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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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TTC - a relaxed thread.

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lostindubai · 31/07/2015 20:28

Looking for like-minded mums to be who are taking things as they come and fancy a friendly chat along the way.

I'm 36 and just started ttc my second. My ds is 28 mo and I still bf him once a day, most days. I understand this may affect my fertility but, although a three-ish year age gap would be nice, I'm a long way from worrying about it at this early stage. It took me a year of trying (and a mc) before ds came along so I already know what it's like to wait for good things!

Technically I'm not charting or anything (wouldn't know how) just counting roughly 10 days into my cycle and dtd as much as reasonable (!) around that time.

It might not be the most dynamic way of ttc but it suits me for now Smile

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DrGee · 04/08/2015 22:57

lostindubai Mr Whippy will probably not be good because it's not fully frozen - this can cause bacteria to form if not probably monitored. Having had a poisoning incident from a Mr Whippy I would imagine it is NOT a good thing to experience while pregnant! Confused

DrGee · 04/08/2015 22:55

Hello all- This thread sounds nice :) I've just started ttc #1 and have had a nose around here for a bit to see what's what - I'm 33 and we're trying to go with a "let nature take it's course" approach. It's quite hard not to get stressed by the amount of science you could get in to if you wanted! And having never really paid much attention to my cycle before it's all a bit intimidating, and very easy to feel the pressure that I should be paying attention to all of these things = temps/fluids/sticks! So I think I'm going to try and take a step back from trying to micromanage every day of my cycle as I can see the stress building already! Although obviously it's exciting too,So, please talk some sense into me and tell me to chill out about it all!! :) xx

applecatchers36 · 04/08/2015 22:45

Sorry to hear about your losses dubai and infrance these things are not often spoken about & not recognised in real life

Had never heard about Mr Whippy either that's new to me..

My day was pretty average thanks Pandora but not as stressful as yours sounds tamara wondering if am slightly hormonal as snappy with DP but that could be PMT or just a reasonable reaction to his annoying ways Wink

Tamara160 · 04/08/2015 22:40

I think it is something to do with unpasteurised milk or something?? Don't quote me on that though.

Have a good time at the wedding and enjoy your holiday! x

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lostindubai · 04/08/2015 21:56

Decca thinking about it, during my mc I didn't have access to the same pain relief as when in labour - probably had something to do with it. Absolutely, we must be optimistic that it won't happen again.

I'm not in Dubai I'm in south east England! I got lost in a gold souk in Dubai once Grin

Hi SugarLump are you joining us? Smile

My day was good thanks Pandora. Getting sorted out for our holiday (the wedding is in Scotland and we leave tomorrow).

Someone else mentioned Mr Whippy ice cream was a no no last time I was expecting. But I never saw any official advice on that. Does anyone know why?

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DeccaMitford · 04/08/2015 21:39

Oh god Dubai and InFrance, really? I had no idea. So not just emotionally painful, how awful. Flowers

Fingers crossed none of us will be in that situation this time.

Incidentally, are you actually where your nn suggest you are?!

SugarLumpFairy · 04/08/2015 21:37

Once you come off the pill your cycles should be fairly regular straight away. Mine were between 9 and 17 weeks long - no af but no bfn either. Seriously frustrating month after month. Once I went to my GP I was quickly diagnosed with polycystic ovary syndrome, and various blood tests showed I wasn't ovulating at all. Ds was conceived after a bit of hormone treatment and the pregnancy kick started my reproductive system - now ttc dc3. So don't lose hope with irregular periods and keep PCOS in mind. Good luck everyone!

Tamara160 · 04/08/2015 21:35

Hi everyone!

I hope your OH feels better soon Pandora, folic acid is a great start though. I'm really unsure too about what you can and can't eat. I know Mr Whippy ice creams are out (gutted!) and soft cheese but other than that I'm clueless!

Today I have been into work to try and sort my classroom out. I took one look at it and nearly walked out lol. It's such a mess what with the floors being cleaned, so the furniture is all stacked up and the previous teacher's stuff it everywhere! I spent a good few hours in there but it looks like I've done nothing! A few more days and it might start looking half decent again!

Went to my friends earlier and had a cuppa. Her daughter (my god-daughter) came back, she's 4, and was VERY hyper and verging on the side of being rude at times. Threw loads of tantrums (particularly when i used my 'teacher voice' when she was being rude, weed on me and then played up at bed time. I sat there thinking 'I want one of these?!' Haha Confused
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darkpandora · 04/08/2015 21:15

Infrance you are right it does feel extra loving,got lot more DTD to go this month tho so will get used to it quickly I'm sure lol

I think all of you will be fine and when baby comes along they will slot in with any of the other children you have and it will be like your family was that way forever you will all make it work I know you will Smile

My situation is far from ideal myself which is why it's taken 10 years we still live with my parents as can't afford to move out, But there is a spare room which will become a nursery and we are always looking for something that comes up within budget so hopefully it will soon I feel If we wait until we have everything sorted something else will crop up and it might never happen.

How's everyone's day been?

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lostindubai · 04/08/2015 20:29

Yes, it definitely felt a bit 'naughty' that's for sure hehe! Then thinking about it afterwards just makes you smile Smile

InFrance my experience of mc (at 9 weeks) was more painful than actual labour, I too was surprised by that.

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InFrance2014 · 04/08/2015 19:47

Hello again (sorry for slow reply),
Thanks for nice messages everybody, and sorry to hear about the other miscarriages people have been through. Although it was really unpleasant (and surprisingly painful), I cannot imagine how hard it must be further along than I was (8 weeks, but probably stopped developing at 6 weeks).

Also like Reebok and Decca am hoping it's not a crazy time to be TTC with a 16 month old, plus very unstable employment situation, but I really want a small age gap as I had with my brother...

LOL at pandora, although it was sometime ago now, I remember unprotected sex also feeling "risque"- knowing that a baby might be created also made it was somehow extra loving.

darkpandora · 04/08/2015 17:38

Hey reebok thank you for answering me yay so glad I really fancy an egg sandwich and wasn't sure Grin

Reebok · 04/08/2015 17:33

decca that's a very good way of looking at it. My LO is very hyper!! Hoping she calms down.

pandora fried eggs even while pregnant are fine. It's just you are not allowed runny eggs when pregnant.

darkpandora · 04/08/2015 17:20

Welcome Apple we are gaining quite the community now it's brilliant Grin

Hey Decca,Tamara,Infrance,ellimum,and everyone else (there so many people now I apologise if I forgot your name) Smile hope you are all ok

Dubai yeah my first time not doing any preventing your so right it felt really strange almost like I was doing something wrong even though at 26 it's deffinately not lol.
I'm so excited for you fx for a BFP. I have no idea how I'm going to keep anything secret as me and my OH are currently living in my parents house. Perspex box! Way to make it obvious may as well have a glowing red light on top lmao

My day didn't go as planned as OH is ill today so we never got a chance to go shopping and get everything. I tried going to shops near here but nowhere sold what I needed Angry so grabbed some folic acid at least until he feels better and we can go into town.

Hope everyone has a good day today. Btw is it safe to eat a friend egg sandwich when TTC?? I'm totally clueless everything is all brand new to me.

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lostindubai · 04/08/2015 16:50

I'm reassuring myself in the exact same way Decca! My ds is more stroppy now than ever!

Bought my test today in Sainsbury's. It's surprisingly tricky to be subtle about it actually - they all come in a massive perspex security box. Was hoping to tuck it in amongst the bananas and biscuits but that was not to be! Luckily I didn't bump into anyone I know. This is strictly between me, my dp, my ds (although he has no idea what we're talking about) and you lovely lot Wink

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DeccaMitford · 04/08/2015 16:32

Reebok I know how you feel, but that 2 year old should be at least 9 months older and a bit beyond that by then (that's how I reassure myself anyway) Wink

I've just done a grocery shop and made sure to pick up decaffeinated tea and drinks since this thread reminded me. I know I cut out a lot of things last time I was pregnant - like alcohol, soft cheese etc - but I honestly cannot remember giving up full fat coke. Maybe that slipped through the net, might explain why my son is so hyperactive Grin

Reebok · 04/08/2015 15:17

My two year old had a melt down outside because she was tired...making me wonder, am I mental for TTC when she has only just turned two and is having non stop tantrums??

Reebok · 04/08/2015 15:00

Welcome apple!

dubai just said it varies with each person but to expect to bleed up to 10 days which I did. With my first mc, I had to have an erpc as I had missed miscarriage. We also decided to wait 3 months rather than try straight away. Can't remember when AF arrived. So all this is rather new to me!

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lostindubai · 04/08/2015 09:14

Morning Apple nice to have you with us!

Oh Pandora your first time without protection yesterday! It's a strange feeling isn't it? Especially when you've spent all your time up till then making sure you ARE protected Grin

Reebok did the doctor tell you what to expect in these first few weeks? I can't remember specifics from my first time around but I know I had one AF after mc and then conceived right after that.

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applecatchers36 · 03/08/2015 23:14

Hi can I join this relaxed thread obvs a popular approach.
TTC No 2 , no. 1 is 18 months. Not used charting, temping or ovulation kits before & it worked ok with No.1.
Had coil removed last month & taking folic acid. Not really had any symptoms and due AF this week so expecting she will be on time.

Reebok · 03/08/2015 23:04

Haha! Know what you mean darkpandora! Already on my folic acid and vitamins....to be honest been on it since I was pregnant. Didn't stop in case we decided to try again. Ordered a whole load of preg tests off of amazon. No way am I spending cash on expensive tests like I did last time! Feel excited already as we have dtd a few times...doubt I will get pregnant this cycle though as no idea when I ovulate but in the mean time, may as well have fun dancing! Lol

darkpandora · 03/08/2015 22:34

Hey ladies welcome Notro Smile

Everyone had a good day? I'm off out to the shops with OH tomorrow to buy vitamins for us both and this week is all go! Had my first DTD without any protection today at CD 10 and I'm now really excited and a little nervous lol

Ooh this TTC could send me loopy keep me calm ladies Grin

Reebok · 03/08/2015 21:10

Thanks guys. Feeling ok. Have my days but my LO helps me through them and reminds me that I can carry to term. Feeling excited about TTC again. Although starting to get cramps so worried might mean AF is coming early...odd as after a mc I figured would come later.

Keeping my fingers crossed for you decca, justme and dubai!

This group is helping me to feel better already!

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lostindubai · 03/08/2015 20:30

Hiya Reebok and Notro, warm welcome to you both!

So sorry to hear about your mcs Reebok. I hope you're ok.

Notro I have to say charting or temping or whatever was a foreign concept to me before looking at this board. I've seen a lot of angst connected to it so no, I'm not tempted at all! Grin Hope you can manage to stay chilled - we'll try and help you if we can.

JustMe fingers crossed hey?!

Tamara, glad you got that hen do sorted. You did the right thing. Definitely hard to plan ahead with things like pregnancy but I think we have to be optimistic and be prepared!

Almost bought a test today in Boots, but was on my lunch break and didn't fancy taking it back in to the office! Day off tomorrow so I'll pick one up then.

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Tamara160 · 03/08/2015 20:09

Thanks Justme and Pandora, I've just messaged the girl organising it and she said it's fine and that they're going to do one in a town near me after. So i'll just go to that one. Smile All this forward planning eh?!

Sorry to hear about the mc Reebok, I hope you have better luck this month. I'm a teacher too and feel like you, I really want to be going back in September being pregnant!

Oo hope the ovulation kit was right Decca! Fingers crossed for you!