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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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TTC for 10 months and the rest. Ten plussers welcome. Thread 2.

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lucieloos · 07/10/2015 11:21

We have been so busy chatting I've started a new thread. Welcome all 10+ ladies. Hope we all have some luck on this thread.

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lucieloos · 12/10/2015 07:29

Aww itsme, I know it's hard, I have thought of life without children and thought should I give it all up and go travelling with Dh but I don't know. I couldn't imagine a life without children. I'm having treatment abroad at the moment to save money on costs. Have you thought about that? What would have cost us about £5k per time in the uk now only costs us £1500 so we can afford a few more tries. I think if it came to the worst and it still wasn't working for us we would look into donor egg or even double donor (egg&sperm) A lot of people have it at the clinic I'm at and the success rates are very high. It just means coming to terms with the fact that the baby wouldn't have your DNA which some find easier than others but there are ways.

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Itsme247 · 12/10/2015 07:03

We've been trying for 18 months, although I had the implant taken out almost 3 years ago (we were just careful around the middle of the month)

It's just so stressful having to decide as a couple how far we are willing to go, only one nhs funded round seems really low chance to me but there's no way we could afford more than one private ivf treatment :(

And even more difficult, if we are unlikely to become parents, and the ivf fails, then we will pursue a different kind of life together . Sell the house we worked hard to fill with children, and maybe do something else- travel, take up our passions without concern of being irresponsible... But we can't even do that because there is this slim hope that one day , after we've sold everything that's baby friendly and were in the middle of nowhere with a campervan to our name, that I might miraculously get pregnant...

Which would be absolutely awesome but I'll have nothing left to raise he/she how I am planning to now!!!

Has anyone thought of life after maybe not having a baby? Or is that just pointless waste of mental energy. I suppose I want to come to terms with that first, to save any disappointment with the treatment :(

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lucieloos · 11/10/2015 20:46

Hi itsme, how long have you been trying for? It sounds about the same as happened to me really. I went privately for all my blood tests which were ok. Dh has low motility and they said we wouldn't be suitable for iui as a result of this. The doctor didn't think it was worth me having a hysteroscopy or anything like that as no indications that anything would be wrong so basically said try for another 6 months and if nothing then come back and begin ICSI. Nothing happened so we went back and have now just finished another treatment.

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Itsme247 · 11/10/2015 20:40

Hi ladies, I've been on and off this bus for a while but have been for our first meeting at the fertility clinic. I have high prolactin levels and DH has low motility , the doctor was a bit odd if I'm honest and said that as long as long as I have a period every month and my DH has at least some sperm , there is a likliehood we can get pregnant but in the same breath said if nothing happens ire the next few months, come back in April for our (one and only Nhs funded ) round of ivf!!!! Does that sound right? Surely there are other steps to take before ivf?

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lucieloos · 11/10/2015 11:55

Yes I don't think it's 6 months hun, the IVF Wales is in an awful state at the moment!

I'm having treatment in Czech Republic. I was looking for treatment abroad and they stood out as they have great success rates and the prices are way cheaper than uk. We pay less than £1500 for a cycle including ICSI. It's all very easy. I'm doing embryo banking at the moment so doing a few cycles and saving up any embryos that make it. We have a forum over on fertility friends if you want to find out more. The clinic is called reprofit.

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Salimali15 · 11/10/2015 10:51

I'm on the waiting list for an initial consultation. I was told the waiting list is 6 months, so perhaps the lady I spoke to was telling porky-pies?!?!

Whereabouts are you having your treatment abroad? Would you recommend?

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lucieloos · 11/10/2015 10:26

Me too, I don't think that's correct about 3 private attempts. You are entitled to 2 free attempts on the NHS. The waiting list is currently around 18 months to 2 years though so if you aren't on it already then I would get on it quick. I have been on it for almost a year now and haven't had my initial consultation yet. You are entitled to one attempt privately which won't affect your NHS attempts, however if you have 2 attempts privately then you will only be eligible for one attempt on the NHS and if you have 3 attempts privately you are not entitled to anything on the NHS. That's my understanding of it anyway.

We have got around this by having treatment abroad. It's a lot cheaper and the NHS are none the wiser Smile

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Salimali15 · 11/10/2015 10:19

Yes, Cardiff.

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lucieloos · 11/10/2015 10:04

Whereabouts do you live sali? Is it Wales by any chance?

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Salimali15 · 11/10/2015 09:54

Yes, our 1st. I've been advised that in our area, we can have 3 private attempts and still be eligible for NHS - pretty good, I think? So we're thinking to give it until Christmas and then start the ball rolling privately.

loopylou1984 · 10/10/2015 21:58

Ohsnd are you wanting to get IVF privately as well? Xx

loopylou1984 · 10/10/2015 21:56

Ouch Sali, you poor thing. Rest up, and you'll be back on your feet in no time. Is this your 1st you're trying for? Xx

Salimali15 · 10/10/2015 21:29

Thanks for your lovely welcome Sammy. The tube got caught on a ridge causing more pain and internal bruising than usual, apparently. Confused

loopylou1984 · 10/10/2015 20:34

Lucie - hooray for 2 fertilised! Fx they both make it to blast, but fab news that you get to relax a bit now.

You too Trixie, chill out time is needed!

Welcome Sali - unexplained sucks, you're pleased nothing's wrong but left wondering why you're not getting pg! What went wrong with the HSG?
Anyway, this thread is amazingly supportive, stick with us :).

AFM - I got an email back from the original nurse we saw who clarified that we are able to start straight away - but it'll depend on timing as obviously they can't plan me a slot as don't know when af will arrive and if they're full I'll have to wait till next month. Makes much more sense. Xx

Salimali15 · 10/10/2015 20:20

Hi all. I'm 14 months in with no sniff of a BFP. I've been doing the usual OPK, acupuncture etc but nada!

In our area the wait for an NHS initial consultation is 6 months so I had all the preliminary tests done privately. Had an awful time with the HSG yesterday and now sat here hardly able to move. All of the tests have come back as 'normal' so we're at a total crossroads of not knowing what to do now.

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lucieloos · 10/10/2015 20:11

Thanks trixie having a couple of drinks tonight. That's me done until Jan now unless we decide to have a fet before Xmas but I doubt it. I'm quite looking forward to a couple of months where I can get back to normal, go out, have drinks, maybe a little break somewhere. I just hope these two do ok first.

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Trixielilac11 · 10/10/2015 19:59

Ps good work Mr Lucie!

Trixielilac11 · 10/10/2015 19:58

Have a big glass of wine Lucie. I am so hoping it is the same as last time and you get 2 blasts to freeze.

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lucieloos · 10/10/2015 12:57

Hey, rung for my results this morning and looks like we are in exactly the same position as my last round of treatment. Of the 3 eggs collected only 2 were mature again, both of which fertilised. I have told dh he has great sperm which is lucky for us. Out of the 3 cycles we have always had 100% fertilisation! I was really hoping for 3 embryos though just to give us a tiny bit of leeway this time but it was not to be. She said they are developing well at the moment but it's so hard as obviously there is such a long way for them to go now and anything could happen. Feeling stressed!

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Trixielilac11 · 10/10/2015 11:02

I can't understand why they'd want you to wait a cycle Sammy. I'd understand if this was straight after your fresh cycle but it was a FET and you weren't taking meds for long. FX it gets sorted.

Any news yet Lucie?

Have had AF cramps this morning, hope she does turn up as will be good to get this cycle over and done with.

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lucieloos · 10/10/2015 08:01

That does seem a little strange Sammy as you can normally do fets back to back so don't see why you would need to wait an extra month this time. Hopefully the doctor will be able to sort it out.

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loopylou1984 · 10/10/2015 07:39

You never know Licie, keeping everything crossed for you!

She meant after the 2nd bleed, but dh and I are certain that the nurse on Wednesday said we could go straight from the first bleed. I really don't want to wait what could end up being 8 weeks for the transfer. It's not fair. Xx

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lucieloos · 09/10/2015 22:24

Thanks Sammy, we got 2 frozen last time so 100%. I just think that was so lucky though and can't see it happening again although it would be amazing if it did!

Does the nurse mean that you can start on the cycle after this one Sammy or do you have to wait the whole of that cycle too and start on the 3rd bleed?

Trixie glad you are getting the NHS ball rolling. Are you just doing the fresh with them rather than fet because of costs?

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loopylou1984 · 09/10/2015 17:50

Lucie that's good, try not to be disappointed. How many did u freeze last time?

Glad you're getting your appointments sorted Trixie - makes you feel productive.

A nurse from the clinic called today and told me we'd have to wait for this bleed and the next before doing the natural cycle. This is 100% not what we were told on Wednesday so dh and I are going to email them later together. Xx

Trixielilac11 · 09/10/2015 14:50

Have everything crossed that all of your eggs make it to blasts Lucie.
I think giving your ovaries a rest is wise.

Have just booked my scan and bloods at the NHS fertility clinic, soonest they can do is 10 November which isn't too bad. Think we have an appointment afterwards and then hopefully we can go on the NHS waiting list and if it's 6 months or less then we will wait for that rather than doing another FET.

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