Wanting a child at 19!

What are you studying? It does seem a total waste of money if you have no intention of pursuing a career afterwards.
I think you both have very unrealistic expectations of having a baby and parenthood, and the fact that you're going to be very heavily reliant on your partner for everything rings alarm bells.
Why the rush?

That seems harsh, sorry, id write more but i hate this phone and i have to get ds ready for nursery!

Oh, in the nicest way possible, dont do it. I had ds at 19, hardest thing I've ever done. I'd have waited if I could and had more time for us as a couple. Get uni out of the way too as you'll find it harder afterwards. He is 3 now, best and hardest thing I've ever done.

We started trying when I was 19, I was still training but we knew I had fertility issues and time was limited. We had been married a year and owned our home. DS was born when I was 23.
To be honest fertility issues or not I would have had my family in my early to mid 20s, I am 32 now have been back at work nearly two years have recently been promoted. Delaying a career has not been a problem, my friends who have very young children after working for 10 years for the most part feel their careers have stalled.

One of my best friends had her first child at university and her experience sounds like Cookings. I met her when out dc started school and we both had younger dc. However she is almost a decade younger than me and the rest of our group. But at 23 and the mother of a school age child and a sturdy toddler she had nothing much in common with her former friends.

The baby was planned and she was (and is) married but she says looking back that their biggest regret is not doing anything before they had dc. Her dh has never left the country for example. They seem to spend their time now (the dd are 12 and 9) sort of tying to escape from them. They each go out on a week night every week and do quite ordinary things. Like go round to a friends and they take turns to go out to breakfast on a Saturday. Stuff they missed out on.

The problem is that babies are not babies for very long. Soon they are small dc criticising your driving and refusing to eat penne pasta because they only like bow ties.

I teach at a Uni and I would say that pregnancy complications or the aftermath of a newborn are the main reasons given for dropping out/ deferring. You might get lucky and have a dream baby, but you might not. I would wait until at least your final yr before getting pregnant because then at least you can finish your degree.

Dh and I, decreasing not decking- and I give up correcting the rest- my predictive text coupled with vomiting child is too strong an opponent to fight

I would also be concerned about the uni thing. Before I had my DS I had no idea how much the sleepless nights would floor me. I naively thought I'd have an excellent sleeper and be able to get loads done. I only realised how bad it was when my manager asked of he could send some documents over to get my perspective on and it took me hours to read them when it should have taken one at most! No way could I have done as well in the type of essays I had to do in my final year if I had been a parent to a baby then. Waiting a couple of years will be well worth it IMHO but that is only my opinion :)

Dh and started trying when I but 19- But a planned and inevitable health implication meant our fertility was rapidly decking. Last chance saloon if you will . I had her at 21.

If there had been any option I would have waited. The first year was easy. Once I went back to uni, the minefield of childcare, study, sleep deprivation etc really hit home. Despite not being a party girl beforehand I then felt entirely isolated from my peers. Socially you WILL be judged. I am still judged 9 years on, and it still hurts. My choice to have dd young gas odd implications I never considered- i don't fit into the mums groups at school- fewer play dates for dd. I'll be a very young grandmother- still in my working life soy relationship with any potential gdc will
Be compromised, as unlike my parents who are slowing down at 55-65, I can't see that 40-50 year olds in my generation will be working less than full whack. I've changed indescribably over the years- honestly at 19, married, mortgaged and living eith do- having lived alone for three years paid bills etc- I thought I was an adult. I wasn't. There's a maturing period through your early twenties that makes so many changes, to who you are, your outlook on life. It's been as train on dp and I - I am not the woman he met ( though thankfully he loves more and I him)

My career is impacted. Employers aren't allowed to discriminate, but a twenty something graduate with childcare constraints and commitments is not as desirable as one who can put their life into their job without compromise to home. I have a great job and career but it wasn't as easy for me as it would have been without dd.

Without real immediate physical reasons to try now- I would wait until after uni. If I could choose the perfect age for me it would have been after uni, after year1 of career progress.

Finally(!) I am also rather worried that you say your partner is "willing to help out" with childcare - how very big of him. Has that phrase come from you or from him? A child is not something that is your responsibility and he merely "helps out". Does he also consider him doing the housework, cleaning, food shopping, cooking, washing as "helping out" too?

Sorry - too many huge alarm bells here - I know it's not what you want to hear, and I know you think that you will be different (we all did at 19!) but please - listen to us wise old folk on here.

Also, you say you will be getting on the property ladder next year - so assuming that your partner has a very well paid job and savings - will you be named on the deeds and mortgage?

Please consider getting married before the birth, to protect yourself in the event of a split.

I think you have to be prepared that you might have to have a year out from uni if you had a baby. It depends a lot on the baby to some extent -some will sit in bouncy chair content in day and sleep at night so your plan would be manageable. Some need lots of cuddles/walks and don't sleep (like mine!) In which case you would struggle with the amount of work needed in addition to your contact hours. If your mum can provide childcare for more than time in lectures to let you get studying done every day that could work but you may feel you are missing out on your baby when they are tiny?

I think it will be a shock for you quite how much work babies and small children are. You do realise a young baby needs feeding every three hours around the clock. It's hard to read a book with a crawling baby getting up to mischief. Little babies don't stay small for long.

I suggest you put off trying for a baby until you have finished your degree. You still have time on your hands. You have about twenty years of being fertile.

What do you want to do for a career?

It wouldn't be an age thing for me, it would be an issue because you are still at uni. How can you provide financially for a child while studying?

Is it wide to have a baby while still in this type of education? What about time off you will need, at least to give birth plus hospital appointments? What if you have a terrible pregnancy and are unable to attend uni?
How can your partner do childcare if he will be working?

IMO it doesn't seem the best time to plan to have a baby. Especially as you have your whole life ahead of you.