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Anyone ttc baby #2?

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jp0303 · 20/09/2015 18:18

Hi everyone,

I'm new here, ttc baby #2 (1st cycle) and already driving myself wild with the tww. I wondered if anyone else is in the same boat?

I was so relaxed about baby #1 that the constant nagging thoughts about am I / aren't I are completely new to me and are making me feel anxious with symptom spotting.

Thought I'd see if there is anyone to talk to on here as my husband is quite matter of fact about there being nothing we can do to find out except for being patient - I know, he's infuriating right.

It'd be great to buddy up if anyone else is in a similar position.

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ThirdThoughts · 15/11/2015 10:07

I'm still feeling sick and exhausted and now bloated. Hmm Hopefully these symptoms will dissipate soon if its a bug/virus.

Yes, BFing might be interfering a bit, but I'm okay to wait with that. I suspect that my weight/hypothyroidism is having more of an impact on my cycles (as have found they regulate beter when I''m lighter before) so plan to lose weight first, then consider reducing feeds if DC1 hasn't by then.

Peyia · 15/11/2015 09:10

Ahhh the bloating! I have that big style! Its clearly water and not cake...

GX hope you enjoy getting spoilt by oh Grin

Gx91 · 15/11/2015 08:46

Hey ladies how r we all this morning ?
Mimi glad u enjoyed your night out ! It's quite nice to take urself away from the TTC head frame sometimes I did when I got AF last cycle and it geared me up to restart lol X
I'm doing well thanks and OH is over the moon , think he's so used to dtd all the time lol he won't keep his hands off me ! Lol I know it's lovely but the bloated feeling makes me not wanting to be touched , been trying not to let the grumpy set in and let him for now haha xx
Peyia I have I test left probs do it tomorrow to check my line bcoz it was still faint on Friday , gona find it hard to stop after getting used to it over the last few months lol ( like morning protocol !

Peyia · 15/11/2015 07:52

Sorry Thirds, hope you are ok xx

Mimi sounds like you had a great night but sorry to hear you had been feeling low. This TTC malarkey is so hard on out emotions but glad to hear you're doing better Flowers where are you based mims?

Me? I'm doing ok. Nausea has eased but it comes in the night when I haven't eaten. Boobs are still sore. I fall asleep standing up!!

I don't know if this is a symptom but I'm a lot more straight talking and don't take no bs. I've had a few stern words with people (bitten their heads off!) which is not like me. I'm usually docile Hmm

I took my last test a couple of days ago and my line is as dark as the test line. Will probably stop now until booking in appointment.

Wishing everyone lots of baby dust xxx

Mimilicious013 · 15/11/2015 05:59

Fancy ferret thanks hey!after dancing the night away am feeling so much better.im now geared for my last cycle before xmas.how are you and how was yo wkend?what cd are you on? Third are you feeling any better now ?read somewhere that you must have less feeds now if ttc.how often do u bf(if u dnt mind me asking ?) hope you get your bfp too soon !fx Peyia how's the weekend ?how are u feeling and any new symptoms to share.it's true this thread is cool.im on several others and its hard to relate.Hope everyone else is doing fine and keep bfps coming.BABY DUST TO ALL !!

Mimilicious013 · 15/11/2015 05:40

Starting a new cycle with all my fingers crossed !in oncd3,another month to go!!Gx hie,how's yo wkend with dh?is the line getting darker by the day?kinda missed u guys these past days but was so low!how is dh enjoying your bfp ?you must be getting spoiled now.have u told anyone else ? Jp how was yo chinese takeaway.l was def just giving' caution to the wind hella drunk hoolahs!'like u said kkk.enjoyed myself and forgot abt sad af!as for the festive season if a bfp doesn't show in the next 30days.i will be letting my hair down till next year !what cd are u on now ?are u on the middle ground moderation ?

Gx91 · 14/11/2015 09:34

Thanks fancy ferret hope to see more unravel on this thread good luck to u all Grin xxx

fancyferret · 14/11/2015 08:28

OOh Congratulations GX!! I'm a bit slow keeping up with the thread at the moment. How exciting - baby on board Smile

Sorry about AF Mimi - hope you had a good evening and are feeling better. Fingers crossed for you for the next cycle.

I am with you third am trying to eat healthily in order to be in optimum health while TTC - having said this I am still drinking probably a little too much wine and not really doing any exercise...ahem. I do tend to have the odd small glass of wine in the 2ww but feel quite guilty so may knock this on the head.

Gx91 · 13/11/2015 20:03

Unlucky third , think it's probably down to the bf hormones ! It is really difficult not to symptom spot when TTC and I really do think ur body tricks u ! Good luck for next time unless wen u retest u might have a nice surprise ! Smilexx

Jp- it's up to u what u want to do I don't think having a drink during ovulation would cause any harm to the traveling egg , I was really laid bk this cycle and had a few glasses more than once before dtd X
Don't think it will harm the baby until it has implanted altho drinking to excess probably isn't a good idea X
I think being relaxed plays a major factor tho because stress can put ur whole system out of whack ,
Think of all the pregnant women that conceived bladdered , our DD was on Valentine's Day and she's perfect lol smart little cookie too lol xxx

jp0303 · 13/11/2015 19:46

Mimi, I want to come on your night out WineWineI'm having a Chinese takeaway with dh after plans with a couple of friends have fallen through. Sure it'll be lovely, but I was looking forward to getting out for a gossip.

I wasn't sure about drinking whilst potentially ovulating though - what do you all do? Angelic abstinence or middle ground moderation? Or just caution to the wind hella drunk hoolahs?!

I've been enjoying a drink with AF but haven't had more than the odd glass when she's not around, if even that. That's been easy enough for these 3 months, however the festive season is creeping up and I might find it more tempting if I have no BFP. Any thoughts anyone?

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jp0303 · 13/11/2015 19:39

Aw shucks Third, if only our bodies weren't so confusing Sad Perhaps your body is reacting to the breast feeding like you say, those hormones can make everything out of whack. I hope that the sickness you've been experiencing passes soon, could be a winter bug. It sounds like your health kick is going positively for you, good luck with that and kudos to you for putting the effort in. Enjoy your weekend.

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Mimilicious013 · 13/11/2015 19:29

Thanks Peyia.how are you dear and the excitement ?im sure your hubby is over the moon!Third sowii!!! I know how disappointing a bfn is!!!i spent most of my day in bed now off to have myself a blast with my sisters.night night

ThirdThoughts · 13/11/2015 18:54

Not Pregnant

So that's that, sorry for not supplying the "Ta Dah!" that would have been fantastic. I'm just surprised as well as disappointed because I really thought I was in spite of how unlikely it was. Presumably my 'symptoms' will settle down once I stop hunting for them. Maybe AF is still unpredictable due to breastfeeding and is just making a song and dance about coming back and that's why my hormones are all messed up and I just felt a bit sick for unrelated reasons.

At least I'm focused on getting fit for pregnancy now. My eating habits this week have been exemplary. If I can lose quite a bit of weight before I get my BFP then that will hopefully make pregnancy a bit easier and make HCPs more supportive of choices for birth.

If I'm still feeling pregnant after a while I will retest, but although my periods are unpredictable, I'm sure that the 'symptoms' I felt, if genuine, meant I would definitely be far enough along to test.

Peyia · 13/11/2015 18:20

Sorry to hear that mimi It must be so disappointing and not helped by OH. Chin up lovely and enjoy your vino!

Thirdthoughts Peeeeeee on the stick now please Grin

I'm such a stalking but I'll be on this thread waiting for all your bfp's. This thread is like my comfort blanket. I'm a bit lost on the other board...tempted to start our thread on the other side for easy transition Grin

xxx

Gx91 · 13/11/2015 18:06

How exciting good luck third thoughts ! Xxx

ThirdThoughts · 13/11/2015 15:57

DH picking up test/s after work tonight. So either tonight or tomorrow morning first thing. :) Here's hoping!

Gx91 · 13/11/2015 15:03

Well enjoy ur drinks mimi that's the upside I suppose ! ul b bk in the waiting game soon enough might as well enjoy urself before then ! Wink xx

Mimilicious013 · 13/11/2015 14:47

Thanks guys.you make this so much easier ((hugs )).have to accept that im out this cycle.at least it was short right !Wish you could give my dh a lecture and talk sme sense to him.any good news today?ending my day with some drinks !!

jp0303 · 13/11/2015 12:53

Oh no Mimi, so sorry. Such a shame your dh has said that, are you ok?

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Gx91 · 13/11/2015 12:33

Aww mimi that's not fair on u , guys don't get that there's a lot more to it than having sex ! The egg only survives for 24 hours for a start tell him to wind his neck in there's only so much you can do each month X fresh clean slate for this month tho wishing u all the best Smile xx
When are u breaking out the pee sticks third thoughts? lol think we are all itching to see how u get on ! Xx

Mimilicious013 · 13/11/2015 10:46

Ttc sure is a rollercoaster ride.Third are you testing today ?fx fx

ThirdThoughts · 13/11/2015 10:30

Hmm at thinking you were still taking the pill behind his back! You are disappointed too! As for all the hard work DTD, diddums! Surely that's the fun bit? If it showed up early maybe the fertile window was different to usual. Lots of couples take a while to get pregnant without them even having fertility problems. It's just luck.

Mimilicious013 · 13/11/2015 09:34

My dh is making it worse ,he accused me of still taking the pill behind his back.he was so excited and put a lot of effort dtd,then af shows up a week early .eeeish!!!any morning sickness yet?

Gx91 · 13/11/2015 09:23

Not yet going to wait for OH to get home X il post a post a pic tho hopefully get a darker line today X
Try not to beat urself up ( I know it's hard ) I was pretty gutted last cycle bcoz i didn't want to wait to try again Xx

Mimilicious013 · 13/11/2015 09:02

Thanks Gx.did you do any testing again today ?post pic,maybe it might give me hope