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Feeling a bit low...Baby #1 conceived first month of trying...now on attempt month 5 for #2...is it because of C-Section?

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Corrin · 12/05/2004 16:55

Am feeling a bit low today...did a test yesterday and was negative..don't feel like I'm pregnant at all.

Have read some of the other topics and I know there's loads of people in the same boat and that I was incredibly lucky the first time round...but can't get why? out of my head.

Tried to go through the 'what's changed'...clearly am somewhat more tired and busy now, had to have a c-section with dd (20 months...not sure what else.

Have been to GP...who says have not been trying long (which I know) but feels like ages because we were so lucky the first time round...

Anybody know whether c-section can have altered things?
Anybody know how I can be sure I'm ovulating?

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jane313 · 27/05/2004 18:48

This is it. I'm not trying myself again yet but I was just curious.

www.vantagechemist.co.uk/catalog/product_info.php?cPath=25&products_id=84

jane313 · 27/05/2004 18:45

Has anyone ever used that ovuliser thing? it is supposed to tell you when you're ovulating by testing your saliva? I saw an article on it ages ago but don't know if it still exists or if its any good. it was about £30 an d you could use it for ever (or until it broke or the batteries ran out)

katierocket · 27/05/2004 13:56

bump
persona? or is there something better?

kittyb · 27/05/2004 13:23

For that thread, go into "parenting" and its called "what is a good gap between first and second baby"

katierocket · 27/05/2004 13:13

that's interesting - I never knew that some people could ovulate twice!
Anyone any thoughts on whether persona is worth getting to predict ovulation?

Tania2 · 27/05/2004 10:48

Thanks Azure your right the gyno explained to me that not everyone's ovulation is the same day and some people can ovulate twice in one month and some may only ovulate only a few times a year. But I am no expert at this as I haven't had to worry about it till now. Just trusting what the gyno is telling me. but then again he is a man and maybe just helping my hubby out by getting more sex!! ha ha. kittyb- iam new to this chat thing what is this about thread can you tell me how to get into it?? really appreciate it thanks

futurity · 27/05/2004 09:33

Can't find that thread kittyb ...where abouts it it? I need some inspiration!

Azure · 27/05/2004 08:27

Possibly because Tania2's cycle time varies from 25 to 28 days, ovulation could be from day 11 to 14, hence the recommendation for sex on day 14.

katierocket · 27/05/2004 08:20

tania2 - am I being thick? don't understand why having sex after ovulation would help? anyone?

kittyb · 27/05/2004 07:50

anyone worrying about age gap between kids should read the thread "whats the best age gap" (sorry cant do link). We have been trying for 20 months for #2 and sometimes I feel really down. But that thread is really inspiring and sets out lots of positives about longer gaps.

Tania2 · 27/05/2004 04:00

Sorry i didn't mention i am a new member incase you didn't notice. not up with the lingo yet so i do appoliges. hope you have more luck next month.

Tania2 · 27/05/2004 03:40

I feel for you. I took around 7 years to concive (medical issues) with my first. wasn't actually trying but never used contraception if we fell pg bonus and if we didn't then down the track when we were ready to start a family we would seek help. we bought our first home and within a month of moving in i conceived. now we are trying again and having no luck. saw my GP and was lucky he took me seroiusly even though we had been trying for only a few months and sent us to see a Gyno. now i know i ovulated last month (ultrasound on day 19) but now i have to have a laperoscopy to see if my tubes are blocked or have any holes. problem is there is a 5 month waiting to have this done. my son is 18mths old and we were hoping not to have too much of an age differance. hope something happens before then. its just so frustrating especially when everyone around you seems to get pg so quickly. has anyone done a detox diet and fallen pg. that help my sister conceive. my cycle is anywhere from a 25 to 28 day my gyno told me that if it is a 25 day cycle then my ovulation day would be day 11 and has also suggested that we have sex on day 10,12& 14 and not to have sex everyday. has anyone else had similar advice.

Angeliz · 26/05/2004 21:05

Hi Corrin, i haven't read all the replies but wanted to say i'm in exactly the same boat!
I have been trying for 5 months too and am feeling pretty low about it all at the moment! DD is 3 and i thought i'd have another by Christmas and i often worry, is something wrong....

Hope you get lucky soon and will look out for happy news from you+

Tommy · 26/05/2004 20:54

Hang in there Corrin! My experience is: DS1 conceived after a drunken night - first time ever in my life not used contraception. Had pregnancy scare when he was 5 months and so disappointed I wasn't pregnant we started trying for number 2. Took 6 months to get pg again! I'm sure a lot of it is about relaxing and trying not to worry about it.
Good luck

ReallyHip · 26/05/2004 20:34

These messages are all fab. "Pes" sent me the link to this thread and am very interested particularly in the book suggested by "Joffy". Will also check out the "fertility friend" link suggested by "Zerub".
TTFN

bunny2 · 14/05/2004 19:11

Corrin, 5 months isnt that long but I can appreciate, from personal experience, it seems like forever. I'd definately recommend charting using the Fertility Friend website. It should give you clear signs of whether or not you are actually ovulationg. With ds I got pg straight away, then with #2 I got pg first month of trying (unfortunaltey miscarried). After that I presumed I'd get pregnant again very easiliy but after 2 years I still hadnt so I went to see my doctor. Apparently I wasnt ovulating so I am really glad I went to see him. After a low dose of fertility drugs I got pg second month of trying. Good luck.

futurity · 14/05/2004 07:47

yeap! he had been taking them for a few months when we started trying so was smack bang in the middle of all the side effects...I thought it was never going to happen as things in that department were difficult. We just had to make extra..erm...effort blush but it can be done!

The laugh is he is now off them and we are still trying for baby after 6 months!

katierocket · 13/05/2004 20:14

futurity, thank you thank you thank you! you've given me hope.

It's soooo frustrating. did your DH have same problem?

Joffy · 13/05/2004 19:56

I strongly recommend the following book: "Taking Charge of Your Fertility: The Definitive Guide to Natural Birth Control, Pregnancy Achievement and Reproductive Wealth" by Toni Weschler. You can get it on Amazon.
It explains how to target the time you can get pregnant which can be only a couple of days a month. Two of the techniques are a bit yucky but it's all natural and makes sense.
I tried to get pregnant for 18 months then within 4 months of getting this book I got pregnant. I am using the techniques again to try for a second one and if only my dh wouldn't keep going on business trips at vital times I'm sure it would have worked again!

futurity · 13/05/2004 19:47

katierocket: DS was conceived first month trying whilst DH was on antidepressants so it can be done despite that annoying side effect!

katierocket · 13/05/2004 19:43

corrin, I've been watching this thread with real interest. I'm desperate to get pg (have one ds 2.6) We're got added problem of DP being on antidepressants which makes it really difficult to ...ejaculate.

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Corrin · 13/05/2004 19:40

By the way...have regular cycle about 28 days...not sure whether ovulating regularly...think I may have had early mc last month (period a couple of days late...v unusual)..

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Corrin · 13/05/2004 19:35

Do you know what I think you're all great...reading/talking here really makes a difference.

Thank you for your notes.

Period came today and have been feeling lousy (plus went for a makeover at Bobby Brown to cheer me up and ended up looking like girls world!..didn't help!)

I think I might go and get a Ov Kit (though I was not keen at first...trying not to make it too scientific)...

AM planning some nice stuff too...hubbie taking me away for anniversary..

Well here's to next month's trying!

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ChicPea · 13/05/2004 13:44

Hi Corrin! Don't worry, it will happen. I had C Section as DD breech and got pregnant in first month of trying when she was 4mths. I was tired, stressed as DH family had stayed for 4weeks over Christmas (and you won't believe what I put up with) but my body still managed it. So don't worry about being tired although maybe you could have a day time nap when your DD has one. Don't know your cycle but egg is usually midway. So for a 28 day cycle it will show around day 13/14. The signs are thick discharge the day before and on the day (did you know that this is to trap the sperm?!) and an incredible thirst the day before. I know this from using Persona as a contraceptive and getting the egg sign when testing my urine. The egg shows for 2 days on this machine although I think it has 36 hours waiting time. Are you getting enough iron from your food and are you eating enough protein?

Piffleoffagus · 13/05/2004 10:13

I conceived my first two really quickly as well and ttc this time has been so hit and miss, cycle is very up and down, plus opportunities are few and far between, also previously I never felt any pressure as once was unplanned and the 2nd was lets see how it goes, if we get pregnant then great! And we did within 2 weeks. but this tiem as we have decided we want another one within a year, the pressure is on, I feel very nervous about it, and I had two natural births earlier too