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Terrified.. but excited

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sophiekitten92 · 13/11/2015 22:28

My boyfriend and I have decided we want to start trying for a baby. I've made an appointment to have the coil removed on Wednesday 18th November. I'm excited, but at the time I feel terrified and nervous, and keep wondering if this feels weird. Did anybody else get these feelings? Or did people have zero worries or nervousness at all?

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sophiekitten92 · 14/11/2015 18:22

Ahhh ok that makes total sense!! March will come along so quickly I'm sure :) I might have to double check to make sure that everything is fine if we start trying now too :) xx

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Brocklady · 14/11/2015 17:59

Sophie, just since September - to qualify for enhanced maternity package you need to have been there for twelve months eleven weeks before expected week of childbirth, so would need to be due last week in November or later!

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sophiekitten92 · 14/11/2015 17:21

I have no idea what to expect - things feel so good sexually - (i think, anyway!) so I have no idea what it will be like when we start actively trying! :)

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sophiekitten92 · 14/11/2015 17:21

Brocklady - how long have you been with your work for? Me and my boyfriend had the same thoughts, and for us the qualifying week is in march too - so we realised if we start trying and everything goes according to plan we should be safe with that :)

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Brocklady · 14/11/2015 10:14

We are waiting to try (due to maternity pay!) and at the moment March seems a long, long way off.

I'm impatiently waiting! Not helped by the fact three close friends are pregnant and are actually all due around the time I'm hoping to start trying.

BubbaNo1 · 14/11/2015 10:11

Yeah it does feel a little more intense... It's nice!

Once you get that coil removed Sophie.. The intensity levels will rise lol

Oysterbabe · 14/11/2015 07:03

At first maybe but that quickly changes if it takes more than a couple of months. You get a bit sick of all the shagging and just want him to get it done.

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sophiekitten92 · 13/11/2015 23:31

Me too! Without being weird, does sex feel different since you guys started trying? Like more intense or loving somehow?

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BubbaNo1 · 13/11/2015 23:28

Yh I know what you mean it's a scary process.. I've become obsessed with mumsnet and researching different things. I've bought myself some SevenSeas "Trying for a baby" vitamins, and downloaded the Ovia app... Excited much lol

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sophiekitten92 · 13/11/2015 23:23

Congratulations bubba! I'm glad it's not just me who feels like this. I think because we've talked about starting a family for so long, it just feels so different actually living it. I'm so scared!

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BubbaNo1 · 13/11/2015 23:20

Hi Sophie.. I took my last pill on Tuesday and yh it feels very real now! I'm nervous but very excited! I'm just hoping it doesn't take too long for my periods to regulate.

I'm sure it's normal to be a lil anxious.. :)

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sophiekitten92 · 13/11/2015 23:01

I'm glad it turned out to be unfounded! I'm scared because I always planned to be engaged or married before having a baby, but with the price or everything and age difference between me and my bf, things are going a little different to how I originally saw things...

I'm not sure if it's just because it's so close to actually starting to actively try which is why I feel so nervous!

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Oysterbabe · 13/11/2015 22:58

I was mostly terrified of not being able to get pregnant, that I would be infertile and we'd try for a year then have to have testing and assistance etc. Completely unfounded as it turns out Smile

Good luck!

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