TTC and still breastfeeding? Thread # 5 - Positive Vibes!

Hello all.

I took a Mumsnet break in my quest to go to bed earlier. it has helped, a bit.

Big news here is last month there was a decrease in the number of days I spotted pre-AF! down from 7/8 days to 5. First improvement in the number of days for a year, although the amount has been dropping.

I was so surprised I did wonder if I was pregnant, and as that would have been a late August baby (which i'd rather not, but also it is the time my sister was born and died (neo-natal death)) I was actually pretty happy when my period came along.

Now back on with the Gynae and on clomid this month. Cycle day 12, had a scan, 2-3 (!!) eggs developing and a 'lovely lining'.

Completely stopped BF'ing now, DD had her last go a couple of weeks ago when ill, though I think I stopped making milk sometime before that.

If I wasn't for my age (38 1/2) I'd give it time, and i'm pretty sure my cycles would settle down and it would happen au naturel.

But as it is, I'm happy for the boost...

My discovery for the last couple of months: make and drink bone broth! read all about how and why here... heidibrockmyre.com/blog/1244

it has made me feel so much better I wish i'd found out about it ages ago.

How are you Pear?

Happy Christmas all round [fsimle]

Not been on for ages but just wanted to check in, congratulations elle!!! I'm halfway through another 2ww but not holding out hope as have been in the midst of 18mo sleep regression so lots of night feeding and not much dtd-ing last month! hope you all have a lovely Christmas and get bfp's in your stockings!

Congratulations toelle!!

I just popped back to see if missed any bfps glad there's one :)

I was taking break from obsessing as I'm still on the same cycle as when I last posted... after ff saying I'd ov'd on CD12, It took away the crosshairs when i got to like 36dpo haha! obviously didn't ov. currently 6dpo - maybe - probably not- I have a follow consultant appointment on 22nd though have had no further tests as awaiting CD1 ha!

Anyway, good luck everyone, fc for some more bfps soon! :)

Hi Teddy,

Its good to have some company on this journey! Trying to explain it sounds ridiculous to most people! haha!

xx

Artisan I can't offer any advice but am in the exact same position as you! My ds is 16 weeks old and people probably think I am mad but I want to get cracking with the next one! Don't want to stop breastfeeding tho it's a difficult balance x

Hi all

I hope I can join this thread.

I'm 33 (well on Tuesday) and am EBF my 11 week old baby and want to conceive my second fairly soon.

My period hasn't come back yet and my lochia took ages to stop and only stopped 2 weeks ago.

I want a second quite close to the first because I like the idea that they could be very close/always have a wee friend to play with. Also though so I don't have to go back to work for long. Its not that I don't like work, I just prefer being a mum . Financially I am also aware that I would need to go back ft to get a decent mat leave pay again.

It took 2 years to conceive number 1 so I am hoping the next won't take quite so long!

Congratulations toellewithit delighted for you

Congratulations toellewithit I'm so happy for you !!
Fingers crossed we all have follow in your success

It definitely could be teddybears particularly if he's a decent sleeper!

There was a poll on an extended breastfeeding group I'm on and the median answer was 11 months, but it varied hugely from 2 months to nearly 3 years. Mine started when I went back to work. I think the long stretch during the day without feeding definitely helped to kickstart it.

So I realised this morning that I was 3 days late for my regular cycle ( 31 days) so I did an internet cheapy test before getting in the shower. Wasn't expecting much since last month's cycle was a ridiculous 43 days. Totally forgot about the test until went back up 30 mins later to brush my teeth and lo and behold a second line! Didn't really trust it after the 30 mins so cracked open the clearblue digi I'd been saving for a "special occasion" and got a pregnant 2-3 weeks. Absolutely thrilled. Looks like we brought back a holiday souvenir!

Can anyone help me? My lo is only 4 months and I am feeding on demand

I haven't had any bleeding since he was around 8 weeks however in the past few days I have had a bit of light spotting only really when I wipe nothing major needing a pad or anything also noticed an increase in ewcm over the past two weeks

We want another baby close to this one so I haven't used any contraception when dtd.

Any ideas whether this spotting could be a sign of my cycle coming back?

Still feeding and no period here - DS will be 2 this month. I think I'm well out of the normal range though. Last time I was this keen to see my period I was a teenager...

Hi
18 months is exactly what I was hoping for, baby is 7 months at min so still a bit of hope.
I don't want to stop breast feeding or not give my daughter on demand feeding because of my want for a second child as that doesn't seem fair or the best thing for her but really hoped once she had weaned I would start being fertile again
Looks like I might be in for a long wait,

I am no expert but mine came back at 13mths. I am one of the longest to wait out of my breastfeeding friends. I was planning a small gap like 18mths but no chance of that now!

Ps thanks pumpkin!

Hi all
Good luck kitty vet got my fingers crossed
I'm getting a little stressed AF hasn't returned yet , what's the average time it should return ?
I'm generally doing 4 feeds a day ( unless we have a bad night then 1 extra feed)
Should I try n reduce the feeding ?

Hi Elle
I am currently in the 2WW after my first cycle and attempt to conceive. Was pleasantly surprised that I was able to DTD without interuption at the right time! My daughter still feeds mornings, evenings and nights. I would be sad to curtail our BF journey as given it took me a year to get pregnant not sure if I will succeed again :(

How's everyone?

I'm been MIA due to a very busy period in work and a lovely holiday. No joy on the TTC front. After regular 31 days cycles, the last one was 43 days. What the hell is up with that? CD31 here now, managed to DTD a good bit on hols, but not optimistic. DS has upped his feeding while away. I guess being a work puts a limit on that ordinarily. Giving serious thought to night weaning.

What's up with everyone else?

Yay! High on my monitor so time to squeeze in some DTD! Anyone else?

peardrop the sticks I wanted were all white but bought some single use ones with mini digital holder and my monitor seems to be reading them. It took a year to conceive my daughter when we had no other pressures to interrupt DTD...I am guess I am in for the long haul here too.

Hello ladies. I'm going to mostly lurk whilst I wait for my body to catch up.

I'm still breastfeeding my 13month old DS on demand (with no plans to stop). AF returned at 7 months but has been quite irregular in the last 2 months (too frequent) so we are playing the waiting game for now.

Hi all, hope the rest of your tests come out well pear and welcome ten and pumpkin. For people who have cut back on feeding, any tips? I'm currently doing bedtime feed then 5-7amish in our bed. Not sure which is easier to reduce or how to cut back!
Pumpkin, I've never used fertility friend but lots of people seem to say that helpful!

Hi
Yes tentothesix newbies together !
Do you think I should start using an ovulation monitor ? I hadn't as they all say use after your period.
Peardrop is fertility friend an app? And from your experience it sounds like I should monitor my temp for a more accurate reading.
Got my fingers crossed for you peardrop !

Temp will confirm you have ovulated whereas OPK tell you its about to happen. When trying to conceive my daughter I def had cycles where I had a LH surge on OPK but no temp rise so suspect didn't ovulate those cycles. I conceived on a cycle where I got both!
Tried to get sticks for my old CB monitor but they don't exist anymore :( Looks like I might end up buying a new 'advanced' one or using cheapie OPKs.
Good luck to the newbies..trying to catch first egg before first period, but as I understand it you can't conceive until then. Waited 13 mths for mine but hear others wait years if breast feeding.