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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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TTC - a relaxed thread.

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lostindubai · 31/07/2015 20:28

Looking for like-minded mums to be who are taking things as they come and fancy a friendly chat along the way.

I'm 36 and just started ttc my second. My ds is 28 mo and I still bf him once a day, most days. I understand this may affect my fertility but, although a three-ish year age gap would be nice, I'm a long way from worrying about it at this early stage. It took me a year of trying (and a mc) before ds came along so I already know what it's like to wait for good things!

Technically I'm not charting or anything (wouldn't know how) just counting roughly 10 days into my cycle and dtd as much as reasonable (!) around that time.

It might not be the most dynamic way of ttc but it suits me for now Smile

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CakeLady456 · 12/08/2015 19:13

MrsHughes you could go from joining this thread to BFP in one day lol!

Molly28 · 12/08/2015 18:42

Hi MrsHughes25 it is possible you are pregnant already! Although for me it took a good six months to see any pattern with my cycles after stopping the pill the first time and during that time my body threw up all sorts of pregnancy symptoms! Will keep my fingers crossed for you though!

darkpandora · 12/08/2015 18:40

Hey ladies hope everyone is doing ok we got anybody poas yet?

Welcome Molly and Mrs Hughes.Smile

molly that sounds painful what Is lichen sclerosis? If you don't mind me asking. Good luck on your TTC journey

mrs Hughes I'm 26 trying for my first too Smile I'm really sorry but I can't offer any perspective on your situation as I have no idea how long it takes for implantation etc hopefully one of the awesome women on here will be along to help Smile

MrsHughes25 · 12/08/2015 17:29

Hey guys!
I'm new to Mumsnet & new to this! Any help would be awesome!
I'm 26 & my man & me have decided to ditch the pill & try for our first!
So here's my story:
24/07/15- took last pill. I was on Cerazette & had been for approx ten years. Very rarely had any bleeding.
29/07/15- brown discharge- sorry TMI!
30/07/15- fresh red blood, hoping it was my period but had gone the next day.
10/08/15- did an ovulation test that was negative.
11/08/15- did the deed with my partner & had a very sharp pain throughout in my cervix region, that I continued to feel for the rest of the day.
For the past week or so I've been exhausted, felt varying degrees of sickness (although no vomiting) & have struggled at times to get food down, yet others been impossible to fill!
I've also been really thirsty, & craving sugary, fizzy drinks.
Is it possible I'm already pregnant or am I going baby crazy?

I'd love to make some TTC buddies to share the journey with!!

CakeLady456 · 12/08/2015 17:25

Hi Molly! Oh dear that sounds painful but def a good approach!

Molly28 · 11/08/2015 20:56

Hiya! Am I ok to join? I've just started TTC #2 but trying a relaxed NTNP approach for now. My cycles are all over the place, I also have lichen sclerosis so this can make regular Dtd quite difficult so I'm trying to not get too worked up about it all!

CakeLady456 · 11/08/2015 18:42

Dodi I'm 37 too, never felt too old for anything before until TTC!! Lol I'm sure sure it makes no difference crosses fingers!
Hope you're feeling better Reebok!
Welcome newbies, the more the merrier!!!
I looked at the NHS website re how often is best for DTD and it says every 2-3 days. I don't think more does any harm tho!

applecatchers36 · 11/08/2015 18:28

Oh good luck Decca could it be you next?

DeccaMitford · 11/08/2015 12:17

Smile that should be!

DeccaMitford · 11/08/2015 12:17

She's not here yet ????

darkpandora · 11/08/2015 00:02

Welcome newbies lovely to have you on board we have quite a few ladies on here now so their is so much support its brilliant Grin

Oh Dear I made a huge mistake and just watched a program called baby faced mums on channel 5 and now the broodiness is off the scale!! I really hope I have a baby one day soon but I guess I will just have to wait and see what nature intends for me Smile

DeccaMitford · 10/08/2015 21:52

Evening all.

Feeling like AF may be on the way Sad She was 2 days early last month and would be two days early again if so. This after being bang on 28 days since I had DS. Hope I'm not early menopausal!!

PuppyMummy · 10/08/2015 21:01

Hi everyone, can I join you?

Back on the conception board as ttc #2. took 18 months first time Shock (so could be here a while!!)

ds is 14 months. im 34!

didn't do temping or anything first time but did count each cycle. just started back on the ttc vitamins too! Definitely not as worried this time as we are very lucky to have ds.

He was a pre ivf bfp so am extremely greatful for him.
Fingers crossed for everyone Smile

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lostindubai · 10/08/2015 20:44

Hello Blue, Bubgal and Dodi, warm welcome to you all!

Bubgal the way dp and I did it was to start dtd as soon as AF finished, every other day for around two weeks. It was exhausting but we succeeded first time! Must say though, I hadn't been using hormonal contraception so my cycle was pretty regular when we started.

Oh Reebok you poor thing Sad I really hope you start to perk up soon.

Taking it easy Pandora? Haha not likely in this house! Today we've been chopping the bottoms off doors (to allow for the new carpet) and putting up a new roller blind in the kitchen! And back to work tomorrow. But I'm feeling ok and sleeping much better now I'm back in my own bed Smile

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dodi1978 · 10/08/2015 20:18

Let me join as well! Have DS who has just turned two years and is the best and cutest thing that has ever happened to us.

I've just gone off the pill (Cerazette). We'll use condoms for a month to help my body adjust and then really go for it.

Hoping to conceive before Christmas as this would be ideal timing work-wise for birth and maternity leave :--)) but well aware that baby No 2 may have different plans!

For DS, we only took too months to conceive... am sort of hoping it'll be similar this time. Mind you, I am 37, so not the youngest.

I really do feel quite relaxed about it, certainly more relaxed then the last time round... it wouldn't be the worst if it was just the three of us, but a sibling would be nice as well!

darkpandora · 10/08/2015 19:22

so sorry your feeling so crappy Reebok hope it passes and you can be in the mood to dtd again Flowers

Bub in reply to you we are also just having sex when the mood takes us its been almost everyday not sure what's recommended either.

tamara lol at doing decorating only a short while after your back from holidays Grin glad you had a nice holiday.

Reebok · 10/08/2015 19:03

Welcome to all the newbies. Glad you could join us.

Tamara the holiday sounds fab! Glad you've enjoyed it!

I am no longer in the mood to dtd! I've lost my mojo lol! Feeling like crap...tummy aches, cramps, tiredness, slight nausea, phlegm build up (sorry tmi) which is probably causing the nausea, a blocked nose...feel so run down. Think it is ovulation as before we started ttc (before my mc), I came off the pill and started having all of these symptoms during ovulation. Problem is now I should be dtd but I can't be asked with the way I'm feeling! Just want rest!

applecatchers36 · 10/08/2015 18:51

Hi Bubgal and Blue Pigeon glad you could join us. These holidays, weddings and boat trips all sound very nice & compatible with lots of DTD.

In reply to you Bub I think we were just averaging DTD around 3 times a week & that felt natural to us, not sure what is recommended though.

Tamara160 · 10/08/2015 17:55

Hi bubgal! my DH and i are just doing it whenever we fancy but so far it has happened to be everyday - much to DH's delight!!

We came back off holiday today Dark, but it was almost luke a second honeymoon. very relaxed, whuch hopefully will get our baby making off to a good start! Grin However, we were only back a few hoyrs vefore we were bored so we started doing a bit more decorating! No rest for the wicked!

Cake - it would be funny but great as we would be at the same stage! Fingers crossed for us all!

CakeLady456 · 10/08/2015 17:34

Wouldnt it be funny if we all managed to coordinate AF at the same time and all DTD at the same time?! (Diff places obvs!)

BubGal13 · 10/08/2015 16:13

Hello please may I join?

Me- 34, TTC no.2, month no.2....am with AF at the mo so excited to get cracking next week!

In run up to ovulation interested to hear how often/which days you all do/plan on "doing" it?!

darkpandora · 10/08/2015 15:20

Ooh yay fingers crossed for you too! Really hope you get your BFP. Me and OH have been DTD daily as well just hope it doesn't stop now would hate to miss OV as not entirely sure when that is. Hope you are having a lovely holiday Smile

Tamara160 · 10/08/2015 15:15

Hi Dark! I'm on CD10 and OV should start in 2 days according to the ovia app. So fingers crossed! DH and I have been at it daily while on holiday, but it's all been very relaxed. Hopefully we can be as relaxed about it over the next week!
Fingers crossed for you! We may be finding out around the same time!

darkpandora · 10/08/2015 14:54

Welcome blue pigeon nice to have you join us Smile

How are you getting on tamara?

It's CD 16 here so I'm gearing up for OV so fingers crossed

Hope everyone is doing ok Smile and the pregnant ones amongst us are taking it easy Grin

Bluepigoon · 10/08/2015 14:22

Thanks Tamara, fingers crossed for this month :)