Fitbit charge HR to replace my old Fitbit flex. I wanted something more. I'm loving it so far and look forward to seeing how it tracks proper exercise once I stop coughing so much and get back to it!

Congratulations vertical 😊 . I weighed yesterday and only lost half a pound. I know it's still a loss but a little gutted as I've been really good. Got my af the day before though so that won't be helped. Going for a nice big loss this week. I have 1st6lb until I'm at my goal now! Want to get a little lower but will have to see what happens with ttc. I start my second to last pill packet on Saturday. X

Congratulations Vertical, very exciting!! And I didn't need to open the pick to see the line.

AF has arrived on day 31 which is amazing! A year ago I never thought I would see 30 day cycles, let alone regularly! So that is now, the last ever AF I actually want!

Congratulations vertical!
I'm just waiting now...

AF hurry up! Cramps on and off since Monday, progressively getting worse, I'm so over cycle 2.

DH went to the DR's and they are going to do blood tests for low sex drive? No idea. Anyway he said it would be good if we could have sex once in the fertile window. I had to look away otherwise I would have sent him daggers. This TTC business could take years. Pissed off.

VC, it's a shock, will take some time to sink in. There are a lot of uncertainties in pregnancy, I'd be the same I think.