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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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TTC - a relaxed thread.

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lostindubai · 31/07/2015 20:28

Looking for like-minded mums to be who are taking things as they come and fancy a friendly chat along the way.

I'm 36 and just started ttc my second. My ds is 28 mo and I still bf him once a day, most days. I understand this may affect my fertility but, although a three-ish year age gap would be nice, I'm a long way from worrying about it at this early stage. It took me a year of trying (and a mc) before ds came along so I already know what it's like to wait for good things!

Technically I'm not charting or anything (wouldn't know how) just counting roughly 10 days into my cycle and dtd as much as reasonable (!) around that time.

It might not be the most dynamic way of ttc but it suits me for now Smile

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lostindubai · 24/12/2015 08:26

Hey Tamara, Anna and anyone else who might still check this thread Smile Just popping on to wish you all a Merry Christmas and hope you're TTC dreams come true in 2016 (if they haven't already!) x

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darkpandora · 22/11/2015 22:58

Oh no has this thread gone dead?? I hope you are all ok I'm always supporting my fellow relaxed TTC ladies this is where my journey started.

How are you all getting on? You will all get there and I look forward to seeing you on the grads board when you do xx

Take care Flowers

Tamara160 · 10/11/2015 20:40

Thanks Lost Smile

It would be nice to hear from other people too , it's so nice to have support!

In a weird way, i'm quite enjoying this month with not stressing out about ovulating etc. My brain is having a break! Haha.

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lostindubai · 07/11/2015 06:19

Anna I agree that tracking might make things more stressful. I hope next month you can relax a bit more and that it works for you!

Fingers crossed for you too for next time you try Tamara. Hopefully some more lovely people will join this thread too as it's so much nicer when there are a number of people going through these experiences together. I'll still be cheering you on from the sidelines of course! Grin

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Tamara160 · 03/11/2015 23:13

Thanks Anna. It's so frustrating when your cycle changes! I hope something happens either way for you soon, the limbo stage is awful! I may join you in the not tracking anything.

Lost, it's the only thing i can think of, other than my body being an arse, that would/ could have changed my cycle. It will be nice this month to not have that am i aren't i stress. But I'll still be thinking about it.

Annarose2014 · 02/11/2015 22:52

Oh not a hope lost. My period is so late now that I've realised I must have ovulated (if I ovulated at all) very very late in the cycle. And cruelly, i think that was the one window this month we eased off on DTD as we thought we must have gotten it already as I had EWCM quite early on. But it must've been misleading. Last cycle was 39 days and this one is heading that way too dspite my taking the soy (which seemed to do nothing!)

Oh well. Maybe next month. I'm going to not track dates or CM or anything. Its too stressful when you get it wrong.

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lostindubai · 02/11/2015 20:45

Fingers crossed for you Anna. Keep us posted!

Tamara I hope you can enjoy your 'time off'. I wonder if you stop taking the folic acid your cycle will change again? I've never heard of it but would be interesting to know.

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Annarose2014 · 31/10/2015 10:34

Wine for you Tamara.

Mel its impossible to know with first cycle but the pill can make things a bit erratic after. Download Clue - its a very good cycle tracking app. Its the only way I keep track of things. I have to say, dry mouth is not really a "thing", no.

My boobs are bloody uncomfortable. Like bags of sand. Curiosity is killing me of course, but am trying to stay strong as long as poss without testing.

Tamara160 · 31/10/2015 00:22

Thanks Anna. You must be fed up by now, especially if you have a week to go! As frustrating as it is, I would hang fire for now and see what happens. I hope AF stays away though!

Hi Mel. I don't know much more either. My cycles went straight back to what they used to be before I went on the pill. But the last 2 months they've been longer for some reason. So i'm not much help i'm afraid.

Lost - AF arrived late yesterday. I was gutted. The last 2 cycles have been longer by about 4 days. I'm beginning to wonder if the Folic acid has something to do with it... DH and I are having next month off from TTC because if we conceived, baby would be due on our holiday next year. So I've got to twiddle my thumbs until December.

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lostindubai · 30/10/2015 21:10

Sorry Mel I have no idea, but I was also under the impression that it takes a few months for your cycle to regulate after coming off the pill. However I'm no expert and I'm sure it can also happen straight away for some women.

Tamara I'm gutted for you! Is AF usually here by now?

Good luck to you Anna. Try not to stress too much, I know easier said than done but try keeping busy with other stuff so you're not dwelling on it x

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Mel2290 · 30/10/2015 10:26

Hello, I was wondering if someone could help. This is my first month of TTC after stopping the pill at the end of sept, so I've had a withdrawal bleed at the beginning of the month, then clear blue test confirmed I was ovulating on the 16th of Oct (which I thought would be unlikely in the first month off the pill). So my first question is, should I expect AF around today? I tried a test today and it was negative. I experienced a tiny spot of blood on Wednesday and nothing since and the past two days I've woken up in the middle of the night with an extremely dry mouth, has anyone else had this?! I don't think it's a very common pregnancy sign, or is it? Thanks for any help!

Annarose2014 · 30/10/2015 10:10
Sad

Massive hugs. I'm in the same boat - day 32 now and nada. My boobs are v tender etc but I think thats just pre-menstrual rather than anything else. I refuse to waste more money on tests!

But my last cycle was 39 days (albeit without soy) so I may have another bloody week till AF comes! Lets hope the soy makes it shorter - that was the idea after all!

Tamara160 · 29/10/2015 08:11

Glad you're doing well lost Smile

Sounds like a good idea Anna.

I've just done another test with a FRER and got a solid negative! Not even a hint of a line!! Angry I'm 2 days late now and no sign of AF making an appearance yet either! So frustrated!!

Annarose2014 · 29/10/2015 08:03

Fingers crossed for you! I'm not going to bother testing again as I feel sure AF is coming in the next 3 days. Felt crampy and queasy yesterday so just pre menstrual in general. Just going to keep busy!

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lostindubai · 29/10/2015 07:18

Oh Tamara how tantalisingly frustrating for you!

All is fine with me thank you. Really hoping for a proper bfp for you today Smile x

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Tamara160 · 28/10/2015 14:41

Hi Lost!

I did a test this morning and DH and i both saw a line but it was so faint we thought it might be where the line is supposed to come up. If that makes sense Confused i looked again a few hours later and there's definitely a line but it could be an evap line. I've bought some first response tests and I'm going to have another try again tomorrow. What a faff!
As for the wedding, i just said it was my turn to drive. I got a few funny looks but oh well.

I hope everything is going well for you lost!

Hi Anna! You never know, you're in until AF arrives! I'm on CD 31 today so we're nearly at the same stage. The tests could be negative because it's too early. When are you going to test again?

Annarose2014 · 28/10/2015 11:16

Also popping back - sadly I doubt this cycle will be the one. I'm on day 30 and feel......precisely nothing.

I caved and did tests a couple of days ago and they were negative so I think it just didn't happen. Annoying, cos I'm sure we hit the window! Makes me wonder if its age finally making a difference as I'm 40. But thats prob just paranoia.

I really wanted a summer baby as having a winter baby is pants!

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lostindubai · 28/10/2015 06:50

Ahh Tamara good luck for your test! How did you get on with not drinking at the wedding?!

Also popping back to say hi to everyone. It's definitely less busy on here, I think a lot of people stopped posting when that password change happened sadly. Hopefully they'll come and find us again, and maybe we'll get some new recruits too!

Love and luck to all x

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Tamara160 · 27/10/2015 21:21

Hi Pandora!

How are you doing? I hope morning sickness hasn't hit you too hard!

I'm testing tomorrow and am a nervous wreck! Fingers crossed I'll be joining you tomorrow!!

darkpandora · 27/10/2015 17:09

Hey everyone it's very quiet on here..thought I would pop back and see how you'd are all getting on can't wait to see you all on the grads thread one day soon take care of yourselves Smile

Tamara160 · 19/10/2015 23:13

Hmm cookies I'm not sure... it's possible. But don't you have 24hrs or so from the surge to dtd? You might still be in with a chance. FX for you.

Haha MrsSanta oh dear. Hopefully they'll take your mind off testing for a while.

I'm due to test next tuesday or wednesday. I'm not really sure as my cycle was a bit longer last month. I feel fairly normal this month other than burning/tingling boobs and a heavy feeling in my pelvis area. Got a stinking cold though too. Not impressed. I'm at a wedding on Saturday so i need to think of a reason why I'm not drinking. They all know I'm usually game for a drink so it may be tricky!

Cookiesandcoffee · 18/10/2015 20:47

Thanks anna that's really interesting! I had never heard of them before, well nearly 4 years since TTC.
I was convinced I wasn't going to ovulate (very impatient) and missed a day of opk as we have been on holiday. Took one the following day and a line but not very strong. Following day no sign of a line at all. Do we think I had my surge on the day I didn't test?! Was a lot later than expected.

Anyway who is due to be testing soon? Any sniff of a BFP? Anyone due to test?

MrsSantaClause · 18/10/2015 15:19

It's my fertile window atm, we dtd Friday night and hoping for another one over the next few days fx. Then will be the dreaded tww. Have arranged for friends to come round for a take away the weekend after I am due to test, so if we're successful I may have to tell them as there is absolutely no other reason I can think of that would justify my not drinking! Didn't think that through properly did I!!! Confused just have to wait and see I guess

Annarose2014 · 18/10/2015 13:16

I still have a good week to go - impossible to know as I've been tinkering with my cycle. But CM has gone very definitely sticky so it does look like ovulation is over anyway.

Luckily I'm too busy to really be going mad just yet!