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23yrs old TTC

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BloomingR0sey · 20/11/2015 15:37

Hi all!
Me and hubby are 23, I've been off the pill since we've been married so coming up 2 years and we've been TTC for a little less than a year. I tend to go by my cm for ovulation as I have a 33day cycle, we do have regular sex through the out month too. I'm also taking folic acid. It's really starting to get to me that it's taking so long, everyone my age seems to have first time luck or getting pregnant unplanned.
Anyone have and advice or stories? I'd love to hear!!
Flowers

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Kellz92 · 07/12/2015 20:08

Hi Bailey yes i think we did. Love that film but it's emotional lol

Blooming thanks hun. Im using Ovia and Clue :) glad hubby is on the mend!

Fx for us all xxx

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BloomingR0sey · 07/12/2015 19:38

Queen, I see a line too! Have you tried a digital test?
Bailey, good idea! I'm so excited! Hopefully AF doesn't show up or if she does she's on time!
Kellz, sorry to hear about your loss at the beginning of the year! What apps are you using?

So it turned out that hubby actually was poorly because a couple of weeks ago he had a mole removed and his stitches suddenly got infected which has made him quite ill :( had to get a&e to sort it but on the mend now! I think we're out for this month one but will hopefully get to try the Preseed!

Good luck everyone! So excited!

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bailey23 · 07/12/2015 07:36

20 days??!! Omg queen that's some serious waiting! But I'm sure there's a line there!

Blooming I'm going to wait until Thursday, I have a day off then and it gives me plenty of chance to get the disappointment of AF if she's a couple of days behind schedule but I hope she doesn't come at all because I have a baby stopping her!

Hello kellz! I think we spoke on the December bus (about Southpaw)

Good luck to everybody - blooming good luck for your DH getting better so you can jump on him (and a hopeful congratulations to queen!)

Kellz92 · 07/12/2015 00:17

I frgot to say im 6dpo.

And Queen i see a second line eeeeeeek!! Are you going to test again?

I just bought a pack of 50 hpts, hoping not to need half of them lol xx

Kellz92 · 07/12/2015 00:13

Hi im 23 too, we are ttc #2. This is the first month of using opks and apps. Been off the pill since July. Our lg was a surprise, and we were pregnant at the start of the year (surprise too) but lost the baby. So thought it was easy but clearly isnt when you really want one! Xx

queenoftheworld93 · 06/12/2015 23:07

How is DP doing blooming?

queenoftheworld93 · 06/12/2015 23:06

Yes, bfn on a frer! However DP opened up the test and is convinced he sees a line! Here is a pic:

m.imgur.com/b08jnYz

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BloomingR0sey · 06/12/2015 22:27

Oh no Bailey! It's devastating! I saw it on the news, glad to hear you're okay though! Are you testing tomorrow or going to wait???
Queeny, have you tested?

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queenoftheworld93 · 06/12/2015 22:08

Good luck Bailey! I'm 20dpo and still no AF.

bailey23 · 06/12/2015 21:38

Haha yep I know what you mean!
Well AF is due tomorrow and I'm getting no signs to say she's on her way ... Yet!
Never got to go bowling on sat night, we live in Cumbria and everywhere has been flooded, luckily we were okay but places not even a mile away are destroyed!

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BloomingR0sey · 05/12/2015 10:45

I feel so sorry for him but was trust you to get ill now ha!
Awh nice! Yea that should distract you for a little while! I so agree! It's like you're watching yourself under a microscope and analysing every blink!

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bailey23 · 05/12/2015 10:40

Oh no! Get some tomato soup down him and a load of water, then stick him in a sauna!
We've arranged a night bowling with our mates tonight (who have just had a baby that we'll be godparents to) so hopefully that can take my mind off whether or not I'm coming on anytime soon.
I've never been so paranoid about what my body does and feels like before we started TTC!

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BloomingR0sey · 04/12/2015 23:04

Don't worry, offence taken! World would be a better place if people spoke honestly!
My husband works with some right slime balls, they just give everyone else a bad name!
We haven't used it yet, I'm not sure if we will get a chance too, my poor DH has come down with terrible flu! He's not well at all, I'm abit reluctant to force it on him ha! Fingers crossed he'll be better in a couple of days and we can at least try it.
I try tell myself AF is coming so if it was to happen i dint feel let down ha! Better said than done though! Try not to drive yourself crazy!

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bailey23 · 04/12/2015 21:46

I don't mean any offence by the way, I'm just the type of person that would rather say the truth than utter BS! And at the end of the day, my opinion doesn't really matter anyways lol
Ooohh I work with salesmen, not cars though I work in agriculture - the ones I work with are funny and kind and genuine but there are some smarmy ones - but it's the same in every industry! At least you'll get perks like cheaper MOTs and services etc.
Have you used the preseed yet? How's it going? What was it like to use?
And yeah, trying to be patient and think positive, although in trying not to get my hopes up (my brain is mush from me doing battles in my head about what to think!)

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BloomingR0sey · 04/12/2015 18:50

When I think Caspar I think friendly ghost too! Hahahaha!
Oh I do diy too, I'm pretty much the man of the house ha! My husband is a car salesman, everyone thinks he must be a right arse when they hear what he does but thankfully after meeting him they realise he's a good guy!
Ooooooooh I'm so excited for you!! Just wait! Because if AF turns up just means you have to go again but if you test and it's a false negative it'll feel awful! Try hold out! Fingers and toes crossed for you!

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bailey23 · 04/12/2015 18:11

I like Darcey, I think it's a really cute name. I don't think it's stuck up though. I like Aston but tbh Caspar reminds me of the ghost! Or one of J-Lo's boyfriends/husbands - but mainly the ghost! Lol
And he isn't always a handy person around the house, I do the diy! He thinks you can fix stuff with silicone seal and duct tape!
So what does your hubby do then?
I sent DH to buy some tests at sainsburys today, ready for Mon unless AF arrives beforehand so now I just need to keep my willpower until then!

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BloomingR0sey · 04/12/2015 11:08

Oh wow lucky you! I wish I married a builder ha! Handy to have around the house hahaha. Sounds like you were lucky getting the house when you did! Would be so much harder now!
Lovely names! such sweet names!
We both like Darcey for a girl but worried because I don't want it to sound stuck up! And for boy my husband likes Aston or Caspar, quite different but I just don't know!

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bailey23 · 04/12/2015 07:33

Exactly, and hubby is a builder so hopefully the next house we move to will be built by us and for us :)
Well you must've got really lucky then! House prices where I live are really expensive now, especially for a first time buyer, so I'm glad we bought when we did!
I've actually had baby names planned for the last 5 years! Mia for a girl and Charlie for a boy. And DH agrees with them!! Although I did originally want Amelia and shorten it to Mia, but he didn't like that.
Have you got any in mind?

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BloomingR0sey · 03/12/2015 21:53

Forgot to ask as well, have you been thinking of any baby names?

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BloomingR0sey · 03/12/2015 21:24

Doesn't matter how big or small.. it's yours and you've worked for it! And has a bedroom for a mini me which is all you need ;) We were so lucky because we got our house really cheap then house prices went up so much in our area! We can hopefully extend in the future and stay here for a long time!

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bailey23 · 03/12/2015 19:50

You didn't ramble as much as I did! That sounds awful! I'm not surprised you didn't get one of their houses. We only have a 2 bedroom and eventually I do want a bigger house, but for now the one we have is ample and it's OURS - I'm really proud of that. I work my arse off but I have a house to show for it!

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BloomingR0sey · 03/12/2015 19:08

Rainbow, completely couldn't agree more! We are very capable if not more! People slap labels on people far too quickly!
Bailey, we are two peas in a pod! I'd much rather that any day! Oh wow sounds like you had a really nice experience then! We've got a mortgage, People always said to me and DH we were jumping in too quickly and I must admit we did but we're both so open with what we wanted so it was so natural (here comes my life story ha!) within 6 months he moved into my parents and we decided to start saving a year later we had our deposit and we're looking for a house, took us almost a year and half to get our house because we had a house fall through and everyone we met was just so judgemental! Asking how much money we had saved and if we needed help from our parents, we were going to buy a new build but they were so awful we didn't! im so glad in the end though we found something much better!
sorry for going on ha!

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bailey23 · 03/12/2015 18:37

I think all those close to me know I'm not a big drinker, I'd rather go bowling or to the cinema than have a night out on the pop - but those that don't know me think I'm the same as all the folk you see splashed across the papers getting sozzled in Ibiza etc...
Random questions are my speciality! Trust me, this isn't half as random as some I've asked today! When we were buying our house, only our immediate family knew at fist so they were fine. The estate agents were okay (you don't deal with them much, and they want the sale) and the mortgage broker was really good crack - he looked in his forties but he was a jokey and funny kinda guy. But then when we bought the house and everybody else found out, the people that didn't really know us were thinking we'd jumped into things too fast, nobody can afford to keep a house in this market, we'd regret it because we'd spend all our money on bills and have nothing left over etc., I can honestly say I've never been happier!
Have you got a mortgage too or are you renting at the minute?

RainbowTime · 03/12/2015 18:33

Evening all,

Couldn't agree more. I'd say my age is a positive rather than a negative with regarding to bringing up a child. I'll have more energy in their early days and find it easier to keep up with them. I've more of a chance to be here hopefully to support them when they're grown up and having their own children too. I have a stable job with a BSc degree to back me up, a home, a husband, and I've travelled the world. Most importantly of all a heart to love and nurture a child, a deep yearning. I don't know what people think the disadvantages may be, but I've met mothers of all ages who either wanted or didn't want to parent and I can honestly say they held very different values. I think people should be able to do what they want with their lives without the judgement of others - particularly those who are in a professional capacity and are being paid to deliver a service. My partying days were over as quick as they started and I've never felt more ready to parent.
Let me know how the pre-seed works out :)

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BloomingR0sey · 03/12/2015 17:24

Ow! That so weird! Just try hold out! You must be going crazy!
Ha! That's the best thing I've ever heard, passwords are such a good idea! Try train them up hahahaha!
Bailey I'm totally on your page there! My old boss used to actually accuse me of getting drunk every night! (She was a horrible person) BUT still was like I haven't drank since I was 19!?? We will probably bring up nicer children because we've had to put up with rubbish!
Random question but you said you have a mortgage, when you were buying your house/flat were people really judgey then too?

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