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First month TTC#1....anybody else new to this game?

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E11Chick · 10/07/2015 10:26

So, after 9 years together me and dh have decided to start trying. Last AF ended 29th June, I should be ovulating any day now. Very new to all this ttc malarkey so no idea what we're doing really!

I'm already making myself worry about a BFN in a couple of weeks. Didn't think I was that broody but it's all I can think about! Anybody else feeling/felt the same??

Xx

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E11Chick · 14/07/2015 22:14

Yes I think that would be pretty devastating :-( x

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custarddots · 14/07/2015 19:58

As I am new to MN and the forums, I've been reading back through a few of the posts. I didn't realise that it is not uncommon to get a BFP as a false sign, or for it to turn to a BFN a couple of days later.

I was expecting that a BFP was the done deal. How heart wrenching!!

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E11Chick · 13/07/2015 22:21

Of course! We are also newlyweds :-) I learn something new every time I come on here I think and there always seems to be lots of useful of advice or a space to have a good old rant! X

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custarddots · 13/07/2015 21:54

Ooh may I join picnic? I've made some jam sandwiches.

Newly weds on our first cycle so learning lots and hoping to find some good company for the journey.

Good luck to all. x

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E11Chick · 13/07/2015 21:27

So glad its not just me! I know it's really unlikely that it will happen the first month trying but I'll still be so disappointed if its a negative :-(

Exciting times though! We've just got to try to be relaxed about it I guess ....x

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sophied1983 · 13/07/2015 21:06

Me!!! It's hard not to let it take over once you've made the decision you want kids.

Came off mini-pill, monthly visitor arrived six weeks later, lasted five days. Now just wanting for ovulation window.

Eeeeek!

Sx

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E11Chick · 10/07/2015 17:45

Thank you....It's definitely useful to hear other people's approaches. I guess we are lucky as we both work locally, home by 5/5.30 and so can do it whenever we like as such. Good luck to you too ???? x

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smellsofelderberries · 10/07/2015 12:09

Holy typos and run on sentences!! So sorry, hope the above makes some sort of sense Confused

smellsofelderberries · 10/07/2015 12:08

Hi! I'm on cycle 4 and the way we approached things was I used OPKs The first cycle but was panicked that I might have had an LH surge but not ovulated, so temped the following two cycles to confirm O (and found a pattern between that and my OPKs) and have just gone back to OPKs for this cycle and I feel much calmed now I'm not temping and know I'm ovulating. The lots of sec advice is great, but for some of us that just died work. I'm out the house 12 hours a day in a very physical job, DH is out of the house minimum 14 hours a day...we just don't have the lives that allow for sex every other day all month. Scheduled sex sounds unromantic but we find it so much less stressful and it's still really fun Wink
Anyway, just wanted to present another approach! Good luck!

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E11Chick · 10/07/2015 11:56

Hey 5hell,

Thanks for the reply :-) that's some great advice thank you. Sorry to hear about your mc.

I will try to stay relaxed, not keen on all the charting etc as I think would make us feel pressured. Doesn't help that everybody around us seems to be announcing pregnancies!

Also I am taking vitamins....folic acid etc and we have a pretty healthy diet.

It seems easier to be honest on here especially as we haven't told anybody we are trying.....x

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5hell · 10/07/2015 11:13

hi E11 and wlecome to the crazy world of ttc :)

we've been ttc since jan (also been with dh a long time), so not new but thought i'd give you my 2p worth... i would recommend trying not to focus on it too much as it's easy to get obsessed and it can really bring some ladies down. just have fun having lots of sex, eat healthily, take your folic acid/vitamins and keep your fingers crossed.

i was pretty chilled to start off with and fell pg after 3 months, unfortunately it ended in a mc, but now i'm back to ttc i'm trying to maintain a relaxed attitude again...but i know for many it's easier said than done.

some ladies find charting/temping/opks etc etc can provide a sense of control, but tbh i'd go with just shagging to start with, especially if you have no reason to think you're cycles are odd and you're otherwise healthy

there's lots of great support threads here, so maybe find one you like to while away the time, get things off your chest and share yur happy news when it comes :)
good luck!

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